Hello, I'm new and I'm not too sure how to use this website or anything so if anyone could give me some tips I would really appreciate it. Thank you very much!
Welcome to the community!
Well, my best advice is to be active in forums. It's a good way for others to get a sense of you. But this site is to find cuddle buddies. There are enthusiasts who are just people that like to cuddle. And Pros that you can buy their time and set up a cuddle arrangement.
One thing I do have to stress, This site is 1000000% platonic
I wish you happy cuddles
Is it a million or 10 million? I don't have my glasses on
It’s kind of like okcupid for finding cuddle buddies, where the goal is not romance or sex but finding someone who wants to just cuddle, where you trust each other to respect each other’s yeses and nos and touch boundaries. You each get some of your needs for touch and comfort and (hopefully) emotional safety met. In messaging people, be a human being, not a player; be down-to-earth, kind, respectful, curious, low-pressure.
If you are a male looking for a female cuddle buddy, have low expectations about replies, and there may be only a handful of potential enthusiasts in your area, especially these days. Professional cuddlers charging (say) $70-150/hour may be an easier option. These professionals can also leave positive reviews (karma) on your profile. You will have a better time with pros who have put some thought into their profiles and explain why they are here and what they offer. Read them carefully and be respectful. Pros are often amazing people who are prepared to cuddle anyone who comes their way, and are very genuine about it, just follow the rules and don’t be creepy. Some pros are a lot like enthusiasts, just looking to share some cuddles; some look at it as a kind of therapy they offer. Some are happy to give you lots of emotional support, or even massage-like touch, some aren’t, just communicate in the session, ask questions! To book, just say hi, and the messaging before the session will be mostly about logistics (when, where, etc).
To connect with an enthusiast, do not ask if they want to cuddle and when and where off the bat, start a conversation and go from there.
Y'all are giving good answers.
@Sooson It's 100% I just have a stuttering problem
@frankparker9 ~ Perfectly put. If there were an intro message to peeps when they joined, I think your post would do quite well in orienting them.
Hi everyone. Brand new to this site as well like today new 😀 trying to navigate my way through the app and so far so good. My question is I sent a message to a cuddler that is a pro. I asked if she would be willing to meet for coffee or have a call to go over how this works. It’s someone I would like to cuddle which is why I sent a message. Is that OK to do???
@Jova114 Well, actually, there was that one Pro who got banned, and then that other guy who got banned... so it's more like 99.999753%
Meaning if she is OK with meeting or having a call, does that break any rules since she’s a pro? If we were to have a cuddle session, I understand I need to book fat through the site.
@luckystrike23 some professionals require some kind of process like that before a first booking in any case. Any good professional will be happy to walk you through what they do in a session. However, they do have to deal with a vast number of timewasters and creeps so they may be slightly wary of your request at first.
No, you are not breaking the rules by asking such a thing. Some professionals will say yes, some no, some will charge for a physical meeting (which must be booked through this site) and some won't reply at all.
You may find this thread helpful:
Thank you! Very helpful
Welcome ! 💖🤗💖
@Sadjordan20 BELLO! and welcome Feel free to reach out if you have questions or as you can see you can post them and everyone will try to help y'all
Welcome! I wish you luck on your cuddle journey.
Thanks all!!
I’m sure there are wonderful cuddlers on the site. It is cuddle comfort 😃. But as I’m looking at profiles most pros have 5 star reviews. If that’s the case, how do you differentiate? A 5 star is perfect and agin I’m sure the comfort/anxiety reduction I’m looking for will make this so worthwhile. But there have to be some 4 stars out there 🥹. Only saying nothing wrong with being a B student 👨🎓.
It turns out that 2, 3 and 4 star Karma is very rare. This is a social phenomenon and it does make it harder to find the right cuddler for you.
The thread I linked to a few posts above has specific advice on how you can differentiate between different professional cuddlers. But remember that in the end of the day it's totally personal: somebody may be a wonderful cuddler partner for one person, but no good at all for another.
Thanks. That what I thought too. because of the personal like/dislikes there would be more of a bell curve of stars. But I guess when someone can grade you back it’s tough to give them lower stars. 😀. Thanks again. Great info
It's a holdover from the corporate world where a 5 star review means adequate and anything less can get you fired.
@luckystrike23 Try to reach out to a few pros and ask questions and even have a phone call or public meeting. that way you can see which one suits you. of course they're not all the same. you'd want to find the one that works best w you.
@luckystrike23 Welcome! Regarding the Karma frustrations, you can check out this thread. My way is clearly not the popular opinion, but I feel it's honest:
https://www.cuddlecomfort.com/forum/discussion/comment/241791/#Comment_241791
~ Sunset Snuggles
@luckystrike23 I can tell you have a good grasp of the situation. Best wishes on your cuddle quest.
Great feedback and really do appreciate it!
Next topic- again being new to the site I’m curious as to why so many pictures of cleavage and butts are allowed to be posted- an area that is off limits butt (pun intended) is on full display.
I understand and joined the site for 10000% platonic cuddles and some of the pictures look like they came from an onlyfans account 🫤 I’m sure they’re my not the first nor last person to verbalize this. Feedback anyone??
People have a right to express themselves in whatever way they choose to me as long as it follows community guidelines.
If I go to the gym, it will be spandex galore - it doesn't make them onlyfans account holders. They are just women wearing workout clothes. Cuddlers need not dress up like clergymen to be platonic imo.
That's my two cents. Have a good day!
@luckystrike23 If you see something inappropriate or non-platonic, feel free to report it. I read and see non-platonic crap all the time here, and report regularly. This simply puts it on the moderators' radar, and it's up to them to decide whether to act, or not. Typically, the offending pictures or salacious verbiage will promptly be removed, though not always.
From the FAQ:
"Avoid provocative photos such as shirtless ones for men or a focus on cleavage for women. These can attract unsafe people and give the wrong message to people visiting the site."
https://www.cuddlecomfort.com/forum/discussion/4232/frequently-asked-questions/p1
@Sadjordan20 welcome! I'm also new to this website and been here about a month now. I have to say it's been positive so far. Thanks for starting this discussion as I already learned one more thing.
@frankparker9 thanks for that advice.
Hey gang. New here and following along!
I'm new here, just joined a day ago. I've gotten so many creepy messages from old men making me uncomfortable.
@SalBe Welcome! Sorry to hear that
Report and block! They'll taper off but not stop as you get older, maybe larger... don't ask how I know...
These are 30-60+ year old men. Blocked them but more are showing up. They don't even introduce themselves, just directly ask creepy/inappropriate things. Many are not even in my area with some from other states!