@Jova114 Thank you for being here! You have a fun and positive attitude, that infuriates some people. You do you, boo! Keyboard warrior: I bet you don't have the guts to out yourself here. Says oodles about your character: bully the happy people so they assimilate, i.e. become as miserable as you.
Thank you @AllAboutSoul You are one of the ones that make me feel very welcomed here! 😁
I just noticed a comment in the fruit thread complaining about "another low hanging fruit, pointless thread" or something to that effect, wondering if it's the same person... Hmmm...
@PixiePassions - He's the guy who messaged me about posting too much. I didn't want to directly call him out, but now that you mentioned it.
@Mike403 - Oop. 🙃
@TxTom if he could do that all by himself I'd be super impressed. @Jova114 I told you a long time ago what I think about your posts. I say try it. (No snake photos please) LOL.
@Mike403 @PixiePassions I will neither confirm or deny if it's the same person.
@stormydaycuddle You did and what made me feel special about it is that you went out of your way to tell me. That meant a lot!
@stormydaycuddle - What if it's a stormy snake?
(Putting photo in a spoiler. Click at your own risk. Lol)
@Jova114 I appreciate your positivity and ability to engage in a variety of topics in a respectful and thoughtful way.
Thank you @JoyfulHeart I try my best to bring nothing but positivity. I even reached out to individuals I had negative interactions with and apologized.
I just want everyone happy! 😁
It’s interesting how people wanna control others and cannot control themselves by just not reading or participating. The forums are for everybody and not anybody’s particular playground. People need to learn how to share.
@Jova114 keep bring yourself.
@Bear Thank you my friend!
Even on a site that's blooming with positivity there will be weeds
@Mike403 - Aggressive scale baby! 😍💕🐍
You seem to be a thoughtful and gentle soul. If someone doesn't like your posts, they are not forced to read them. As long as you aren't violating TOS, you be you.
@WriterGF Thank you. I'm glad my thoughtfulness shows in my posts and comments
And exactly, no one is forced to read or interact with my posts. I don't know why he made me out to be a bad guy
@Jova114 Because some people can't feel good unless they are making someone else feel bad.
@WriterGF That's true!! I guess I thought I kept those people behind in high school
You be you, @Jova114 . We haven't crossed paths, but from what I've read, you're deliberate, thoughtful, and kind.
Speaking as a former mod here. Other than TOS and forum rules about specific topics to NOT engage or initiate, it's pretty much a free-for-all for topics. Mods don't police subjects or content - until or unless posts get flagged. If folks get a message from a mod, they're pretty specific with suggestions on how-to or what-to based on the number of flags the OP's posts may receive. The site's goals are for users to engage and create opportunities to cuddle. If folks care to share their thoughts constructively, and the community is receptive and engaging, so be it. As in any other thread on any other site, including here - it boils down to pull up a chair and discuss when you're interested - and skip the topics that don't.
Back on track here, and I repeat myself: @Jova114 - you be you.
Thank you so much for that take on it @Sideon
Good to have a former mod's input.
And I am always down for a chat, whenever you want 😁
@Jova114 - in my research, I have been reading so many invalidating, triggering things because people (even so called professionals) are only filtering what they hear/read through their own level of perception, without having the context of a) your intention or b) your lived experience.
So many people use words like "cry for help" "attention seeking" "trauma dumping" "complaining" because in their world, they are the only thing that matters, and they haven't learned to hold space for people with empathy and compassion. Most people haven't really needed to. They can't imagine that anyone else experiences things differently. People assume and our brains our wired to take shortcuts and label things so we can make sense of the world. Most people don't stop to check that the way they are interpreting something is the same way you are. Our society/culture doesn't teach us how to do stuff like that and some people really just aren't capable of it.
@Concordiaesque You make some very valid points. In no way am I throwing him under the bus, hence why I never mentioned him by name, just wanted to see if I was helping/hurting the community. I wish the best for him and hope he finds happiness
@Jova114 No, you absolutely weren't, and those that get you, get that. That's all you really can do when there's a communication breakdown like that, just wish them well and move on
@Concordiaesque Exactly! All smiles over here 😁
@Jova114 Keep rocking the forum man. When I see guys like you putting it out there I am reminded of Theodore Roosevelt’s; Man in the arena.
It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.
Wow @Joe82_ That was very powerful! I'm gonna remember this quote. It definitely motivates me. Thank you so much my friend
There are a some, many in this very thread and some absent ones, who i will always read, including, you. And anyway who died and made that person the One Who Decides?
Not saying OP does this but some topics are soooo far out there it makes me wonder what the point is. But to each his/her own I guess.
Well thank you @carrieanne
@robroo I understand the sentiment of 'why post that?' But also, if it's not against TOS or offensive, what's the harm? Don't like the topic, don't be apart of the comments and stuff. But no need to message someone, rudely criticize, then block them.
Who said it? I swear I'll be nice to them
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@JaneDough_ 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Easy my friend, easy lol