Double cuddle = perverted?

[Deleted User]Alternis (deleted user)
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So before I joined this site It was my understanding that cuddling can't really be platonic or at least enjoyed without it being platonic. In the time I've been on the site I've learned that isn't true, platonic cuddling happens here all the time and it's absolutely enjoyable.

Now even though I've cuddled a bunch of people I've yet to have cuddled two people at the same time. I had a double cuddle session in the works but im getting some flak over it, that theres no reason to do it when you can just see one person instead or that nobody does a double without ulterior motives.

What are this forums thoughts over doubles, has any client or pro done it where all people involved are comfortable?

Comments

  • SideonSideon

    I think it's a vast assumption that double cuddles are in any way "perverted." The line in the sand is platonic, so whether there are 2 or 3 involved, it doesn't change the intention or boundaries.

  • quietman775quietman775
    edited February 2018

    There's at least one whole thread on the topic in the professional cuddling forum.
    https://www.cuddlecomfort.com/forum/discussion/2671/double-cuddle#latest

    From whom are you getting flak? People here on this forum, or your real world friends? Either way, pay no attention to generalizations like "nobody does a double without ulterior motives." Anybody deluded enough to believe he/she knows the mind and motives of everybody else on the planet is not someone with whom you can have a productive conversation.

    Another point: I have never gone to a cuddle party (not my thing), but many who have love them, and feel safer at them than at a one-on-one session. People "puppy pile" into all sorts of numerical combinations at cuddle parties, and people don't generally assume there is anything perverted about it.

    Fact is, there are always going to be those who think everything is about sex. Folks who think that way will hear of a double cuddle and think menage a trois. Not much you can do about their thought process.

    I've never done a double, though I've been invited a couple of times. I suspect that I would get greater enjoyment out of focusing on/connecting with one person. But I have no objections on principle.

  • [Deleted User]Alternis (deleted user)

    Forgot about that thread, mods can delete or merge this one.

  • MorpheusMorpheus

    Double is not perverted

  • JasonCuddlesJasonCuddles

    wut? Why would it be?

  • ScarletteScarlette

    No idea how a double cuddle would be considered perverted. It's just one more person to share the cuddles.

  • MorpheusMorpheus

    Who remembers that song called, Double Dutch Bus?

  • SideonSideon

    @Morpheus Now, if I ever do a double cuddle, I'm going to be hearing that song in my head. ;)

  • MorpheusMorpheus

    Haha nice :-)

  • Cuddle_BunCuddle_Bun

    Personally I think it would be fun like a slumber party. The only people that thinks it's perverse is people with a dirty mind it's platonic sooooooooo what difference does it make ?

  • BlueIrisBlueIris Mod

    They are fun!!

  • igotthisfarigotthisfar

    I've cuddled with probably up to fifteen people before and had it been totally platonic. I've double cuddled with people too and plenty of numbers in between. Have people suggested threesomes? Yeah but I'm not into it and we've continued on our merry way cuddling and laughing and watching movies. The people involved are the ones who get to decide how far it goes, not the ones giving you flak about it. Just make sure you're all on the same page and respect each other's boundaries.

  • UKGuyUKGuy

    I'm all for it and any two women who want to try it can contact me!
    The only problem I foresee is that now you have three people to agree on what music to listen to or movie to watch.

  • BlueIrisBlueIris Mod

    LOL! I have yet to do a cuddle sandwich or cuddle pile where anyone was interested in watching a movie. :)

  • LoreleiLorelei

    Typically in society, anything people can connect back to sex, they will. They think it’s perverted because they’re thinking about threesomes and that’s their own fault, not yours, so don’t worry about the fact that their minds are too stuck in gutters to pry them open.

  • respectfulrespectful

    @Lorelei Very true.

    From Tiffaknee89's interview:

    You've done some "double cuddles" with @Phoebe, which sound like fun! How have they been?

    They have been fun! Usually there is a lot of giggling during a double cuddle but we have learned when to quiet down (Phoebe and I) and really tune into the cuddle experience. Phoebe is a good balance for me because she is a more calm cuddler haha.

    Normally the cuddlee is in the middle of us while one either naturally cuddles and I massage, or we have a spoon train sometimes. There are also times where Phoebe and I cuddle more and the cuddlee is only cuddling with one of us.

    This is hard to explain because we are fairly new to providing this service and can vary so much. But Phoebe and I are great friends and also roommates now and love doing double cuddles!

  • pmvinespmvines

    Personally I couldn't make a double or group cuddle sexual if I tried, I'm more a one on one kind of fella

  • BlueIrisBlueIris Mod

    @pmvines - How about instead of me and someone else cuddling you simultaneously, I just cuddle you twice?

  • pmvinespmvines

    @BlueIris Twice at the same time? That's some Matrix stuff right there

  • [Deleted User]john_cpe (deleted user)
    edited April 2018

    Consenting adults with their intentions known? Who cares. Anyone that has something negative to say when those conditions are met is projecting, jealous, or brainwashed. Do you, ignore the rest.

    Comment modified to tone down the language used in the post. [reurbo]

  • TangibleTonyTangibleTony

    A cuddle puddle sounds really fun. It doesnt sound pervy, it sounds like a lot of body heat lol.

    TT

  • [Deleted User]MoonlightSonata (deleted user)

    This is what I might call 'chain cuddling'. Nothing wrong with it. I've cuddled in a group of five before (we were all close cuddle friends). It can be therapeutic and also fun. :)

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