I traveled last week, after I went home my personal Facebook profile showed up on a cuddle clients friend recommendation list on Facebook. I used a text app for all communication and received cash for the cuddle. How is this possible?
I swear there are days when I just think about something in my head and something about it shows up in recommendations.
I realized I used Venmo for one of their sessions so it was likely Venmo sharing my info- not cool
That's very creepy. I would more suspect the text app, if you have associated it with your same e-mail or something. Eek, very unnerving.
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Because meta has access to you contacts and all of your data. I have clients suggested to me on facebook all the time
Not sure is this is true (popped up on a search) if you have locations turned on... if you and someone else are in the same place for a period of time, the algorithm might guess that you have a relationship and suggest them as a friend. However, Facebook has denied that location data is a factor in friend suggestions.
I know that FB recommends people to me if I have their phone number in my phone.
I’ve had it happen quite a few times also. Clients have shown up as friends suggestions. One thing, be sure you don’t use any of the same photos you have here on any other social media. People will be doing image searches. Also, I’m sure you don’t do this - but no same or similar names.
You have to check the permissions of your facebook app and make sure it does not have permission to see your contacts
Location services need to be off for all Meta apps, like FB, Messenger, Instagram, WhatsApp, Threads, etc. Don't even look at them while you're near a client! (I keep mine turned off for all apps.) As you found out, FB gathers info from outside sources also. (Which they don't exactly disclose, but it's allowed in their fine print.) This social profile is actually quite scary with how much of you is able to be tied together. Along with your photos and email addresses. And all the data breaches help more and more.
.I just received a friend recommendation for a pro cuddler that I met on here. No I wasn't stalking any of her accounts. It seems creepy to me how Facebook knows who I interacted with on other sites.
The "private self" vanished about 10-15 years ago. You leave a digital trail everywhere.
F FB! I deleted their apps a LONG time ago for this very reason! I go their website.
Tangential to that, now if I can only get google to stop asking me to sign in EVERY SINGLE TIME I do a frigging web search that’d be great.
Use duckduckgo for searches. Or other similar non tracking search engines. Or is that a good option? Asking sincerely.
If all you’re doing is cuddling, why should it be an issue? It doesn’t bother me where I pop up at bc I have NOTHING to be ashamed about. Your smart phone tracks everything..either lock your info down or don’t be sociable.
@Skittlebaggz Because not everyone, pro or enthusiast, wants their full name given to a stranger. It's a safety issue. Stalking happens here.
I found @Skittlebaggz comment to be so inappropriate. Im an appropriate cuddler I follow ALL the rules. As an active user on this site I’m well aware of the DANGERS and STALKING that could potentially come from this site. If you’re not aware I’d suggest you wisen up. It’s unsafe to merge personal lives with this platform.
I learned about this myself recently as I hadn't even been using the FB app but apparently it will scrape your phone for data anyway. Further, some phones will force install the app again if you uninstall it 😞 Best thing I can suggest is learn how to lock down your social profiles, and uninstall the social app and make sure to clear all associated app files so that if it reinstalls it won't be logged in or have permissions.
Privacy largely is an illusion online these days, even as far as keeping full name hidden - most people with basic Internet search skills (or a few bucks to spend on a site) can find your full name, address, phone number, and other info from public records from very little given personal info. I once had a stalker find my home address even though I used a pseudonym on the website he found me on simply by me mentioning my interests and having my hometown listed. It can seem really scary, but the more you educate yourself on the tools available and what tactics scammers and creeps use, the more prepared you are and less of a target you become.
@cuddlefaery For real; I had a guy figure out my town once simply because he knew we lived in the same state, and I mentioned I might go to a festival that weekend. It was scary, because he knew my first name, and that I worked for Starbucks. There were only two in town at the time, and I was the only employee with my name...all he needed to do to find me was make two phone calls and ask for my name. 😬
I was very young at the time, and that instantly taught me to be much more careful and vague about what I told people...especially anyone who won't accept a vague answer! Thankfully, nothing ever came of that situation, but it taught me a very valuable lesson.
@cuddlefaery That's why I shake my head at clients who don't want to show ID. With the websites they have now, it takes very, very little info for someone to find a lot more, if they are so inclined.
I've seen a cuddler pop up in my recommendations lately that I last saw about 3-4 months ago. Not sure why she's just showing up now -- doesn't seem like she's new to social media or anything.
Just think how anyone can store anything about you in their phone contacts, and then that person shares their contacts with Facebook.
@CharlieBear and that is why it's good to have a second number like Google voice that isn't tied to your social media accounts.
Google voice is tied to a Google email account, which many people use on their social media accounts as a primary or backup. Most people rarely log out of an email on any device, so it's still there and open/live. The apps feed info between each other, regardless if we like it or not.
@happyhour That's why I've maintained like seven e-mail accounts, since I was a teenager. 😁 Before they started verifying everything with phone numbers.
@SunsetSnuggles I have a bunch of email addresses too. lol
I do not use any Meta apps (FB, IG, Threads, or WhatsApp). However, there are other ways people can be “connected” via their devices.
Most people do not realize this but if you have apps on your phone that push ads to you, or you are browsing the Internet, there are mobile ads that know your location to within a few feet. They can literally tell which side of the bed you sleep on based on which night stand you leave your phone on overnight (and whose phone, if any, is on the opposite nightstand).
This data is used by advertisers to send you geofenced ads (I.e. if your personal dossier maintained by data brokers says you frequently use your credit cards at Mexican Restaurants, then you might get an ad for a nearby Mexican restaurant show up on your web browser when you are traveling in a different city or state).
While the advertisers don’t care about who you are or what you are doing, they will sell this data about you to anyone willing to pay for it.
3 years ago this week a Catholic priest was caught using the Grindr app because someone obtained his mobile ad data. Grindr was not sharing his data, but the ads Grindr was allowing to show in the app were collecting his location and that is what got him caught.
https://www.nytimes.com/2021/08/20/nyregion/pillar-grindr-catholic-church.html
Just last month, a political organization purchased a years worth of mobile ad location data for Thomas Matthew Crooks (the attempted assassin). The organization bought all the data around Crooks’ home and work location then looked at all electronic devices (phones, tablets, smart watches) that had been to both his home and his work location. They found 9 devices had been to both locations over the past year and then they followed where else those 9 devices had gone - all based on mobile ad data.
I say this in all seriousness. If you do not want your location permanently recorded by data brokers and potentially sold to anyone (jealous ex, stalkers, potential employers, etc.) you need to turn your devices off and put them in a high quality Faraday Bag (Mission Darkness is the brand I personally use if I don’t want my location tracked).
@ReneLove , I would double check if you have Continuous Contacts enabled on your Facebook app settings. Your contact list may be syncing to Facebook without your awareness. It doesn't matter if you use a texting app number.
Here are directions: https://www.facebook.com/help/355489824655936
@Kuneho Had no idea. Thank you for the link.