I'm brand new here and I don't want to come across as a creep or anything, so I'm just wondering if I should be conscious about contacting anyone who has an age gap.
Any advice?
Just make sure you are in their preferred age group if they have one. Some have one and some don’t and some say everyone. Otherwise I have not thought of anything else.
I am 20 years older than you. My best cuddles have been guys 23 to 35 who shockingly reach out to me. Age has nothing to do with human touch unless you are thinking in terms of dating. This is not a dating site. Cuddling is about being comfortable in another person's presence and enjoying conversation, music, connection.
As long as you are approaching cuddling in the right way, it's a non-issue.
@mpanada As @Bear pointed out, there is a Preferred Age question that people can fill out, at the bottom of their profile in the Facts section.
In general, honor the age ranges people publicize. If you contact those who aren't interested in your age, explain that you read their preference, and why you thought it productive to contact them, anyway.
Regardless of age, know that it takes a lot of time and patience to get responses or cuddles here, without forking out cash to a Pro. We female enthusiasts are not the most common crayon on the tree. 🤭
Just be respectful with everyone you contact, as you were in this thread, and hopefully you'll have some wonderful experiences. 😊
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Thank you all very much for taking time and making an effort in your responses. It is greatly appreciated. 🙂
I am definitely one who reads absolutely everything in a profile. It just happened that I looked at a bunch of profiles that did not have any preferred age present.
So…that problem solved.
Now we’ll see if I can find someone to cuddle with. It may take a while. If I don’t see any crayon, I’ll look for a gold leaf 🤭
I'd say the same way you'd approach any adult. Be mindful of what they are looking for, if you're clearly out of their preferred range just don't approach a cuddle. But simply greetings and welcomes maybe they will consider you after speaking maybe not.
@mpanada posted: "If I don’t see any crayon, I’ll look for a gold leaf 🤭"
😄 Sounds like a plan! There are some lovely golden leaves out there!! ✨️
I believe there is a bit of double standard with that question however. In my experience on this site the age of the woman matters not so much the man when it comes to platonic cuddling
I'd agree. As an older guy here I've had very few that even respond to my messages. I get it, creepy old dude. I'll find a match eventually. 🙂
@gentledad Female enthusiasts rarely respond to anyone's messages, their mailboxes are already stuffed to bursting.
@gentledad It could also have something to with contacting 18 year olds and asking them how they feel about cuddling a sexy older man for platonic fun ...
@pmvines That too
True
New to this site and it's certainly an interesting and unique concept. I get the feeling a lot of users jump on here, lurk, set broad interests in terms of who they'll cuddle so as not to offend anyone, then never pull the trigger. I suspect most of the actual activity involves a pro as they're committed to following through. IMHO
Enthusiasts can be as picky as they want to be. And, yes, I'm sure there are some who sign up out of curiosity and decide it's not for them, or get turned off by inappropriate messages, or even find a good partner in the first couple weeks and don't need anyone else. Fact is, the demand for female enthusiast cuddles far outstrips the supply.
If you're seeking a woman considerably younger than you, that's your choice. But you have to accept that they may not be seeking a guy much older than they are. And that's their choice.
There was a thread a while back where an older guy got treated like a creepy predator because the preferred age range on his profile had 18 on the low end.
Reach out and ask. Everyone has an age limit and best to say hey - enjoyed your profile. Open to a session someone older (or younger)? Some will have age range on their profiles and remember cuddling is an up close person experience. Don’t be offended if someone says no or not part of what they are offering etc. Just kove on - there are lots of options for cuddlers and people come and go all the time on the site.
Nope, as long as everyone is over 18. Minors are not allowed on this site.
If you’re seeing pros, they are required to see clients of all ages.
Make sure it is strictly platonic (you’d think that would go without saying, but no… It needs to be said…a lot, unfortunately). Also if you are concerned and they are new, just know they get flooded with messages from older men that are supposedly offering help, when their real intentions are anything but. Also, anyone that is looking to reach out to young pros for the wrong reasons, hit me up first! It will make banning you quick and easy for me!
All of my interactions with younger men on this site was initiated by them. As I am a woman who is older I am mindful of how my initiating contact could be perceived so I wait to be approached. I have age preferences listed, however, it's rarely noticed and I will respond to most messages if someone takes the time to make contact.
As long as you’re within their age preferences or none listed I don’t see an issue. I’ve cuddled with someone twice my age. No issues. It’s just cuddling.
What if it’s a creepy 18 year-old?
@TheFunCartel 😂
@gentledad You may also be finding it challenging because some women do not want to cuddle with a married man.
I refer to the following feature. Just plug in your age and hers and get the results.
www.cuddlecomfort.com/creep_calculator
People can post age range preferences on their profile.
@TheFunCartel Ha! If that is the case, one should be even more cautious.
@WriterGF also probably a big factor
I'm 52. Most everyone I've cuddled with has been around half my age, just for the fact that most pro cuddlers are that age. No one has ever hinted that it's an issue at all. It's only weird if you make it weird.