So it’s no secret that professional cuddlers will get solicited for sexual acts. People who will solicit you for sexual acts, love to say things along the lines of “At the end of the day, we are just two adults”
So much of the Internet is devoted to sex and finding people to have sex with. This website is Pretty much the only sanctuary to find non-sexual interactions. It feels extremely predatory to come on here And put unsuspecting people in that position, It compromises the entire culture of this site.
We cannot cultivate platonic intimacy if we are constantly watching our back, trying to ensure we will not be assaulted. If I cannot trust a client to behave in a platonic way, there is no foundation of trust for me to build intimacy.
I was in talk to the potential customer and it was going really really well. We were riffing, we were sharing personal stories. Then he goes on to say that he sometimes becomes aroused during a cuddle session and while he doesn’t want sex, he gets “annoyed and disappointed” when it doesn’t happen.
The whole mood changes.
He then proposes that I give him 👋 after cuddling.
Gross.
Obviously, I’m not going with that.
But then he goes on this absolute diatribe About how he’s not looking for sex and he’s not like those other people and he doesn’t want to put anything in anyone. Somehow He sees himself as the hero for Soliciting a lesser sexual act. He even had the gall to act like I was the one being unreasonable.
Round of applause. True bravery.
I’m so tired of this.
I am lucky enough to have a lot of regulars who understand the importance of platonic intimacy, but it really disappoints me that people come to this site and corrupt the culture.
Thank you for letting me vent.