New and nervous

[Deleted User]synger (deleted user)
edited June 2018 in General

I’ve been here for about a year & yearning for physical human contact.
I love spending low key time with someone who doesn’t pressure me I’d have any high expectations.
I enjoy witty sarcasm & chilling out. I just don’t want to be put in a dangerous situation. Any tips or suggestions?

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  • ubergigglefritzubergigglefritz

    PMing you =)

  • quietman775quietman775

    @synger Welcome to CC!

    This is a pretty decent place and you can meet some nice folks here. I've found both cuddle partners and pen pals. Like anyplace online, it's a diverse crowd. Mostly good guys, but not all. My suggestions:

    1. Take your time to explore the site and get the lay of the land.
    2. Read the forums, especially the "stickied" resources. Start here: https://www.cuddlecomfort.com/forum/discussion/2711/cuddling-discussions-and-resources in the General Forum section. Lot of good information in there.
    3. participate in the forums (like you just did!) and become known.

    Good luck and happy cuddling!

  • CuddleStellaCuddleStella

    Welcome!!

  • [Deleted User]synger (deleted user)

    @quietman775 thank you very much. I really appreciate you taking the time to reply

  • pmvinespmvines

    @synger We do have a fair share of creeps just like any other random internet site, however most of us fairly decent. Trust your gut, always get to know the person first before just going out to meet with them. If possible, meet in a public setting first. Some people have a check in person, who knows where they are and who they are with. Going on the forums is a good things too because it gives an idea of what the person is like, although only a small percentage of members are actually on here but it is still a good place to start. And never feel obligated to another person or allow them to pressure you into anything that you aren't comfy with. Good luck to you!

  • [Deleted User]ivlegend (deleted user)

    Welcome:)

  • TonycTonyc

    @Synger. I would suggest a public meet n greet to get a feel for the person, their body language, etc. Your first instincts will always be right.

  • AndiCuddlesAndiCuddles

    Hi @synger! It’s totally normal to be nervous. I think everyone else here has great advice. Good luck! <3

  • SnugglewithSamSnugglewithSam

    @synger welcome :) so happy to see you posting about this. Most people I see the first time are nervous too. Do your diligence with figuring out who you'd be comfortable seeing, and if meeting in person first with no cuddling at all in public would be your best to get comfortable I highly suggest that. Videochats and calls help a lot too.

    Thank you for being vulnerable and voicing your concern <3

  • UKGuyUKGuy
    edited June 2018

    @synger - your profile says 'straight - cuddles with men', but have you considered cuddling a woman? If you are concerned about danger (and these days all men seem to be considered potentially dangerous), maybe you would be more at ease with another woman. Just a suggestion, and I understand if it's not something you would consider.

  • ignisignis

    @UKGuy who could resist the temptation of becoming actual cuddle buddies then? Safety? Check. Comfort? Check. What else you need?

  • [Deleted User]galowglass (deleted user)

    @synger Spectators can't put themselves exactly in-your-shoes, but the best advise is to trust your instinct if it is telling you something's wrong. You can only control so much, and in the end there's risk. You have control over what you post in your profile, in who you contact, where you meet. Aside from those safeties, as people have said, get to know someone as-well-as-is-possible, online. Then maybe use the phone or a skype-type session. There's no rush.

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