@pmvines and @WriterGF of course, and I didn't mean to minimize. I didn't see the specific actions reported above. I'll redact my comment.
No worries I wasn't trying to give you a hard time
@Mr_Cuddle_Bear
My worst experience was when the person I was with went into diabetic shock, almost died and I had to call 911.
This is why I ask those I cuddle if there is any medical issues and/or allergies that I should be aware of that may affect our cuddle. I'm glad you were able to call 911 to get them help. 🫂
I just want to say that I believe it is not the responsibility of the professional cuddler to refrain or have to scrutinize themselves from using language that would be interpreted by people not seeking sexual services as emotionally welcoming, nonjudgemental, open minded and safe in order to prevent assumptions from those who clearly don't care about the distinction between platonic and sexual touch and want more than platonic cuddling from a session. The onus and responsibility for the behavior happening is on the person who gropes or touches someone else's genitals.
The terms of services on the website are clear and anyone can interpret certain types of vague language to mean something sexual if they choose to ignore or disregard boundaries. When I see comments like that, I feel sad and angry that (mostly) women who are offering loving touch and want to be an open caring space are made to question themselves about presenting themselves exactly right just so they don't get assaulted. Feels like victim blaming to me and is inappropriate.
Be careful, vet them as much as you can and do not go by their friends or karma. I was borderline assaulted by two different ones and most cannot keep their hands in the appropriate places.
@starrynitecuds
@WriterGF Great point. Sexual assault shouldn't be minimized as "boundary pushing." "Boundary pushing" softens the impact and seriousness of an actual criminal act or behavior. Sexual assault shouldn't be trivialized.
Now this whole language conversation made me wonder: what does VIP Cuddle actually mean?
Very Interested Person Voice Inner Person Vocal Incredible Possible Vendor Is Popular
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So far, my worse cuddle time was with someone with very bad breath!😵💫😖
Listerine is your friend!👍
Unfortunately Listerine does not fix some smells. Tooth decay is a champ against such measures. Especially if it is in the late stages.
VIP cuddle sounds like OnlyFans lingo, which may indicate it involves more than cuddling.
I arrived at the Cuddler's place on time. She then took a shower, still kinda smelled, and ended the session a couple minutes early.
Unfortunately Listerine does not fix some smells.
It fixes smells for cuddlers who doesn't have decaying teeth, like myself.😁
If one has a decaying teeth problem then cuddling is the least of one's worries.😏😔
Tooth decay is a champ against such measures.
Very true, hence the importance of properly caring for one's teeth to avoid such issues as tooth decay.🪥😁
My worst experience was my first experience! We were spooning and he pre- ejaculated on me. The worst part was that he locked his arms around me so that I couldn't get away. It was horrifying because it went right through my leggings! I was disgusted and terrified at the same time and made he reimburse me for the trauma
@Alwayzblessed31 Please report this person.
We were spooning and he pre- ejaculated on me. The worst part was that he locked his arms around me so that I couldn't get away.
😦🤢😠😞😵💫
@Alwayzblessed31 My apologies of you suffering through that horrible ordeal.😞 Definitely agree with @Charlie Bear, report the scumbag!😠👍
@Alwayzblessed31 I'm sorry you were sexually assaulted by a customer here. Hopefully, you reported him in 2019 or he got banned from another report, so he didn't victimize anyone else. ((Hugs))
As long as you are very honest, upfront, and clear in your bio that it is strictly platonic, you shouldn’t have an issue. I have had some amazing experiences while keeping everything very professional. For example, if you are spooning, place a pillow in between to maintain professionalism.
Here are some tips:
Make sure to thoroughly vet your clients and trust your gut. Don’t be swayed by someone’s good karma, as another commenter mentioned.
This all seems like common sense.. Instead of only telling them your own rules, ask them questions! I started getting them to admit what they really hoped for - during screening and from the questions I asked. It helped them also and showed I wanted to hear them. But also made them admit what they really wanted. (Reported if against TOS) I also changed my photos and words I used in my profile to present myself as someone who is respectful, honest, to be taken seriously. Got rid of any subliminal triggers that attract the wrong ideas from men. Things that women wouldn’t even realize. Experience teaches a lot. These are all powerful actions that I can use for controlling a session. A few here don’t like to hear it but in pretty much everything we do in life - control your own behavior in an effort to get the results you want. Because you can’t control others!! …,Or don’t do it and then come back to the forum to complain. “You get what you give”