As a small guy that likes to be held I prefer a taller woman. Why is there not filter for height when searching and instead you have to click on every profile?
Because it's not an Amazon purchase or a Build a Bear
@SeattleEngineer have you had any sessions after a year and a half in your search? You may have to try out the profiles you come across and make travel arrangements if you can’t find your preference in your area. Best!
Because most of the site's small resouces are directed towards stability and reliability. They very rarely if ever tweak something that's mere convenience. In my first three years on here CC was up more that Google, and that's an astonishing achievement.
On a more personal level, don't let the height thing stop you from finding a nice cuddler. It's only one factor amongst many.
I love being the big spoon, holding guys from behind, etc. It definitely feels very maternal, even though I'm not a mother and don't want kids.
I don't think size matters in this scenario, personally. I've held 6' men and men my exact height (5'4"). It's the vibe and the trust, not the height, from the experiences I've shared. Because unless you're standing...height really does not factor in.
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Because everyone is the same height when they are laying down.
@SeattleEngineer I feel just as frustrated when it comes to the smoking field, the stench from cigarettes and/or pot nauseates me. I don't want to contact people who are going to argue that they "don't stink." Suuuuuuure... It does seem ridiculous that many of the standardized fields we fill in aren't searchable criteria. Personal preference is ok for age, gender, orientation and price limit, but somehow a height preference is offensive. (Fun fact: everyone who's tried to deem height as unimportant so far has that field filled in on their profile.) Here is a link to the Suggestion and Site Improvement thread where you can make that request known to admin: https://www.cuddlecomfort.com/forum/discussion/1440/suggestions-and-ways-this-website-can-be-improved
Ugh. The smoking thing. 100%.
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If only I COULD build my own cuddler. Lol 😆👍
@Katota Lemme guess. They would resemble a werewolf ?
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I wish there was a proper height filter so I can find more manlets to cuddle up with; They’re certainly tiny but their hugs pack a mighty punch. 🥰
I like short women, tall women, and everything in between.
@SunsetSnuggles
I didn't notice before, because I wasn't paying attention to that: you're my exact height!
It felt absolutely amazing when you held me from behind!
"Manlets".... Is that what we call Body shaming...lol
@starrynitecuds posted: "everyone who's tried to deem height as unimportant so far has that field filled in on their profile."
The other person's height doesn't matter to me. My best friend as a teenager was 6'4", and my shortest cuddler was an adult man the height of my hip.
I have my height filled in because it never occurred to me to hide it... I don't mind being open about any of the questions the site publicly asks, except Religion and Job, which I happily discuss in PM.
The other person's age, gender, and ethnicity doesn't matter to me, either, but I list what mine are. 🤷🏻♀️
@SunriseSnuggles That's so sweet! I didn't realize you were my height. I loved how you just melted back into me...felt like a sleepy puppy in my arms. 😌
@SeattleEngineer i believe that would be a good harmless suggestion. It might help a group of people. I don't know the answer but apparently you've probably already received the answer along with some advice , whether you asked for it or not.
I've enjoyed hugging people shorter than me so they can rest their head against my chest, taller than me so I can rest my head against their chest, and the same height so both of our heads are over the other person's. It's the arms around each other that's important.
And once you're lying down, height makes a lot less difference. Someone being shorter in no way prevents them from being the big spoon.
I'm glad you enjoyed it too, and I wasn't the only one that enjoyed it!
Sometimes when I just melt back into my cuddle buddy, in particularly cozy position like baby bear, I feel like I'm taking more than I'm giving.
Physical traits don’t matter to me. But I know that people have particular preferences, so I have mine filled in. I find that a number of people don’t know their accurate height, anyway. Had some clients who listed they were my height, and they were actually shorter than me. Wasn’t a big deal for me, but it’s been an interesting detail I noticed over time.
Agree that smoking and cologne/perfume is a much bigger deal to me when I am going to be spooning with someone. There are always large neon flashing signs about scents in all my profiles (my website, Cuddlist, CC) about wearing none and they still do. It's frustrating. We are all the same height lying down! I love that old chestnut.
@CuddlesComfort8 It seems that, due to our society's judgmental attitude toward men's height, many men lie about how tall they are. This includes the tall ones going even taller, but mostly it's the shorter guys.
I have a lot to say on this topic, but maybe I'll start a separate thread. For now I'll just say...
Guys...own your height, and anyone who makes you feel less-than for something you were born with is not worth a second of your time.
@SunriseSnuggles I understand certain nurturing positions can feel like they are "taking", or one-sided, but it is a joy and a privilege to nurture.
I believe cuddling should be a give and take, a freeflow exchange of caregiving and nurturing. I was delighted with our experience, and when I am in need of being held, as I very often am, I'm positive you will enthusiastically do the same for me. 😊
I'm a tiny 5'0", but I've successfully been the big spoon for tall guys before.
Thank you! I appreciate your comments on society's attitude toward men's height.
I will say that in the past, I struggled more to tap into my nurturing side and was in chronic need of nurturance. However, in recent years, I'm finding a lot more joy in providing nurturance as much as receiving nurturance.
Recently, I experienced an amazing, five-hour session where my partner spent a couple of hours holding me from behind and scratching my back, and I spent a couple of hours holding her from behind and scratching her back.
Yes, I would absolutely hold you with enthusiasm and glee!
By the way, I have a new cuddle position which I just recently took a liking to. I don't know if this one has a name. But it's a modified version of mama bear/baby bear. The difference is, if I'm the "baby bear," I lie flat on my back and lay my head in my partner's lap over a pillow, instead of on her chest or shoulder, while she strokes my head and gently massages my face. And if you want to lay your head in my lap, I'd gladly do the same for you.
Does anyone know of a name for this position?
@PixiePassions I think that's more of a backpack situation lol
When I was a pro I used to state my hight both with and without heels. Just basic courtesy.
@Sooson Please tell us more stories about when you were a Pro.
Reported, reviewed, removed. Thou shalt not bait in the forums, @Cacao . I highly doubt you'll be around here long. [-Sid]
@Cacao There is no height filter; your expectations for a witty response should have been high 🤪
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