Recently I was contacted by a man who was bluntly stating he wanted sex. I told him that this site is not for such services. He confidently assured me that recently he has personally seen 5 pros that were offering strait sex but a couple have been recently banned. Another client who I believe has 5-7 Karma stated that he has had 2 (at least) who have pushed blow jobs on him and more. Non of his Karma givers are banned/-:. Another guy regularly had sessions with a woman who recently moved but still active who cuddled nude, serviced him and masturbated regularly with him. Non of his Karma givers are banned as well. All the guys have been respectful with me and have not pushed for more but they have also not reported any of those “pros” or refused services. It’s ramped on here it seems/-:. I really do wish that this platform would require photos to be posted, profiles filled out and some safety measure put in place for clients for approval of this site and to legitimize it. For the huge percentage this site receives per cuddle appointment they could easily sure up approval borders and qualifications saving them so much time and effort. This site almost invites predictors by having such loose requirements for entry.
I hear you and I am on your side you are preaching to the choir. There is a huge issue with predatory people posing as just wanting cuddles and then pressing for more. And not to take away from that but there is also an issue that you bring up and that is with the pros offering more than cuddles. If it wasn't circulated that this is happening then there would likely be less men on here expecting that from pros like yourself who don't, and if would make things overall more safe for the pros who are just here to offer cuddles services. Be mad at the creepy weirdo dudes for sure, but also be mad at the women selling sex. They know what they are doing and are also at fault for the environment on the site.
@theCuddleDrgn @CuddleBoost Unfortunately, this site has earned its reputation as a sex worker site, not just from Pros, but enthusiasts and clients, too. FYI, other sites are banning pros who have profiles here, because dating for money isn't allowed per their TOS.
A sex trafficking task force agent I know was interested in the lack of ID and age verification by this site. I showed him how the site doesn't monitor profile wording or photos, that we members are expected to report each other. But it rarely results in a ban. Being PROACTIVE, not just REACTIVE, matters for credibility.
Early yesterday morning, I reported 11 new ENTHUSIAST accounts which were the same woman, just different poses and locations. They were all banned within a few hours, It was pretty clear she was a "sugar baby," who are sex workers (but deny it.)
I got a guy with double-digit 5-star karma banned a few months ago who quickly and shamelessly told me (while communicating only on this site) how his sessions with pros here often got heated. Then he complained about how expensive pros were. Guess he thought I would be a FWB. 🤢🤮
No pros were banned, although a quick Google search brought up several who gave him karma were "favorably" reviewed on a sex site by different senior members (sometimes in multiple locations.)
(I can say with 💯certainty that it's far easier to get a female enthusiast banned here for non platonic than a pro. I know because I report enthusiasts ALL THE TIME for things like amazon wishlists, GFE, etc. The enthusiast will usually be banned, but the Pro will just have it removed from their profile and as I was told by a mod, not always warned.)
@starrynitecuds - this site actively roots out pros and non pros who violate the site's TOS. Mods have banned hundreds of bad actors through the years, pros and non pros. CC is not a sex site, it's not a dating app, it's not a hookup free-for-all. If you have PROOF of anyone violating the TOS, then report them. Your sweeping generalization does nothing but feed an already fraught rumorville of innuendo and gossip.
Karma protects no one, pro or non pro. If and when someone is reported, mods take action. The mods volunteer our time to keep the site safe. We don't get kick backs, we don't get favors. We do this because we believe in this site being a nexus for enthusiasts. CC is not a sex site. Do your part to ensure it stays that way, one report at a time.
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@Sideon But, but… I want it perfect. And right now! And I don’t want to work for it, or be patient! Also, it should have been better from the very start!
Does that about cover it?
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Be mad at the creepy weirdo dudes for sure, but also be mad at the women selling sex. They know what they are doing and are also at fault for the environment on the site.
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Forest Gump said it best. Nowadays cuddlin' is like a carton of eggs, WTF!! Maybe its just time to stick with who you know and let the rest eventually fizzle out. Quality over quantity.
The site is inundated with pros who offer extras and prostitutes. If you don’t think this is true, you’re delusional. Men are constantly blamed but it’s a two way street.
Reported, reviewed, and left intact - @Morpheus . As a long-time member of CC, you're undoubtedly aware of CC's origins and the progression to include Pros. No this site is not a brothel or "inundated" site of extra offerings and prostitutes. You're entitled to your opinion, but not entitled to redefining reality. Take great care of your future posts in the general forums. [-Sid]
You're reporting them, right, @Morpheus ?
Previously banned member. [-Sid]
The vast majority of people on CC are here to connect platonically. Some days it's like whack-a-mole, slamming down the ban hammer on predators with multiple accounts, and other days it's a slam dunk timeout on a pro that exchanged contact info before there was a booking. Folks with questionable pics get reported. Folks with dick pics and nude gets banned. Pros that rip off enthusiasts gets banned. Pros with OF and offsite adult links or content are banned. Pros who get reported and proven to be escorts are banned. That's the kicker: mods demand proof and we do investigate flags and reported profiles.
I'm not sure of your point, other than painting CC as a glorified brothel. It's not. You're entitled to your opinion, @starrynitecuds , but you're not entitled to disrupt the forums with unfounded accusations. Thanks.
honestly I think the world would be a much better place if there was less stigma around intimacy work, both platonic and not. not only would it help with better separating platonic and non-platonic work, I feel like it would be nice to be like an in-house cuddler for a stressful company or something. it would be a more predictable and safer way to provide much needed cuddling!!
@Sideon im not sure what you are saying is correct. I don't believe the vast majority of pros are here not selling sex. @starrynitecuds is pointing out what is obvious. It's not conjecture that long term pros with karma and long term enthusiasts with karma are engaging in pay for play. Even people who claim to not participate in it in the forums are doing it. I obviously would never have first hand experience with a guy, but i do hear how many book and expect certain activities because that's what they get all the time.people report but we aren't the SW police, something needs to change in the environment that fosters this behavior. Or we just have to be honest and accept what we have here. I don't mind sw but it only bothers me that it's so prevalent that those who want to only be platonic are confront with this more often than not. It's unsafe for all involved.
I guess my question is - if you're right, and this place is one big online brothel - why are you staying here?
The same reason you stay.
I had an interesting conversation with my bf who asked me (theoretically) what amount of money would change my perspective about offering non platonic extras. Everyone has a price, he says. When he said a million bucks I laughed and said sure, absolutely! But my real answer was that I really like my CC friends and sharing cuddles as I have met some wonderful platonic clients who are dear friends and show a lot of care. There's no reason to be tempted away from that. Besides cuddling intimacy is lovely and can offer easily attained bliss without the many complications of naked stuff. People who don't know that are missing out!!
@ReltvlyCanshes But if I shared your opinion of the site, I would be long gone.
Whether you share my opinion or not, what's happening is happening. Believe me and my experience or claim to have different experiences we are both in the same place, looking for the same thing.
It's not conjecture that long term pros with karma and long term enthusiasts with karma are engaging in pay for play.
@ReltvlyCanshes You know this as fact? First hand fact?
Are you saying you don't? You guys cannot be seriously acting you don't know what goes on in here. This isn't the first time you've heard this...@thefuncartel @WriterGF. You both know this has been mentioned many times before, i don't believe you haven't seen it first hand.
The answer is yes. The answer to your next question is yes as well. No matter how i feel, what's happening i do or what you say or do is going to change what adults do.
I need to provide PROOF? Because the sexy lingerie and bra/panties pics aren't proof enough
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@starrynitecuds I agree, photos of that nature alone definitely screams NONPLATONIC to me. 😊
I am reporting them when I see them though. ☺️🤷
@ReltvlyCanshes I didn’t say it doesn’t go on but you are passing off a blanket statement that all people with a lot of karma are engaging in pay for play. Read your statement that I quoted.
Just because it goes on you should not cast dispersions or accusations on a large group of people unless you have had a session with each and every person you threw that wide net upon. Do I know that each and every one is on the up and up? No. But I don’t know that they aren’t either. Until you do, it is CONJECTURE.
What is not conjecture is that some SWs exist on the site and several enthusiasts are hunting for one. We see that through bans and warnings. But I also think many have little or no karma. But not everyone with little or no karma is a SW. Likewise, not every person who has a lot of karma is a SW, nor are they all not SWs.
This is what @Sideon is saying—stop attributing what is true in a few instances to whole groups unless you have evidence or know it to be true for every person in that group. So just report the rule breakers and assume others are here for the right reasons until proven otherwise.
I will say that @Sideon is the strictest and most unyielding mod when the evidence is there and is an invaluable asset to the site in that sense.
@TheFunCartel i did not say or imply All. I don't not think all. I do not believe that most do not. I do have first hand knowledge of some with plenty of karma that do. Pro and enthusiast. Man and women. Since i am nut one to have interacted with hundreds on the site, it is a small sample size and my karma dies not reflect the whole of my experiences but my experiences tell me what I'm telling you. Just like others who mention it. I am not saying this out of spite, I'm mixed to say it because i find ut hard to believe that a vet like yourself doesn't come to the same conclusions. I don't doubt that mods will ban people, i know i have sent them information and reports, but u also don't believe they don't know whats happening. So for me the dishonesty is the problem.
i did not say or imply All.
When you simply name a group and say they are engaging in a behavior without any qualifiers and that it is not conjecture then you are stating that group as a whole whether you intended to or not. Words mean something. Without saying “some” or “many” then all is implied. I will repost your statement again and I think you will notice the absence of qualifiers in your statement:
This reads as all.
Do I need to start telling elephant jokes in here?
You're correct, i missed a qualifier. Maybe the word i should have inserted is some, few or most i dont know but the answer isn't zero or close to it.
As far as my conclusions as a veteran—there are some bad characters on here but they are super easy to spot through pics and the language they use on their profile or texting. I agree with @Sideon—most are platonic and the non-platonic stick out so much that I think people perceive it as rampant. If you really know how to vet there are no issues. But when I run across it I do report. Usually I just have a sense and do not even engage if I think something is not right, but I don’t report in those cases because it would be conjecture.
But keep in mind-mine is a male experience and I am sure things are quite different on the other side of things. Most female pros and enthusiasts are platonic and that is from a ton of experiences on my part.
My experience tells me something different
I hear a lot of things on here. Not having had those experiences myself, and not knowing the credibility of strangers on the internet, I don't make assumptions based on that. Are there bad actors here? Absolutely. Because there are bad actors anywhere humans are assembled. If it's the majority, other people will go elsewhere and the site will eventually fold.