@SunsetSnuggles a couple of things I have thought about that concern me are that reporting isn’t anonymous. The person attempting to see me will just make another profile and try again. They can target me and either be violent or predatory in other ways. I just don’t see how this will keep me and other cuddlers safe.
@theCuddleDrgn I definitely get that. Reporting isn't anonymous to the site. But the reporting user's name shouldn't ever be shared with the person who was reported.
The problem is, sometimes it's obvious. Perhaps they did something very specific, or they only did it with one person...then they will be able to figure out easily who made the report.
While that is scary, you can definitely ask in your report that the site do all they can to be vague on the details and keep you anonymous. There are no guarantees.
What convinces me to report is the thought of people doing stuff to the next person, if I don't try to stop them.
Regarding banned users making another profile, this does happen, but the mods often catch it through yet more reports, and matching their IP's.
I am told there is also a thread on the Pro Only board where banned users are outed, so you guys can know where people live and what they look like.
I just reported a guy for PMing me a dick pic, and the first thing I did was screenshot his entire profile. Now I have his face, location, and all his Facts details, so if he tries to come back once they ban him, I'll recognize him.
To men who are upset about women asking for a photo: Read the above paragraph. It's not about attractiveness, it's about safety.
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@theCuddleDrgn Because they know they're not supposed to.
I still don't understand why guys still think it's a good idea to send these unsolicited dick picks.
@Mike403 Right? And with no strings attached ... 🤪
I think some guys don't want to pay for an actual massage therapist and cheap out hoping to get a free one here.
An actual massage therapist charges less per hour than the average cuddler...
I haven't read all the comments yet but just wanted to add that I've seen a TON of profiles get banned or deleted recently, so maybe that balances out with those of you who say you HAVEN'T seen profiles get banned, even after hearing/seeing sketchy stuff. Frankly my impression was that the website is TOO quick to ban
@theCuddleDrgn
Very well said, thank you for opening up about some the issues here that concern you, I have to admit that bothers me a lot too. Constantly having to redirect or inform potential cuddle clients about this being a platonic only platform.
It’s the “what do you normally wear during a session” question for me that is the biggest red flag 🚩 makes my skin crawl and want to immediately stop the process saying a cuddle session won’t be accepted. Instead I’ve just gotten much better at expediting when I hit the send CSA (site rules) to them and just clearly state what part of their conversation wasn’t allowed and again inform them of what I can offer and what the rules are and my unwillingness to join them in breaking them. Just helps to not get upset anymore and simply sweet the standard/tone of what is and isn’t allowed or to discontinue responding.
One of our strongest tools as pro cuddlers and enthusiasts is that we’ve the free will and choice to simply say NO, cut people off by blocking them or longer responding to their messages.
I do admit it’s disappointing and frustrating to still see people try to break the rules so often, even when the rules are beyond clear that we are site for emotional support and healing ❤️🩹 through touch therapy.
~ Happy & Safe Cuddling Everyone 🤗 ~