Before I begin, I'd like to address those of you who are already thinking, 'not all men on this site are like this.' While that is true - and I am eternally grateful it is - I have only had one issue with a woman (and I wouldn't even call it an issue for that matter - I will touch on this later) and several with men. Easily a dozen, in fact. It was much worse when I was more active on CC and now it's starting up again. I have met several men here whom I am friends with and who are very sweet. This post is not about such people.
I'm sure I'm not the only one with this problem so I thought I'd make a thread to maybe get some advice or as a place others can vent. Anyway, I'll begin.
If you message me with 'Hi' there is still a good chance I will answer you. That's fine although I'd prefer something with more substance. A few ways NOT to message me are, 'Ur pretty,' 'Your attractive let's cuddle,' 'I am touch starved. VERY touch starved (; ' or other pointless/gross messages. Don't get me wrong, compliments are nice but it's jarring out of the blue and men who do this normally want intimacy of a different kind.
For those of you who are bad at giving compliments, mention so and that you don't mean it in a perverted way. I understand, really.
If I politely refuse to cuddle with you, I do not have to justify my actions. Whether I choose to keep my reasons to myself (I rarely do) or not is my choice. If I say no and you repeatedly message me every few hours, every day or week - trying to prove to me you're a 'good guy' or wear me down - it will not change my mind. No amount of money or praise will either. Do not badger me.
For the last time, I do NOT want your money! Stop! I have kindly corrected men who have assumed I'm a pro. It happens. Offering money to fix my 'no' is not okay.
If I have declined in the past and this is not the first time you've messaged me again, there is a high likelihood I have replied saying that I will let you know in the future if I change my mind or even politely asked you to stop. Do NOT keep messaging me! If you do, I will likely ignore you or block you outright depending on the type of messages I receive.
Do not repeatedly message me with insults (that I will not be sharing in this post) or questions such as, 'Why are you ignoring me,' or 'I guess silence means no..? Lol.' If you have to ask, you probably already know. Also, adding Lol to something does not make it any less barbed. Do not get snarky with me.
There are other issues as well but those are the most common. Maybe I should just start blocking people more? I usually use that as a last resort though. Should I use a different photo? I've taken my photo down before which helped immensely but also hurt the amount of nice users who messaged me. Incomplete profiles are taken into account when messaging people, after all. Thoughts?
The girl I had an issue with was roughly my age and messaged me. We had a pleasant convo and she slipped in how she'd like to get to know me better - to which I replied that dating is not what this site is for. She apologized and left the site. Easy peasy. No creepy compliments, no rudeness and no harrasment.
The men I have had issues with have been 30-ish to about 70 and some change. I expect grown men to act like grown men. As in, maturely. Not like a brat.
Take no for an answer.