@disneysamurai one can't get one's karma up unless someone cuddles you, finally
@Mare_Bear oh, I wish that, too!
You're not wrong
@Jits47 Curious. Did this pro have any karma? Are they still active on the site? Some of the ones I have chatted with have ended up banned.
@Jits47 i mean yeah that’s the hardest part and can be the most frustrating. Very much like trying to get a job in your career field you just got a degree in and all the jobs you try to apply for want someone with years of experience.
👍🏽Agree with the title of the thread.
@WriterGF which pro? The one that ghosted me or the one who set a videochat and ghosted? lol I'll check.
@WriterGF ah, the one who ghosted the video chat has NO karma, despite being a pro. Good to know!
Developing a bit of a thick skin and a sense of humor along with fixing your your profile should prove beneficial. Wishing you good luck.
PS: I may have some thicker skin for you in the back room. 😁
I've read plenty of karma that mentions how great the person is, and they can't wait until they finally get to cuddle with that person. So, it looks like you can get karma without actually cuddling.
@Immersedwarmth that’s usually from virtual sessions. Some pros even require doing at least one virtual before agreeing to book in person.
I get the by line of this site - been here a couple years now and things ebb and flow. Sometimes I see people in a row and sometimes not. And yes there are sometimes no replies. Sorry to hear your journey was not what you hoped at this time and maybe for another time down the road.
@disneysamurai I'm not talking about karma for/from pros. I rarely look at profiles of pros.
@Immersedwarmth Under site rules, you have to have cuddled with the person (I guess virtual would count too) before you can leave them karma.
@WriterGF yep, I am well aware of the site rules. I've thought the same thing. I'm simply making an observation.
To the op, I definitely agree that it’s hellaaaa easier to find cuddle partners (and not just pros) if you’re female. Sorry about that. You’re across the country, or else I’d meet up with you. It definitely takes time to find the gems out there. I hope you choose to keep trying. 😊
@TheMidnightOwl hey, I'm in your neck of the woods quite often. Definitely would like to get to know you. Flagstaff is one city I haven't had any luck finding a cuddler
Even having a completely filled out profile for years (joined in 2022) such as mine, with plenty of pictures, karma, and info there's still no guarantee of anything with anyone. Yes more often than not I have pros reach out which is alright, but unfortunately I'm not a wealthy man who can afford pro cuddles all the time or afford to travel all over for cuddles which I'd love to do. I have put effort in messages and sometimes get zero response or occasionally a block upon my first friendly greeting, which makes me hesitate in messaging people sometimes. I did meet a few local enthusiasts who each ended up leaving the site (either deleting or deactivating) and didn't lead to an ongoing consistent time cuddling. I have chatted with more people who are far away and seem to get along well with me. I feel like it's not the site's fault but that I'm living in the wrong state or city lol Still hoping to be able to travel and meet people who I've become friends with and talk to regularly someday.
So I'm not complaining saying I don't like this site, but just saying even with a fully fleshed out profile and karma you can still have a hard time. Just go in with zero expectations and enjoy the forums or conversing with different people and who knows what might happen.
@CSnMUS87 Well stated.
I wanted to expand on the conversations not moving forward. I get tired of being the one that initiates and is asking the questions. If the person I'm talking to answers my question and doesn't ask one in return or takes days or weeks to respond to me then I'm not interested in messaging anymore. When there's no reciprocation then I feel like I'm interviewing somebody instead of having a conversation.
@Mtex I agree, and that's a good indicator if things are going anywhere. I might initiate a couple times, but like you said, not solely. I had an enthusiast ask for a photo after a few friendly exchanges. (She didn't have a photo on her profile, either). No problem. I gladly provided a photo, but no photo was given in return, even after I made mention of that. I guess she didn't like what she saw. lol Am I wrong in thinking that basic etiquette when one requests a photo is to give one in return?.
Before complaining about ghosting....maybe you should take a look at yourself in the mirror and c ritiically analyze the way you interact with others....personally I believe social interaction is becoming a lost art
@dennis22554 100%
@Immersedwarmth I agree a photo exchange should be at the same time. I have also had them stop responding to me after a photo exchange. Which is funny and sometimes I will call them out on it. Especially since this is supposed to be platonic not romantic. 🙄
That being said there are also a lot of genuine people on here. And I don't want to discount them because of a few bad apples.
Edit: I usually ask for a photo just so I can put a face to the person I'm talking to. Vice-versa
Personally I acknowlege i have one of the least desirable profile photos on the site.....amazingly I have never been rejected for a cuddle session.....that just speaks volumes about the great professionals on this site.its amazing about h ow far respect for others will take you in life
@wilderdude
Oh cool. Feel free to send me a PM to chat and go from there. Maybe you found somebody in Flagstaff. 😊
@dennis22554 So, once we do that (self-examination) we are permitted to discuss one of the problems with current social interaction, namely, ghosting?
To be fair, I kindly pointed out the social faux pas to the young lady (who was relatively new to CC) and she graciously apologized. Still, no photo was given, which was fine at that point.
I feel like I'm airing all my dirty laundry here. 🤦🏻♀️ I've found that where I'm at there's very few options of cuddler's my age so I've had to go younger which is NOT my preference. And so I've been dubbed the "cuddle cougar" because of this. 😄 Going younger hasn't resulted in any viable cuddles. Probably because of the age difference. I can understand because when I was in my twenties somebody in their forties seemed really old! 😁
Receprical photos are nice but are not a site requirement.......there could be hundreds of reasons..the bottom line is its not the end of the world!