Are people usually nervous about approaching someone about cuddles gor the first time?
I would think so, yes
I really hate meeting new ppl. Had not great experiences with it for cuddles (ghosting). So tbh stopped looking but really need cuddles so it’s catch 22
I would imagine yes. For me it’s more about nerves when I’m about to meet them for the first time in person.
@ginger11 I think most people are a little nervous in that situation. The fear of the unknown or possible rejection always rears its ugly head. But do it anyway. Good luck.
Im not
Some people are. I’ve even had a professional that seemed she was scared. Especially when a person is meeting a new person. They don’t know what to expect. Will the other person be respectful. Over the years I’ve encountered more than a few people like this.
Yes, for me I was very nervous. I looked over all the local profiles and kept thinking it may not work out, but I found a local Pro that had such a nice smile and many great karmas so I reached out to her. She wanted to meet out in public first so we decided on a local ice cream parlor. I was very nervous and I’m sure she could tell it but after 10-15 minutes I fell like we had know each other for a long time and we have gone on to have many great cuddles. The 1st cuddle we both dozed off a little bit. I think meeting out for coffee or ice cream is the best way to see if you’re both comfortable going forward for a cuddle.
Yes, it's completely normal but a lot of that melts away with that first hug. 🫂
My first time, I was nervous as a cat!!! What if he doesn't feel comfortable with me? What if something goes wrong? What if we meet and decide we'd rather have our collective eyelashes pulled out with needle-nosed pliers than to cuddle? Then we met... And it was wonderful!!
It's normal to be nervous, so give yourself some grace... @gem7 ~ I think you've got this figured out: "But do it anyway"!
@ginger11 absolutely! I was terrified initially and thus had a whole different approach to it. Now I've kind of got a system that generally works for me, but each time I meet a new cuddler I get..... awkward. Maybe not nervous so much but awkward. In my case the encounter seems to stay awkward the more we talk & gets much more comfortable with the warmth & wait of cuddling. Whether a professional or enthusiast, hopefully you find someone with a few experiences under their belt who can put you at ease. A lot of times it's the fear of the unknown and unanswered questions that cause the fear. I have a breakdown of frequent questions/concerns that I get asked on a regular basis. I can send it to you if you'd like.
If I wasn’t already nervous, now I’m super anxious about it because I had my first pro session booked for today and the pro bailed out last minute, like after it was supposed to start and she hasn’t shown up. She was probably too nervous to cancel it ahead of time.
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I can imagine some female pros would be kinda nervous about being alone (I would assume) with a random stranger to cuddle, and think that they wouldn't do anything during the session.
Thank you for all the responses. I'm usually quite shy so I know I'd be very nervous. I do miss cuddles so will have to be brave..lol
@quincyq03 I'm sorry a "professional" did that to you. If I still lived in OK I would absolutely cuddle with you. If you happen to chase a storm to WI the invitation is open. 🙂
@ginger11 the easiest way to be brave is to talk to them quite a bit ahead of time and meet once for coffee, lunch, etc to make sure you're a good fit. Meeting in person will put your mind at ease; either you'll meet someone just as nervous as yourself or a calm, collected, seasoned cuddler that will put you at ease & show you the ropes. I highly recommend meeting in person first, with no cuddles involved, when you're first starting out. It'll be fun. You got this!
@DepressedEm0ji then they shouldn't be pros.
I usually enjoy meeting new people and I also love to snuggle - so if that's the whole point, let's get to it! I don't really care who you are, if you need a snug, you need a snug! You never know who's day you're turning around or how important it could be in the moment.
I'm with Snazzy, although as an introvert I can appreciate that it could be hella scary at first. I honestly wonder why I'm not bothered by it as much. There are definitely things that can be done to help you get over the jitters.
Some are nervous, some are not nervous. 😊
I'm not
Hi there! I’m a “pro” and I’ve definitely been nervous when I first began (been doing it for over a year now.) Even recently after taking a break because I’m an introvert. But since I like cuddles and extra cash, I decided to try it..lol. Now since most of my sessions don’t really allow for ice cream or coffee meets beforehand, to calm me down I usually vibe out to music on the way, do some breathing with positive thoughts and once we start the session I start with a hug then icebreakers or do a fun 21 questions.
With me It depends, if we have chatted beforehand and the person sounds like they may be a good match for me then I am excited rather than nervous but if I am not 100% sure than yes a little nervous.