Users on site for the wrong reasons?

[Deleted User]KristiCOS (deleted user)
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I just joined last night and have been getting messages from men all over the US and even a couple internationally. I don't seek virtual cuddles and the messages feel like ones you'd get on a dating site, asking me inappropriate questions and hitting on me. Is there no escape from this kind of thing?

Then I randomly got a notification stating that it appeared I was seeking compensation for cuddling which I in no way did. I'm so defeated already. Ladies, is this your experience as well? Was I crazy for thinking this site was really just to connect for cuddles?

Comments

  • MTexMTex

    Hi, my advice is to put your account on Mute. That's what I did & that way I can just message the people I want to converse with. It gives you more control. And there are legitimate cuddlers on here you just have to weed them out.

  • [Deleted User]KristiCOS (deleted user)

    @MTex thank you! I had no idea I could do that, I appreciate the tip!!

  • MTexMTex

    No problem 😊

  • KatotaKatota

    Is there no escape from this kind of thing?

    @KristiCOS Blocking and reporting NONPLATONIC behavior happening in your inbox is the only "escape plan" that has worked for Me here on CC. Good luck! 👍

  • KatotaKatota
    edited June 2025

    Lol! Or if you just want to f🤬🤬k with them because you can, just respond to their obvious fappery with movie quotes... Sometimes I do that for my own personal entertainment! 😆

    Example...

    "Can you cuddle tonight?"

    WHO RUNS BARTER TOWN?!

    "Wanna cuddle?"

    FRANKLY MY DEAR, I DON'T GIVE A DAMN!

    😆😆😆😆😆

    @KristiCOS 😁👍

  • AmalieAmalie

    @KristiCOS Exactly the same thing happened to me.

  • Tilly2025Tilly2025

    @KristiCOS @Amalie this happened to me too. I got zero explanation for it and no support to re word my bio.

  • [Deleted User]WriterGF (deleted user)

    Just as on dating sites, a new woman prompts most of the men to act like they are a loose football. Everyone pounces at once. When men outnumber women on a site by 8 to 1, unfortunately that's what happens. Any inappropriate behavior should be reported to the mods.

  • Minestrone101Minestrone101

    There are some wise women in the forums that can help you navigate. The main thing is that we can all have a rotation of cuddlers to fulfill our touch/companion quotas. Gl!

  • _marC_marC

    Loose football... that's a good one

  • munkgmunkg

    @KristiCOS I am sorry you are also dealing with this.

    If their profile has non platonic pics or about me thats enough to report, you can also report messages. Dont delete or avoid them, Just report. I personally have been seeing alot of non-platonic/ fake users as well.

    Our community is not very big compared to others and the amount of ppl who are here for the wrong reasons seems to be getting larger everyday but the mods are dilligent, still they could use our help.

    We should all do our part to help the mods keep our cuddle community....well..🤔..cuddly. 😌

  • CuddleDuncanCuddleDuncan Mod
  • wanacuddle85wanacuddle85

    Or start reporting them the mods are great at not putting up with nonsense!

  • Mr_Cuddle_BearMr_Cuddle_Bear

    @KristiCOS
    "Then I randomly got a notification stating that it appeared I was seeking compensation for cuddling which I in no way did."

    I'm wondering if someone you rejected tried to report you as an untagged pro out of revenge.

  • AuroradreamAuroradream

    I've been told by two different people very recently that they heard of CC from an escort review site. Unfortunately that sort of thing brings traffic here, I reported all the info I had available, but it's a big world in the interwebs.
    It caused me a lot of distress and now I will always ask someone new how they heard about Platonic cuddling.

  • JaniceBobbyJaniceBobby
    edited June 2025

    @KristiCOS Unfortunately that has been alot of my experience here as well. I also get notification that I'm trying to solicit money as a nonpro or looking for non platonic. All I can figure is someone I reject reports. Others get offended when I'm trying to weed out non platonic and ask questions to get to what they are really looking for. Some that are removed come back with different names and stats... Sometimes I feel like I can't win. I keep hearing there are real cuddlers out there. For both of our sakes, I hope so.

  • MTexMTex

    It does take time & patience to vet out potential partners but it's worth it.

  • MTexMTex

    BE AWARE Ladies: If a man gets handsy don't play it off or laugh. Be clear with him & don't let him get a second chance to transgress your boundaries.

    Learn from my experience, in hindsight I should have ended the session & gone home when it happened the first time.

  • KrishaKrisha

    @craM That's not football, that's hand egg 😝

  • Rocket_ManRocket_Man

    Hello I'm sorry to hear that. I don't know if this site has an. Appropriate filtering system

  • BlueIrisBlueIris Mod

    FYI, the OP has deleted her account.

  • TheFunCartelTheFunCartel

    Welcome back @BlueIris. It has been awhile and you date back on this site a long time. You definitely were a great teacher when I joined.

  • BlueIrisBlueIris Mod

    Thanks @TheFunCartel. I got discouraged after moving to Florida and discovering there's practically no cuddle culture down here. Everyone local who contacted me except for one or two people were looking for things that I do not provide. So I quit coming here.

    Meeting you all those years ago was wonderful!

  • kal77kal77

    It’s much the same coming from the male side. In months I haven’t found a single person looking for platonic cuddles without payment. Maybe it’s a regional thing.

  • TheMidnightOwlTheMidnightOwl

    @kal77
    There is zero comparison between the OP’s question — and what most women go through here, aka sexual harassment at best, sex assault at worst — and what you describe.

  • Mike403Mike403
    edited June 2025

    Yeah @kal77 . I'm not sure you read the OP's post. It had nothing to do with having to pay money for cuddles.

  • great_pillow08great_pillow08
    edited June 2025

    @KristiCOS- Girl, I've been "around here" for awhile. I could show you some screenshots!!! You're not even a little bit alone on this one! I've made a female cuddle enthusiast on the East coast and she and I exchange screen shots weekly (never including screen names- although the "banned" part is never scribbled out-- THANK YOU MODS! WE LOVE YOU!!!)

  • great_pillow08great_pillow08

    @BlueIris I've yet to find a cuddle buddy who rivals @TheFunCartel so if you "trained" him at any capacity- WELL DONE!!! 🏆

  • BlueIrisBlueIris Mod

    @great_pillow08 Thank you so much!! Yes, he's one of the best! I did show him several of my favorite positions a century ago when he was new here and I was a cuddle pro for a brief period of time. However, I think we need to give his mother props, as she was the one who raised him to be a respectful gentleman.

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