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[Deleted User]CuddleCravezs (deleted user)
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Cuddling with a person who is socially awkward and doesn't have much to say ? I crave physical touch but I don't much care for talking. Id be perfectly fine coming over to cuddle and not having a full on conversation. Of course I'd say a few words but heavy on the "few". Is this not a good place for me to be if I am this way, I would love to set something up but I am afraid to make my cuddle buddy uncomfortable as I don't have much to talk about. I'm a boring person when it comes to hobbies people have butttt I'm a great person to feel love from. Give you the attention you may need and I'll listen more than I talk so you'll be heard. I'm just a shy girl who craves physical touch.

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  • [Deleted User]WriterGF (deleted user)

    @CuddleCravezs You'll find people here who love chatting during cuddles and others who don't. Just be up front with the people who contact you, like you're doing here, so they know what to expect.

  • MrPaulMrPaul

    I think that’s fine. Especially because you are clearly stating what you’re like and what to expect. That’s great communication, and will be appreciated by many people.

  • CuddleDuncanCuddleDuncan Mod

    There is no need to talk during the cuddle, and many people prefer not to. Just mention it to your cuddle partner beforehand.

    You will need to have some kind of conversation beforehand, but social awkwardness is quite common here. There is a good chance your cuddle partner will be over the moon at not having to talk!

    @MrPaul and @WriterGF - both seconded.

  • jmdankjmdank
    edited July 2025

    @CuddleCravezs Hey, we are very similar, I'd say I'm awkward and oddly don't have much to talk about but sometimes can talk non stop, I think it depends if you feel comfortable and if you have things in common with the person. Personally I don't care if someone talks a lot as long as I can get to know them a little so I feel comfortable, I have anxiety so I want to make sure I'm physically safe with the person.

  • TheDave90TheDave90

    As someone who has been through the socially awkward stage for like the first 20-25 years, I'd understand and be fine with it.

  • lovingspoonfulllovingspoonfull

    @CuddleCravezs I’ll add on. Every cuddle is different.

    I personally do like to talk, but I have also enjoyed cuddles which were almost completely nonverbal. It’s about what’s right for whoever is involved.

    A friend of mine likes to call touch a primal language that doesn’t need words. She’s right.

    Many times this is not just enough, but fantastic.

  • pmvinespmvines

    I AM the socially awkward cuddler

  • TheFunCartelTheFunCartel

    @WriterGF Hit the nail on the head. Personally, I love conversation so I would take a pass. There is nothing personal in me saying that. I am sure there are people who wouldn’t want to cuddle me. It’s a big world out there and there are people who would enjoy your company and those who don’t. I wouldn’t make too big a deal about it. Just be honest about who you are and what you are about.

  • KatotaKatota

    I AM the socially awkward cuddler

    @pmvines 😆

  • ladybug7ladybug7

    This is funny. I am also incredibly socially awkward. I do enjoy when others have lots to talk about because I myself feel boring or feel pressed to come up with good questions to ask. If someone asked for a more quiet session... I would A OK with it. Kinda like if you go get a massage they ask if you want a quiet session.

  • WestsideMarcWestsideMarc
    edited July 2025

    There’s way too much white noise in the world and many people are afraid to be quiet or still with another. Silence is underrated. There are a few times I’ve experimented with no talking at all for the first 10 minutes; it adds an interesting dynamic. Try it.

  • BearBear

    I’ve been shy and nerdy with insecurities all my life. There are times I think I’m the awkward cuddler.

  • Sixx_Sixx_

    Same, with exception of position changes I like to consent with them so they know what I'm doing if I've never cuddled with them before.

  • emmy96emmy96

    Idk if you’re necessarily looking for pro responses but at the end of the day it’s a cuddle session lol so if we hardly say anything and all we do is cuddle then that’s completely fine with me. It wouldn’t make me feel uncomfortable or probably even cross my mind. I’d just be able to focus on the actual cuddle and how to physically be there for you. I hope that’s been your experience so far and that everyone you’ve cuddled with understands and just adapts to your cuddle style.🤗

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