It is clear that no one under 18 is allowed. If you are a cuddler, is there an age that you are NOT comfortable seeing someone? I am 71, and I sense that many might not be interested in someone that old.
I've met and spent time with people on the site who are in their 70s and loved every bit of it. Might be few and far between but that is not due to a personal issue I have about their age. More so just because there haven't been many people of that age bracket here who I've had an opportunity to connect with.
I don't think that is a problem at all. There are many members age 70 & older. Welcome & happy cuddling!
I think if people are here for the right reasons, age shouldn't matter.
But you will find many who do care...younger girls "creeped out" by all older men, older women with generalized disdain for young men, etc. etc.
Then of course you'll find the opposite...those with fetishes they're seeking to fulfill in the wrong place. Men who only want younger women, women offering a mommy dynamic, sugar babies, etc.
Personally, I have no age cap and wish no one else did, either. The usual excuse for this is, "We're from totally different generations, we'll have nothing to talk about!" I think that's utter nonsense... Someone with different life experiences, different opinions, and different interests than you seems guaranteed to create a plethora of talking points!
In any case, I've cuddled in public with people from 18 to 75 (being 38, myself), and all ages have been lovely.
I would have zero issue with your age, and I hope you find those of like mind. 🫂
~ Sunset Snuggles
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is there an age that you are NOT comfortable seeing someone?
The Stone Age. I think the lack of light in caves would make it challenging seeing someone.
@TheFunCartel You are on a roll today and I like it. Lol
I can't seem to get past the idea of cuddling people who aren't as old as my own children!! lol So, I fully understand why other cuddlers might not feel comfortable cuddling me if I'm the age of their moms or grandmas! lol That's fair, I think..
Another somewhat odd, in my opinion, dynamic is that I prefer to be cuddled by what I consider as my "equals," people who can match my rather intense, unintentionally authoritative energy.. That's the only way I can relax enough to enjoy a cuddle!
Never really thought about it, but youthful First Borns might work... Something to think about...
I can't seem to get past the idea of cuddling people who aren't as old as my own children!!
@Homesteader That is not a problem, it’s a preference. Don’t let anyone shame you into what you do not feel comfortable with or make you feel less than because someone brags that they cuddle all ages and genders. Yes, theoretically it should not matter, but biology and culture are a part of all of us and as long as we do not hate on those who do not fit our preference, then be yourself and follow your preferences to find your comfort cuddler.
You are on a roll today
@gem7 Actually it is a croissant, but I guess they are the same.
Anyone over 118 yo, altho if they're young at heart I might make exceptions. 😊
actually I really like cuddling people of different generations. you get to learn so many cool stories from eras that feel like history but other people actually lived through. it's a unique opportunity you don't get too often!
@zalea , I agree, I have cuddled very young, early 20’s and older then me. I had fun conversations about things I did as a teenager like going to the roller rink and cruising around town to the different ice cream shops. The younger crowd just laughed and said how corney, we both laughed about it. I’m very open to anyone that likes to be hugged. I have met some really nice people here.
I like the people I cuddle to be younger than the age of the universe.
What I get from this conversation is that maybe I can be a little less concerned about age discrepancies? Huh.
As long as someone is 18+, I don't have any problem with age.
@LadyVel I believe you (!), and images on your page reinforced that. I also got a chuckle over your "professional cuddler" t-shirt.
Years ago I was on a flight that began to have rather intense and unsettling turbulence. There was a lady sitting next to me who was probably 30 years my senior. She asked to hold my hand, for comfort. It was the sweetest thing and it absolutely made my day to be able to offer such a kind person a moment of comfort.
It is the same thing for me here. A difference in age (18+) causes me no uncomfortable feelings. Our experiences here are similar, though it is during life's turbulence we seek a friendly gesture.
I had a brain block for 18-20 for a long time. Would not do it, and the thought made skin crawl I don't know why. Now it's like cuddling a puppy 😅
As long as everyone is an adult and there is consent and platonic then any age should be ok
It’s the personality and behavior, not the age that’s important to me. Is the person kind, respectful, and supportive? Do they know about basic hygiene? Can they communicate clearly? Do they value others? Are they willing to make time to get together and follow through with what they say? All these things are far more important than age to me.
Less of an age and more of a mindset 4 me
Depends on the person. As @MrPaul mentioned, communication is key. If their idea of a sentence is yes, no or uh then we won’t be a good match for a cuddle regardless of age.
I cuddle with someone that is not even 3 yet every night.
No upper age limit
So long as she's an adult it's all good
Had a cuddle session with a wonderful woman in her 70s some years back. Had some fascinating stories to tell. I've always loved the decade "the 70s" and she did a good job of talking about how things were for her back then.
I'm in my 30s and I've cuddled with guys in their 20s up to their 60s. Haven't received requests from anyone above that, but oxytocin comes from cuddling with all humans.
The day is improving so 😊 And sometimes I do have preferences.
No gender preference, but as with a few others here, there is a lower limit on age where the thought of cuddling just causes some "ick" feeling. I suppose it might be different if I had more experience with parental cuddling, but requests from some peeps younger than my kids just make me feel heavy cognitive dissonance
@Fuffybunnyfeet I cuddle 7 year nightly as well.
I don’t have a preference on age or looks anymore. I did in the past. I ve cuddled plenty of people older than me. Now I’ve become one of the older ones. lol. I’ve notice a lot more profiles with age limits lately. I don’t reach out to them. I will also reach out to people with no picture. The last person that had no picture turned out to be a supportive friend that I text with daily.
Personality is key. I have become choosy on the vibe that people give off. How they carry themselves. How they treat you as well. I also don’t like what I call keeping track or score keepers. Years ago I met a lovely lady who cooked me dinner and was a lovely cuddle and hosted in a warm welcoming environment. She had a headache. Which I helped relieve with energy work. She was so thankful. She said she “ owed “ me one. Plus you just cooked me a wonderful dinner. She wanted pay me back. It gave me an icky feeling. I never charged for what I do and especially not for friendship.
I'm more concerned with personality and my general gut feeling about the person. Are they interesting to chat with? Do I feel like I'm having to pull teeth to get to know them? Have they said something that feels creepy or unsafe?
That first message (first couple sometimes) leaves a big first impression, and people regularly blow it. 🤣
I think preferences are just going to exist; the statement that if it's platonic it shouldn't matter is not 100% true. We all have preferences.
Pro Cuddlers might have a more expanded idea of who they will agree to cuddle with, but there are still going to be preferences. I'm guessing you prefer someone who is respectful in their messaging, follows your safety rules without question, pays the bill, etc. And while you might have expanded who you will cuddle with as a professional cuddler, I'm guessing you have preferences for who you would rather be cuddling with to meet your own cuddle needs.
We're all human; we've got opinions and preferences about what we want. Whether it's preferring non-smokers, someone who likes to talk, someone who prefers to be quiet, gender preferences, and of course, age preferences.
I'm sure there are many other ways we weed through requests, whether they are conscious or unconscious.
As an enthusiast, this isn't my job, so I have no problem having preferences.
But as far as the OP question, I did include age gaps in my profile, but they are more of a suggestion and not a hard rule.
As others have said, the idea of cuddling someone I could have given birth to has been a bit of a turn-around for me as far as my cuddle needs. I'm sure there are exceptions, but the few times I've taken a chance on someone in that particular age bracket, it just reinforced my preference that I avoid it. 🤷♀️
But I wouldn't rule anyone out just based on age. Like I said, that first message counts for a lot. 😁 If it catches my attention, then I will definitely give someone a chance.
Happy cuddling everyone. Be safe and make good choices. 🦊
I definitely have a preference about age, I suppose it has to do with how I was raised and comfort level. If they could have fathered me or I could have given birth to them, it's not something I'm comfortable with. No, I'm not here for the wrong reasons, as a previous replier stated, I am just not comfortable with outside of a certain age bracket. Different preferences for different folks I suppose.