PART ONE
Every once in a while, a (male) enthusiast makes a post about one, or more, of the following topics:
1.) How there are no (or very few) female enthusiasts.
2.) How unwilling they are to hire a pro.
3.) How pros are greedy.
4.) How pros are too expensive.
I want to talk about this, as a female professional. This is my perspective. There will be a lot of generalizations in this post. Please keep that in mind. I’m not referring to everyone — in fact, please keep in mind that most of my closest forum friends are male enthusiasts.
Prologue
Okay, for starters: I know that this website was created for enthusiasts. And I know that for the first many years, there were no professionals on this site. I know that some of the folks who have been around for a long time still wish professionals were not allowed on the site. I can understand that.
You should also know that I am new to the cuddling community. And, as I already mentioned, I’m a pro. That may, already, be a strike (or two!) against me in some of your minds.
Regardless, I hope some of you will hear me out. This is not a rant (although, I admit, I find some of the above topics frustrating). But it is a bit of a soliloquy. So, here we go:
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Let’s start with number 1 on the list:
I have genuine sympathy for the fact that there are so many men out there who cannot find a cuddle partner. (I would say empathy, but let’s be real — as a woman, I have never been in this situation. So I’m not going to pretend that I can completely put myself in a male enthusiast’s shoes.) The gender balance is skewed. I have many thoughts as to why that is, but those thoughts are outside of the scope of this post. So, regarding point number 1 on the list? That sucks.
Continuing with number 2 on the list:
It seems that many male enthusiasts are unwilling to hire a professional cuddler. That’s okay — you don’t have to.
But sometimes I get the feeling that these enthusiasts who are unwilling to hire a professional cuddler think that if it weren’t for women being allowed to be professionals there would be a lot more female enthusiasts. I disagree with this idea.
Now we get to numbers 3-4 on the list:
If a person believes that there would be more female enthusiasts if female professionals were not allowed, numbers 3 and 4 on the list seem totally legitimate.