Pro cuddle question

[Deleted User]ted56 (deleted user)
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As a client the service is only time spent end. Life is life but I e pro used words a sense of companionship. It's a business.

How should clients like me see it? If your loner that won't help if your cuddle deprived ie no relationship etc it will help for session only. You want more you have to pay another session. Facts of life way it is.

In a good relationship all things normal cuddling might be every day I guess? But your a loner you pay that's just way it is life.

How should I see these pro sessions

Comments

  • _marC_marC

    It's all a matter of choice really. Glass half full or empty?

  • DaveLaughsDaveLaughs

    If you need it and can afford it…

  • bluefish281bluefish281

    You should see the pro sessions as a means to fulfill your need for human touch. Think of it as recharging your battery.

  • CuddleDuncanCuddleDuncan Mod

    @bluefish281 is spot on.

    It's not true that the benefit of a cuddle session lasts for the length of the session only. The explicit benefit from a good session can last a couple of days. And 'battery recharge' effect can last for weeks.

    Humans need touch. Even loners. Cuddling 'normalises' your body chemistry, for want of a better phrase. I saw it as a part of a process, a tool to help take my life from where it was to where I'd like it to be. It's potentially a very powerful tool for somebody, and a question like this is a good place to be starting from. "How can I use cuddling to make my life better?"

  • sagantysonsagantyson

    Just because there isn’t a romantic relationship doesn’t mean the pro doesn’t care about you as a person.

    Also, it’s like a psychologist or a massage therapist — sure, they’re there only for the time of your appointment, but the benefits can be felt beyond the session.

  • marcustanakamarcustanaka

    @ted56 You are paying a woman for companionship. She may be accommodating, friendly and a good person BUT there is no relationship outside of money for her time and attention. She is not your girlfriend. I never see only one to help not becoming too attached.

    Remember that we are using money as a shortcut for female attention. That's just the reality of the situation.

  • natasya148natasya148

    If you are blessed enough, you may find cuddlers who become your acquaintances or even friends. Maybe you have not found one, but they are out there. Think of it like finding needles in a haystack… literally!

  • VitaminJVitaminJ

    Using Chat GPT I asked
    “How can someone follow a cuddle journey if they’re by themselves?”

    And refined my prompts until it gave me a veritable menu of touch and self care practices of which hiring a pro cuddler is one of them. You could work with a therapist or coach or just with AI to design yourself a program that works for you to fill your cup. Here is a sample of the result:

    5 categories of touch & connection:

    1. Self-Touch & Self-Soothing
      • Hand-on-heart, weighted blankets, self-hug sequences
      • Guided self-massage (arms, hands, scalp, feet)
      • Breath + pressure practices
      • Reframed as legitimate regulation, not “less than”

    2. Pet / Companion Touch
      • Cuddling with pets (dogs, cats, horses)
      • Ritualizing everyday moments (brushing, lap time)
      • Naming and noticing oxytocin moments

    3. Professional / Paid Safe Touch
      • Professional cuddling
      • Massage, Reiki, craniosacral, bodywork
      • Hair salons, nail care, spa rituals
      • Clear boundaries + consent education baked in

    4. Social Micro-Touch

    This was a big part of the conversation:
    • Asking friends for hugs
    • Side-by-side contact (movies, concerts, yoga, church)
    • Group classes where proximity is normal and safe
    • Practicing how to ask without being creepy

    1. Embodied Practices
      • Yoga, chair yoga, restorative poses
      • Breathwork
      • Walking meditations
      • Grounding practices tied to sensation and presence

    To address your specific questions about the pro / client relationship. Clients pay pros for their time. During that time you talk, share, touch, commune. Both parties carry away something from the interaction. I am sitting alone in my car at the grocery store right now. I am also sending out good vibes and checking in on various clients that I’ve had from the past. If they want me to plan a trip and cuddle with them, we will need to make a session and some payment will need to be exchanged. Hope this gives another perspective !

  • DaveLaughsDaveLaughs

    That’s right: Cuddlers need to eat food too and have a roof over their head. That’s just life.

    (Try asking the universe to change the laws of supply and demand….I wager it gives a grand void as an answer.)

  • friendlyj311friendlyj311

    @sagantyson very well said! All of the responses are actually spot on. Hope you get the have some amazing experiences @ted56 🤗

  • PrincessSummerPrincessSummer

    I agree with @bluefish281 ! It's paying to fulfill a need. I see it the same as any service we pay for, I can't provide my own mental health therapy, so I pay for it. Real human connection may occur with my therapist, but we maintain a professional boundary.

    Like @VitaminJ said, the connection doesn't necessarily stop when the session is over. You carry something away with it, as do we as pros.

  • Carrie_AnneCarrie_Anne

    @marcustanaka
    Nailed it.

  • RedFox16RedFox16

    What a very healthy and extremely accurate response @sagantyson ....thank you for that ☺️🫶

    And @marcustanaka ...you said the same as @sagantyson .... except the pessimistic version of it. 🤔🧐
    So If that's the way you choose to view cuddle therapy (or massage therapy ...talk therapy... medical treatment....etc) then you'll get exactly what you expect out of it 🤷‍♀️ 🤷‍♀️

    As for the rest of us, @VitaminJ also gave a great response ☺️🤗

  • TheFragmentedTheFragmented

    You’re right that it’s a paid service and the session ends when the time ends. But how you see the session matters.

    If you treat it as a substitute for a relationship, it will always feel temporary and transactional. If you treat it as a tool, it can have longer-term value.

    The long-term benefit depends on you. Do you want a relationship? Do you want to improve your confidence, communication, comfort with touch, or self-presentation? Those are things you can actively work on during sessions.

    Think of it like a living library: you’re paying for time, yes but also for perspective, practice, and feedback. If you use the sessions intentionally, they can help you improve your life outside the sessions. That’s where the real value is, and that’s what can eventually reduce the need to pay for companionship.

  • Mare_BearMare_Bear

    Hi, pro cuddler of eight years here - paying for a cuddle session is to be seen and heard by someone who has (hopefully) trained and certified to hold space for you. It is to have a session tailored just for you the way you want to be held or not - some people are touch averse and need a very slow process to come around to be able to feel loving touch. In my training we would go at your pace and your comfort is top priority. Sounds nice, right!? When I am touch starved I will book a session with someone who abides by these principles and can give me an hour of touch that is just what I'm looking for, I like to have my hair played with and I like to lay down and have quiet time and soft music. What do you like in a cuddle session?

  • HuggycatbearHuggycatbear
    edited January 3

    Cuddling is also enjoying company. One benefit that I didn't see coming is it has also helped me to detach.

    At first I would get "high" off the oxytocin and then crash after the cuddler left. That was when I was touch-starved. Now, I've become secure and am able to have people come and go without feeling the dip.

    I have also built a client version of friendship with a couple cuddlers who make me feel safe and we can build on our stories.

  • SqueezeBuddySqueezeBuddy

    It is like any other service, like when you go for physical therapy or something similar

  • HuggycatbearHuggycatbear

    I would say it's like any other service in logistics, appointment setup, and time spent on the clock.

    But it's also not like any other service lol.

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