Vetting Potentials

SnuggleSkySnuggleSky
in Pro Cuddling

I had an enquiry earlier this week. He had LOADS of positive karma but this is Atlanta. Those positives can mean a variation of things.
To further vet for my safety, I asked for his LinkedIn and Boy! was he taken aback. Cancelled the appointment and everything.
The LinkedIn method has kept me safe for a number of years, I doubt I’ll change it but I’d love some feedback on whether the approach may be too invasive. Thank you!

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  • CuddleDuncanCuddleDuncan Mod
    edited January 30

    It isn't too invasive, no. Not even close.

    He's quite at liberty to decline politely and offer some other form of verification.

  • xandriarainxandriarain

    @SnuggleSky I’m curious what it is about the LinkedIn method that you like? I know some professional will ask for a photo ID so they can know that the person is who they say they are and do a criminal background check. I like to do a video call and I have a list of questions I ask because my main concern is their reason for reaching out to me and their general intent and I also find that people are way more honest over a video call than anything in writing that can be used against them.

  • TxTomTxTom

    Everyone should employ whatever level of vetting makes them comfortable. If two people can't agree on what that should be, then move on.

    Also, @xandriarain said,

    I also find that people are way more...

    A lot of this isn't hard to figure out, but shouldn't specific vetting tactics that work be kept confidential?

  • beaublissbeaubliss

    @SnuggleSky what @TxTom said.....
    I differ from @CuddleDuncan.....it's simply not a binary. It's neither "too invasive", nor "not too invasive. Not even close".

    For some, like your potential client, it's too invasive. For @CuddleDuncan , it's not at all. There really is no standard. To me, the successful pro cuddler will have a few of their favorite ways to vet potential clients, knowing that everyone has their own level of comfort. To some, asking for a Linked In handle is a violation of boundaries. Especially for a veteran client with loads of karma. So perhaps consider what @xandriarain likes to do; schedule a video call, allowing you to trust your own instincts and ask some specific questions.

    Everyone's boundaries are different. For many men, boundaries can center around information disclosed....more so than physical. For many women, the physical boundaries are more central. We're all different. But the professional cuddler can have options for the vetting, allowing for the differences, and not disqualifying an otherwise great potential new client

  • AchterbahnAchterbahn

    For 90% of the pros that I've seen, I would have no issue with them having my LinkedIn info. However, if it were a new pro with no karma who asked me for that info, I'd decline and move on.

  • KaybloomKaybloom

    For me I do ask for ID and a virtual to ask questions and get the vibe. Some are okay with it and some spoof.

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