I appreciate the mods allowing for the respectful debate that has occured, despite a few who seem determined to argue in bad faith. @CuddleDuncan @stormydaycuddle please do whatever you need to do to keep things civil and from getting headaches yourselves.
@SweetCuddler33 I've learned to just stop engaging with certain folks who only ever want to stir the pot or who will always intentionally misrepresent what I say 🤷🏻♀️ It'd be lovely if people could debate serious topics in a respectful way, but humans gotta human, I guess.
@SouthernerinCA those people are usually busy attending high school and get aroused with literally anything. If men start to experience arousal with someone touching their feet, women will find hard time getting pedicure appointments.
@samson1060 what you said is factually and scientifically incorrect. Read up on neurological connection to foot fetishism if interested in having an actual discussion about that stuff. It’s very real and affects both men and women of all backgrounds. And in spite of this, women have no problems with predicure appointments.
certain folks who only ever want to stir the pot
Sorry, I've emptied my head of nothing but memes, its all im good for
@tacpmurg now that kind of pot stirring I absolutely can get behind 🧙🪄🧹
@TheFunCartel I find it interesting that most of the people siding with the OP are men. OP referred to himself in a negative way and cuddlefary just repeated what he said
@SouthernerinCA You are not telling me anything I don’t already know about other sites and some of the bad actors. This is nothing new and I often defend pros but that doesn’t mean one situation applies to the next. She repeated what he said but injected her theories as to what possibly happened based on her experience and little else, just as you used your mother as an example of his reaction. It’s all anecdotal and doesn’t amount to much and this has become a regular occurrence with people starting a thread and being attacked based on assumptions. One guy was attacked just a week ago for starting a thread stating his preference that he does not like to cuddle with married people based on his religious beliefs. And I find it interesting that most of the people attacking the OP are women with some exceptions.
All I am saying is there seems to be a total lack of empathy or presumption of innocence for the OP. I wouldn’t recommend anyone start a thread on these forums for fear of having their reputation totally shredded by people assuming the worst without so much as a single question to justify their suspicions.
LOL that guy was not attacked. He was literally judging other people who didn't share his preferences and claiming that kind of personal info should be listed on here.
And you can find it interesting all you like. I'll counter it. What's that quote?
I believe it's by Margaret Atwood. "Men are afraid women will laugh at them. Women are afraid men will kill them."
Just something to chew on. 😘
that guy was not attacked.
A lot of people disagreed with that. Both male and female. Popping out a very old quote does not make you right. You only have an opinion like everyone else. But that absolutism is why I wouldn’t recommend anyone post a thread anymore.
Carry on and keep chewing on whatever you will.
Well since I was put on hold until April 2nd, and this matter has been weighing on my mind since it happened.
Heres more details. Why would she immediately deactivate her account instead of just blocking me, reporting me, and leave me negative karma. We had snuggledthe night before, zero red flags, convo good sniggle nice. We were originally booked for the next night, after the cuddle ended she asked if I would like to cuddle again tomorrow which was supposed to be our og cuddle date March 18. I agreed. I have zero foot fetish and for me a massage is nothing more than a kind platonic way to help someone relax. SHE brought the foot lotion. and my hands never strayed above her calf muscle. I mentioned I'm crippled because unless you are you can't understand how much more difficult things are , it's an if ya know you know.it takes a special evilness to take advantage of disabled or elderly or those who lives are harder for one reason or another. Disabled people will tell you, it's often a lonely existence. In general I think a lot of this community is faux friendly.
And yes, there's only one side of the story because SHE deactivated her account whereas I have nothing to hide.no negative karma on my og account. I just can't believe that I was having such a horrible experience so reached out for a little community support and was met with so many negative responses about me. That's why it's a fake friendly community.
No calling out people by name in a public post over a private grievance. You were already warned about this. - BlueIris
Was her nameo
Great, now we are banning people for no reason.
Users should have access to performance reports of moderators, would love to see how many people each one banned.
anyone who needs it. Also, continued pot stirring at this level with all your comments here will get you banned -Stormy
No reason? Guy ban evaded. Technically suspension evaded. In every community that's grounds for banning both accounts. Not only did he ban evaded, he called her out again by name, which he was warned about.
@RomeoSap The OP’s account isn’t suspended or banned. Go to page one and see.
Hugs to everyone here who is hurting and wants a hug. I think there is a lot of pain on both sides. I can see it so clearly.
For me, I've said it like this to try and explain: I've had so little to eat in my life. But when I eat, my stomach doesn't know what to do with the food anymore and I get sick. I can't take in the nutrients.
I have compassion for anyone here who has trouble digesting, for anyone here who sometimes gets mad at the cook, and for the cook who is just trying to help.
@TheFunCartel feel free to disagree with crime statistics against women all day long. That would be just telling on yourself. And that's certainly a choice lol
@billiam Well said and I wish you could have been the first to respond to the OP. That was eloquent and non-judgmental and a shining example of what the site should look like. 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
It's quite the contrast to witness someone literally walking to the ATM to lodge their earnings after leaving a cuddling session early that a disabled man paid for because he can't get it any other way... and then be prevented from saying the username of the person that scammed him.
@SpicyNSweet may I ask where @TheFunCartel disagreed with crime statistics against women?
@Morpheus by dismissing the quote, for one. Women are at higher risk, period. None of us know what happened in this particular situation besides the pro and the OP, but excusing his bad behavior because he may have been scammed isn't it. You're allowed to be in pain and be upset. Wishing harm on others is just gross.
While a lot of cuddle sessions really are relaxing and enjoyable, with just as many we interact with people who are touch starved and a little wacky. And there are degrees of wackiness for sure. Many professionals are not prepared for the types of interactions that we regularly come across. I highly suggest each pro spend as much time as possible in the pro forums on the beginner posts. Reach out to other pros for suggestions too. With experience comes knowledge and pattern recognition. If someone is starting to act funny, it’s up to us to correct their behavior, which can get dangerous, so a lot of unseasoned pros just leave, and they are well within their rights to do so. If a pro flees your session for “no reason” after an “innocent footrub” that couldn’t possibly be construed as a fetish, sure, it’s possible that she’s a scammer, statistically there’s a chance of it. Women also often carry lotion in their bags, that doesn’t mean she suggested the foot rub or even fully realized the gravity of what she was consenting to. She could’ve handed the lotion over, maybe genuinely thought it would’ve been an innocent massage, and then op started to act up and she needed to withdrawal consent and leave in order to regain her safety. But reading how op is interacting with others on here is really painting quite a picture for his nature: very angry, entitled, and vindictive.
@SpicyNSweet how can his bad behavior be excused when as you said, we don’t know what happened? We don’t know if in fact there was any bad behavior. Also I don’t see where @TheFunCartel is disagreeing with crime statistics against statistics against women.
His bad behavior here. His nasty words here. THAT'S what I'm talking about. Feel free to behave disingenuously. I'm not concerned. ✌️
@CarrieCo @SpicyNSweet
The man had a stroke that paralyzed half of his body. How would you feel if that had been you and someone appears to have scammed you and taken your money. Would you be a little upset?
....That's his story. We don't know him. We don't know her. People are allowed to have questions and feelings in response to posts here, buddy. Breathe. 😂 Obviously scamming people is disgusting. I'm also a disabled person, and I know very well how I would feel.
@Morpheus contacting that (pro you or anyone else) in situations like these were the name is shared (which is against the rules) will get you banned. Posting her name up there and circumventing a timeout is unacceptable behavior from the OP.
We have let this thread, go absolutely the wild, but that doesn’t mean people can break rules. I have been so chill to that OP comparatively. So he needs to follow the rules like everyone else.
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Okay. I'm not sure what that has to do with my reply though.