Job Burn out

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• AmberUK

  March 20 edited March 20

  are you just talking about pro cuddle people? Sorry I have zero brain function atm, so I guess that kinda answers your question for me....
• Brandi

  March 20

  @AmberUK I opened the chat to hear from everyone and their perspective on their job.:)
  But I am especially curious in hearing how pros view other jobs they may have aside from cuddling, if it is as difficult for them to feel invested in it because that’s been my struggle. Other jobs seem meaningless and soulless to me after being pro cuddler which gives me purpose and full freedom to be myself & makes it harder to be invested at a corporate/retail situation.
• AmberUK

  March 20

  @Brandi I work in care, so I guess it is the same area. I hate it. I am just getting reading for my 8/9 night shift in a row. I am beyond exhausted. Did I say how much I hate this job?
• Morpheus

  March 20

  I love my job but I was getting burnt out due to the specific area I work in which is extremely challenging. I took a promotion 2 months agao and I’m ridiculously happy.
• Brandi

  March 20

  @AmberUK dang I’m sorry, yea most people that work in healthcare seem to have the same story of being completely exhausted all the time.
  Your a trooper and much appreciated for helping people in need at the expense of your own sanity 😂 🤗
• AmberUK

  March 20

  @Brandi Bold of you to assume I had any sanity when I started this job
• Brandi

  March 20

  @AmberUK oh goodness you’re so right my apologies for the assumption 😂 😂 ♥️
• HUGGGGGG

  March 20 edited March 20

  Pro burnouts are relatively common due to a myriad of reasons and very normal … the mechanism is somewhat similar but different from common jobs though
• Brandi

  March 20

  @HUGGGGGG oh no just to be very clear I’m not burnt out from cuddling at all. Quite the opposite actually. Im talking about my other job and hating that work environment and I think it’s because I find purpose in cuddling that any other job I seem to have seems meaningless.
• HUGGGGGG

  March 20

  Sorry I should have read your message earlier properly before quickly responding
• Jubal

  March 20

  "Find something that you enjoy doing and you won't feel like you're going to work" Wish I could remember who told me that - coz it's true.
• cuddlefaery

  March 20

  I've crashed and burned in a number of different professions for various reasons over the years. Just because you love doing something doesn't necessarily protect from burnout, either.

  My first full-time, in-school teaching job I had lasted 1.5 years before I burned out, gave a month's notice, and quit mid-year 🤦🏻‍♀️ Between incredibly low pay, terrible administration, lack of social support outside of school, and personal issues, I just hit a wall where I couldn't do it any more. I absolutely love teaching, it's my life's calling - but making the equivalent of $11/hour, having to work a 2nd job on top of teaching 50+ hours a week AND unpaid prep time, all while having to start paying down student loan debt and having admins actively undermining classroom management? Just way, way too much. The teachers that persevere in situations like that are absolute rock stars.

  More recently burnout has more been due the combo of having to piece together a living wage while navigating health challenges.

  Whatever the cause of burnout, I hope folks are able to find the support they need to get into a more sustainable situation!
• Brandi

  March 20

  @cuddlefaery oh yes absolutely the biggest respect to teachers. I feel like everyone I’ve ever talked to feel like teachers are complete rockstars and do deserve so much more. I still have multiple teachers I think about to this day and they were complete angels in my life. Hopefully things change in the near future around that. 😭
• cuddlefaery

  March 20

  As far as how to deal with it: self care, self care, SELF CARE!

  Finding supportive community
  Speaking with a mental health professional
  Scheduling time/making sure basic care tasks are getting priority (hygiene, health, etc.)
  Finding moments of stillness, quiet, beauty, or escape
  Making an exit plan, breaking it down into manageable steps
  Screaming into the void from time to time 😅
• Brandi

  March 20

  Hah! Love it! Thank you! Yes definitely prioritizing mental health right now. And a scream into the void is definitely something I should consider 😂

  Today is day 10 sober and clear minded, and ready to jump back into meditation and mini work outs, I just wish it wasn’t so darn hot 🥵 haha. But it must be done! 🙌
  Much appreciate the helpful tips!
• TheFunCartel

  March 21

  Pure opinion here based on experience and time. I think the younger you are the more likely you are to be burned out and hate your job, while the older you are the less likely that is to happen. I would have hated my job in my 20s and now I love my job. This is because everyone starts at the bottom and you are the least powerful at the start or you have no idea what career you actually want. Now after years of trying on different hats, owning a business, and finally finding my calling for the last 20+ years—I am truly happy in my work and the people I work with. Just my two cents from decades of ups and downs perspective.
• mokissia

  March 21

  I am totally burned out from my 9-5 with a major micromanaging regional manager. 😡 I’ve even considered cuddling fulltime and building a business of herbs and products. Looking for a more peaceful calm life.
• xandriarain

  March 21

  I would say I’m somewhere in the middle between I only work to survive my job and I thrive at my job and love it. I do love the work itself as a cuddle therapist, which I’ve been doing full time since 2019. So if I lived in a perfect world, where I always had enough business but not too much, could teleport to sessions without having to drive, had a team of people doing my marketing and bookkeeping and all other admin tasks I would not have a single complaint. However, the reality of being a business owner, no matter how much you love the service or product your business sells is stressful and when you already feel depleted from other areas of your life, it’s hard to pour a lot of energy into your business. I was coasting for a while with a good group of regulars but now I’m fighting an uphill battle to get new clients and get things back on track.
• fireylady

  March 21

  I got severely burnt out from the traditional workplace. I've been doordashing the past 2 years and just started cuddling. I'm hoping with these 2 streams of income, I can make ends meet. The thought of returning to the workplace makes me cringe.
• Comet85

  March 21 edited March 21

  I’m burnt out at my job but it’s because of significant changes that have happened in the last few years. From 2012 to 2022, which was most of my 30s, it was a dream workplace. Got a few promotions, felt excited to be a lifer and retire from here. Ten good years of consistent good quality. New CFO in 2021 and new CEO in 2022, things start changing for the worse. Best boss I ever had was forced out 18 months ago, more things got worse… job thoroughly enshittified. More than half the staff are here less than 3 years, commitment and morale are low, which is real bad for a nonprofit.

  Reconsidering being a lifer, which is heartbreaking. The future ain’t what it used to be.
• wilderdude

  March 21

  Long haul trucker for 22 years. So much has changed. Every year gets a bit worse. Expenses to revenue and the number of lousy people I have to deal with. It's funny when I started I remember older drivers talking about how much better it was in "their day" and now stuff has changed so much I'm in the same spot lol

  I think a lot of it has to do with foolish pride of some drivers. You can never complain about mistreatment at shippers, brokers etc. They seem to wear it as a badge of honor lol "what are you complaining about I deal with all that plus the shipper kicks me in the groin 3x on my way out". Ride/inconsiderate fellow drivers, the young batch has no respect. Truck stops pinch pennies and give the worst service/amenities.

  Looking into what I should train for to shift over to.
• cuddlefaery

  March 21

  @wilderdude yeah, my dad was a truck driver, mostly regional though some periods of long haul over the years. He retired just before the pandemic, so I can only imagine what impact that has had. He started out as being extremely anti-union, but over the years the burnout set in and he started getting active in his union as a means to try to improve things. It got bad enough he almost quit just before retirement, after 40ish years on the road.
• Mike403

  March 21

  I work a warehouse job with a lot of mandatory overtime. Up to 12 hours per day(Monday-Friday) with one mandatory Saturday per month. The paychecks are nice though.
• Huggycatbear

  March 21

  I think it's working in the system for someone else's dream, couple with a government that not only doesn't care about us, but is malicious to squeeze every last drop out of us. We work and make inches just to slide back when something happens in our life.

  From what I am reading here, I can gather that many of us want to venture off into our own unique life. Have our own schedules, and go for the type of currency that brings us joy. Not just money, which we need to survive and have access to some of these joys, but also joy itself is a currency. Or social connections. Many things can be currency. Peace of mind for example.

  Many of us are just biding our time until we can set out on such an unique adventure where all us can feel truly integrated in this world, not for others, but on our own terms.

  I do think creativity is key here. I wish you all well on your journeys and I hope every one of us finds this!