On eBay you can see response rate for sellers so you can see how long they typically take to respond to messages.
I think it would be a useful feature to have on Cuddle Comfort for pro cuddlers?
So, something happens somewhat frequently that bruises my fragile male ego.
I'll reach out to a cuddler and will later see that they visited my profile. However, sometimes they will never reply. Happens more with enthusiasts but also happens with pros. Now I know that life happens and we are all busy.
I even will write back "Cuddlers are a friendly lot. Feel free to let me know if you aren't interested." Oftentimes to no avail.
I would appreciate any reply. If anything, it would stop me from "spamming" them with another reach out at a later date.
I do realize that it works both ways. I can only imagine how often cuddlers get flooded with messages from someone to only have the person ghost them after a conversation has started.
That's all. Just venting. (Obviously it happened recently to me.)
Chickens do not have webbed feet or waterproof feathers
No response is a response. Period.
@consciousseeker and the pain is real. But yes... I hear you. Same thing happens on dating apps. People send a like and when you respond oftentimes no response.
My fragile ego doesn't handle it well.
Merging with Unanswered Messages With Pros in pro cuddling forum
There are times that I don’t answer back due to the nature of the original message. In most cases though not replying back is simply because a message got buried. That being said, I’m not sure what causes other professional cuddlers not to answer. Maybe some require things like a profile picture or a pic along with the first message?? I’m only guessing here! On another note, I have plenty of guys who reach out to me but then fail to respond when I message back. In some cases they reach back out again several months later
I answer all messages. We are all adults and should be able to handle rejection in whatever form, AND for whatever reason. If I don't feel comfortable or it's just not a good connection whatever it may be I do politely decline a session with said person. I also have a message on my profile, hopefully people still read those lol, stating that if I'm not answering you right away there is a reason however you will get a message back. Because I do realize in this type of setting IE online, messages can get buried in the inbox or unseen for whatever reason. ☺️
I figured that if somebody hasn’t responded in months, I’m not going to try it again. They have had their opportunity and obviously decided not to respond. Move on.
It just means they don't want your money. I would forget them and just move on
I've recently had an experience with a pro that was enthusiastic about meeting me, but ghosted/flaked on me the day of our appointment with no explanation as to why.
We spoke through the messaging on this site, then went on to texting each other to confirm the details of the appointment. We seemed to had hit it off pretty well, and like I said, she was looking forward to seeing me; said it multiple times through text in fact.
But for whatever reason, she completely flaked on our session. I texted her a few times asking if everything was ok; maybe she was stuck in traffic or something, but no response. Then the next day, I see that she signed on here, but still, no messages or anything mentioning why she flaked out.
It's very disappointing and disheartening to have to experience that, especially since she was my first cuddle session and that I just signed up on this site about a week ago. I had to leave a low score on her karma because of it. And she has great karma from other clients; I think I'm the first one to leave a bad one.
My thing is, if you can't make an appointment, just let me know so that we can either reschedule, or we can just go our separate ways and I'll find someone else to session with. You don't have to give me an explanation as to why you couldn't make it, just a simple "hey I'm sorry, could we reschedule? Something came up" would be fine.
And for those that's asking, yes, I sent her a photo of myself; I know my profile pic isn't me 😅
@DLouisSD sorry you went through that. I also value communication as an important lead-up to a successful cuddle session. If the pro really was a no show and she was supposed to be a guest to an agreed session, I would suggest making a report. Let the mods sort it out.
Question for the Professional Cuddlers Here
I’ve been wondering about something and would genuinely appreciate your perspective.
I always read profiles carefully and try to send thoughtful, personalized messages rather than a generic “Hi.” Even so, many of my messages never receive a reply.
I’m not complaining, and I understand that people are busy and receive many inquiries. I’m simply trying to understand what makes you decide to respond to one person and not another.
Is it the profile, the photos, the first message, the timing, or something else?
I’m always open to improving how I present myself and communicate. If anyone would be willing to offer honest, constructive feedback or take a quick look at my profile. I’d truly appreciate it.
@zephyrzen
I can’t speak for all pros but I will say that I answer every single message if it’s respectful and it’s more than just a “hey”. If I’m bored, sometimes I’ll even answer the “hey” ones, but not often. If you are sending a nice, personally written message to a pro, I can’t understand why you wouldn’t get a message back unless they’re busy 🤷🏻♀️ Your profile is very informative and gives a nice peek into who you are as a person. You seem very sweet and I get the vibe you would be a kind person to have a cuddle with.
You have a photo, you state your name, you say what makes a great cuddle for yourself, you mention what you can also offer in a cuddle which is a nice touch. The only thing I would pick out would be when you used the word “open minded”. That phrase often means “open to do more or do other things” and can sometimes have a sexual intent. I don’t think that’s what you were going for at all when you write it but that’s literally the only thing I could pick out of your whole profile that could give a different meaning.
You seem sweet. Not sure why a pro wouldn’t answer 🤷🏻♀️
I was a Male Pro cuddler for many years. I cuddled everyone. I didn’t base my replies on how someone looked, I based them them on how I could help them through their cuddle needs. I wanted my cuddles to be therapeutic and actually help those I cuddled. Age, sex, race, gender identity, looks, disabilities had nothing to do with it.
There’s no way to predict how another person (who is basically a stranger) is going to behave and we can’t control others whether it’s a stranger here or someone you’ve known for years. Why get so frustrated over things you don’t get to control. Best advice is to move on.
Looks like the consensus here is most Pros DON'T respond to low effort message and DO attempt their best to respond to thoughtfully written message when they can, even if they are declining the request without giving a reason. I thought it might be helpful to share which messages I do respond to.
Messages that I will prioritize to responding to include:
@great_pillow08 “Males are afraid women will laugh at them. Women are afraid males will kill them” is 100% accurate. Unfortunately this is the reality for us women. If our intuition says run for hills, we are already past the mountains.
@consciousseeker "no response is a response." Exactly, it's completely valid to be disappointed and upset about it. Don't waste your energy ruminating just move on. You can never know what is going on or how they are feeling. There can be a bijillion reasons for the lack of the response and maybe none.
@Sheena123 "open-minded" I concur. This term is used in the Swinger & Lifestyle Community as a person or couple is willing to step outside traditional monogamy and standard sexual norms to explore non-monogamy, group sex, or varied erotic experiences. So I would have received it as seeking someone willing to explore outside of the Terms of Service in a sexual manner.