It’s really concerning, how often the conversation changes and I get asked if I have a “menu” once the conversation leaves the site.
I looked it up on Reddit, and redirect them to sites where they can find that service instead of trying to pressure cuddle pros to do more.
I’ve also met with new clients that have shared how escorts will flood them with messages to trying to quickly get the conversation off the platform.
@KNoana the answer to your question is:
Because it is explicitly prohibited in the rules... https://www.cuddlecomfort.com/terms/general :
Profile photos We have strict rules for what photos you are allowed to upload to your profile. You agree to only upload photos of yourself that are fully clothed and non-suggestive, even to a mild degree (e.g. shirtless, focus on cleavage or backside). Your photos must also avoid potentially offensive poses or gestures, and your primary photo should be of you, not someone else.
Profile photos
We have strict rules for what photos you are allowed to upload to your profile.
You agree to only upload photos of yourself that are fully clothed and non-suggestive, even to a mild degree (e.g. shirtless, focus on cleavage or backside). Your photos must also avoid potentially offensive poses or gestures, and your primary photo should be of you, not someone else.
(though i admit big boobed women really do get the short end of the stick with the whole "focus on cleavage" thing. Try wearing any top and not do that naturally)
I wish professional head shots were the standard here. I like that about cuddlist
If someone is having a difficult time understanding simple concepts that many others get immediately isn’t my problem.
@tacpmurg I have read that before and is why my language states "suggestive". It is unfair towards women who are curvaceous or whose body has larger breasts or backside. What is suggestive is subjective and depending upon the background of the people who are reviewing the photos can affect how someone is evaluated. If a guy just reports a woman's photos based on his own bias, than that is unfair as well.
@KNoana and thats why mods exist.. they review it
Our mods are very very good lol
@KNoana I'm going to amplify a bit on what @tacpmurg said - there's a world of difference between a a very busty woman in a photo who naturally has ample cleavage visible in ordinary attire vs a woman wearing something like revealing lingerie or a see through top (regardless of her bust size).
The latter could reasonably be viewed by mods as breaking the previously mentioned rule.
The of the title of this post really spoke to me. I think there is so much truth in the title choice to address women over pros or sw or men, since its the men crossing your boundaries. Spinning tales about how easy it is for him to get services other than cuddles...thats why he showed up to cuddle with you because the other ladies (who if they offer more than cuddles seem to make it pretty clear) sent him to you, to cross your boundaries. Because by addressing "ladies" v "cuddle comfort" it acknowledges that as a man he is not in control of his sexual urges, and the problem is women taking advantage of this masculine vulnerability. He couldnt possibly be there because he enjoys crossing boundaries, nope, the poor man was tricked. Cc has parameters to make sure we dont share info it doesnt want us to, but these people are still here and bothering all of us. I'm sorry that some cuddlers have crossed your boundaries, and I can see how it is easy to believe boundary pushers when they tell you everyone else is jumping off the bridge. The people who cross your boundaries, especially in person, know we are there for platonic cuddles, they don't care. No amount of blaming ourselves or other women is going to stop them. There is no magic word or ratio of clothing to skin to stop their entitlement. At best, they think 'doesnt hurt to ask'. At worst, they do it to belittle your boundaries and make you feel platonic cuddling is illegitimate. Like others have said, there would have to be structural change to the site to enforce integrity. If you would like help with vetting I can offer my experience but tbh I havent cuddled in months because I don't feel safe, so I don't want to mislead you and say no one ever slips through my cracks.
Also, in case my sarcasm wasnt clear, I dont believe men, women or nonbinary people are predatory by nature, I think predatory people use gender bias to manipulate and push boundaries.
Gaslighting is the primary tool of most grifters, predators, ne’er-do-wells, frauds, politicians, CEOs, and forum fake accounts. So of course they will tell you what they want you to believe.
Wow you guys really get sensitive to a photo of an outfit I was wearing at a bar. Just because it’s lace doesn’t mean nude undergarments don’t exist. Having large breasts is not a crime. That’s what I look like. My rate is what it is. I have to pay a nanny 20 and hour to cuddle and her start time isn’t the start time of my session it takes time to travel to and from and I uber don’t drive. That is what my time costs. It’s a fair price. I live in Vegas an hour in a gentleman’s club with a dancer with no extras is 1k. Escorts are the same if not more. Idk what this witch hunt is but I’m not the one. I’m just seeing this thread and it’s really sad how people get mad about the wrong things. Hope some of you find something that makes you happy in life cause this thread isn’t it.
@justpopcorn I see you live in Vegas. My pricing is quite fair for the location. My nanny is 20 an hour my uber ranges from 20-30 each way most of the time. I have never had a client complain about their time and do not book clients that look for extras. Also that is what I look like in person. When arrive I cannot hide my body no matter what I wear. It’s not ok to attack women for their appearance and to suggest they are doing more based on what they look like. If my price offends there are plenty of pros within your price range.
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@LeilaBags I wouldn't pay much attention to the whataboutisms if you can manage to tune them out. An alarming number of threads on this forum quickly move from complaining about prices, to low level misogyny, to body & slut shaming, and then outright misogyny. I let myself get dragged into arguing with brick walls more often than I ought for my own sanity, but at least many will end up outing themselves for the mods and other women 🤷🏻♀️
@cuddlefaery thanks yeah I didn’t let it get to me just wanted to clear things up. And thanks for the kind words. 🤗
@LeilaBags I have cuddled with you and we have had amazing conversation. I felt completely safe. Never once did I assume it would be anything else. You talked worldly things with wisdom and cared for me as a person.
Yes, she is attractive. She also showed up with grace and respect. Made it easy to honor her for coming to my sanctuary.
We live in the desert with 115 summers. People either wear less outside or long sleeves depending on what they choose for their bodies. I've hiked in the summer without a shirt, short shorts and a hell of a lot of sunscreen.
Why can I wear what I wear even in at park where families are playing with their kids and a dog, and she can't? Nobody blinks an eye.
Somebody says they are not here to judge but then they do. Single her out. The gaslighting says more about them than her. She shouldn't have to be put on the spot to have to defend herself. But once again, she shows up with class.
@Huggycatbear Thank you so much for the kind words! Hope you are doing well! A lot of people don’t realize about the desert heat or the Vegas life. The pics I posted here are also on my social media. To some they seem suggestive to others it’s just a normal day in the life. Can’t please everyone. Hopefully Vegas isn’t too hot. I’ve been staying cool in Santa Monica lately but I I’ll be back in town Friday. 🤗
@LeilaBags, and also others - please notice I always said she's free to wear and post anything she wants. If there was no issue with her pictures - one of which was a see-through underwear - why did she take them down?
Also wanna point out that when justifying her "fair price" in the comment above, @LeilaBags referenced the prices of strip clubs and escorts only, and not of a therapist or any other profession on this earth, even though the purpose of this site is supposed to be completely different than sex work. I wonder why that is? @justpopcorn The thing about staying just the right side of the line is that if you do cross it you go directly to jail; you do not pass Go, you do not collect £200. Be very careful.
I wonder why that is?
Because those would be the prices you are the most familiar with.
@LeilaBags you don’t need to explain yourself to anyone - perhaps choose to delete your explanations - keep yourself safe. Just be the best version of you for yourself in your life.
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Some random works on self-objectification:
https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S1740144520304393
https://childmind.org/article/what-selfies-are-doing-to-girls-self-esteem/
https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/15213269.2020.1817091
mmm , i had written out this long well thought out post, but then i remembered this forum just likes drama.
So instead I will say my observation is that a lot of you dont care much at all about fixing the situation from either side, are both benefiting from the mess in your own ways, and platonic cuddling is suffering as a result just like the OP has stated.
Best bet for navigating this mess is find reliable cuddlers you can feel safe with.
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Honestly , I blame our government.. if they just decriminalized sexwork , they could openly advertise and communities like this wouldnt be impacted.
The title spoke to me also. Maybe men should not totally think higher pricing will mean SW activity. I understand both views. The pictures were removed for a reason though. 🙉🙈🙊 Is it our business to call it out on a forum post? Hmmm. That kept things honest but spicy. I'll stick to just report what you see and let the mods take care of it.
@justpopcorn M, you were comparing her to a SW , so, that is why she only referenced those that fell into that category..Her point being, if she wanted to be a dancer that could get $1k for platonic dancing or a SW for $1k and more she could easily find the work in Vegas. She is Not a SW, she is a platonic cuddler .. So, not only are you insulting those of us that have a fee over $100 by insinuating that we are all SW, you are also insinuating that we are dirt cheap SW’s.. I don’t know which is more insulting really.. just Stop! 🛑 Funny, your mannerism and long posts ring a familiar tune.. You write exactly like some other person who used to complain about high fees and insult Pros on a daily basis… also funny how you and two others that are “ new” here as of April 2026.. all three of you “ newbies” are writing long paragraphs about the same things..M. 🤔 is it just me? Does anyone else here notice this? All three newbies on this thread , they all just joined the site last week.. all three making the same complaints and judgements. Hmm 🧐.. then we have the midnight owl demanding to see charts and statistics rather than have respect for other people’s opinions and experiences on the site..
This. I’m here strictly for platonic cuddles, but the vast majority of messages I get are from escorts or SWs who initiate unsolicited conversations with me. They always want to take it off the site and things quickly go downhill from there. It’s sad. I feel like when I first joined, it wasn’t like that, but it’s gotten much worse over the past couple of years.
@quincyq03 If you are seeing this, are you reporting them? It does no good to come to the forum to complain. If you receive unsolicited messages, see any profiles that are non-platonic then report them. The Mods will figure it out. They are volunteers and don’t spend the day looking for problems here. They depend on us to report those profiles.
@Carrie_Anne I’m not coming here to complain. Just observation that many share. Most of the messages in my inbox are listed as paused, banned, deleted or deactivated. I’m not on here much anymore because of it. I usually don’t get the chance to report someone before they’re already kicked off, so at least that’s a good sign.
Others get reported and they’re right back a short time after and it’s not my role to chase after mods.
It just happens a lot in the first place, which saddens me.
Since anyone can become a cuddler with little to no formal training, there’s been an increase in people coming here for nefarious reasons. Not shaming any SWs, but it’s the truth.
I wish there was some way for better screening or more formal training to weed out potential bad actors.
@quincyq03 Thanks for explaining, I get where you’re coming from. Definitely agree that there should be better screening. In fact it’s something people constantly bring up, yet I get the feeling it will never happen because the owner doesn’t want to discourage membership so we’re all left to figure out how to stay safe on our own. You bring up a lot of good points. 🤗
@justpopcorn It's ok to disagree and debate, but have some integrity about it. You've gone too far. If you want respect, be respectful.
@justpopcorn you’re a clown low iq troll dude. Personal insults are not permitted. You have agreed to be "civil and respectful", so please be so. Last warning both for you and everybody else in this thread. - @CuddleDuncan
and also others - please notice I always said she's free to wear and post anything she wants. Then stop talking about what she is wearing.If there was no issue with her pictures - one of which was a see-through underwear - why did she take them down?because you singled her out and are bullying her about what she is wearing
Also wanna point out that when justifying her "fair price" in the comment above, @LeilaBags referenced the prices of strip clubs and escorts only, and not of a therapist or any other profession on this earth, even though the purpose of this site is supposed to be completely different than sex work. I wonder why that is?because when you were in the process of bullying and singling her out YOU first brought up the issue of sex work saying she does it. She intelligently responded with evidence supporting why you are wrong. Are you a clown or just that bad at picking on people?
@justpopcorn See above. you are just insecure that a girl that looks like that would never give you the time of day in real life. Typical predictable soft man behavior.
@justpopcorn i didn’t take my pics down someone reported them. As for the prices of sw that’s to explain and show the differences since people assume we do more for 180-200 an hour when sw charge much more. If I charged you what my long time psychologist charged me hourly you’d be really upset. 😂