Background checks and ethical concerns

[Deleted User]ttruman52 (deleted user)
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I’ve got a question. In certain professions there are always background checks, however nowadays what’s becoming more common is the background checks of social media and other profiles of applicants, regardless of what they are. With that in mind I’ve seen friends lose job opportunities just for having certain types of profiles, these weren’t even ones like OF or anything like that, (just dating profiles) their reason? ‘It’s the appearance of potential unethical behavior’ that companies don’t want to hire someone. I did not know this prior to creating a profile. So now I have concerns about if a profile with this platform has potentially damaged my chance at a career in my field I’m studying to start in, even if I delete this profile it will still show up on a check, any advice on how to navigate this issue? Every person I’ve talked to has only told me, ‘it depends on the employer, I don’t know son,’ or my personal favorite ‘should’ve thought about that beforehand.’

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  • BearBear

    Looks like you’ve been on here for about nine years. Has it been an issue yet? Do you use the email for other things? I got a totally separate email for this account as well as dating apps but not my regular email account.

    I’m not even sure how they would track you here in on a social media page if they’re not the same email

  • biancalovecraftbiancalovecraft
    edited April 9

    You sound paranoid and I don't blame you. However I doubt you would be scrutinized to that degree unless you were joining the CIA or something. And they wouldn't care.
    Also, cuddling is highly ethical.
    Are you looking to be a lawyer? Wait till you see what those guys get up to lol

  • [Deleted User]ttruman52 (deleted user)

    Apparently I signed up for this back in college and completely forgot about it until I tried to sign up for it again a couple weeks ago, and as far as I know, no issues yet, but then again I’m not in my career field yet. It’s more a proactive question

  • TheFunCartelTheFunCartel
    edited April 9

    At your age you should know by now that the internet is forever. Also, it does depend on the employer. My employer definitely checks social media and anything else they can find because they have a “character” clause in the employment agreement that if anything reflects poorly on the company’s reputation they can terminate without cause. I know of one lady in our KC office that was terminated when they found out about a couple of porn movies she did 15 years earlier through her social media. She was an exemplary employee and she was fired on the spot and when she sued she lost quickly.

    With that being said cuddling and porn are two different animals and I think one could make the argument that cuddling is a beneficial tool that alleviates stress.

    Edit: I will add this to reduce your worry. The company I work for is under super conservative ownership who thinks the world should be like “Father Knows Best”. I am the polar opposite of everything they believe in but I do not have any social media and I keep my thoughts about their beliefs to myself. In addition, I have made them millions by bringing in clients and new revenue streams they never thought of so even if i did decide to have social media they would most likely take the position of “see no evil, hear no evil”. They love me so much that when I was out of work for 8 months due to major surgery they continued to pay me my full salary and got mad when I tried doing some work during recovery. But at the same time I am not going to poke the bear.

    All this to say that policies are relative to your value and their self interests.

  • bluefish281bluefish281

    If you set your profile to where it can only be viewed by other members you're good unless someone who knows more about technology can correct me on that. However, for extra precaution, I wouldn't have photos in my profile or a username that could be linked to me. You can send photos in the DMs. People are understanding about that.

  • disneysamuraidisneysamurai

    I’d be more worried about having something like TikTok where you’re making videos. That I know has gotten people in trouble at work and has significantly hurt their chances of being employable.

  • pmvinespmvines

    I mean , if you're that worried about it you could always of course delete your profile and never go online again . Easy peasey.

  • cuddlefaerycuddlefaery

    There's plenty of guides online on how to secure your various accounts. And one of the easiest tools is to Google yourself - try different variations of your name and location, as well as any contact information you've provided your employer/prospective employer. Most background checks run by companies on prospective employees are very surface level checking criminal history and that the info you provided is accurate. They're unlikely to dig deeper unless 1) they are a high security business, 2) you give them reason to dig.

  • disneysamuraidisneysamurai

    What’s funny is the first few years I was on this site, my real name was my user name. Don’t ask why but I didn’t think about it because I didn’t start actively using the site until about two years ago when I did change my name.

  • JohnR1972JohnR1972

    Elvis has left the building. The OP has deleted his account.

  • TheFunCartelTheFunCartel

    The OP deleted his account when I found his social media and sent him a message suggesting as much. Can’t be too cautious.

  • SqueezeBuddySqueezeBuddy
    edited April 10

    In a high-vulnerability field like professional cuddling, background checks are the ultimate safeguard for both parties. Beyond screening for serious felonies or a history of harassment, these checks provide essential insight into a person’s integrity, flagging everything from past theft and shoplifting to patterns of professional dishonesty. Using a name or phone number on sites like PeopleFinders allows you to verify that a practitioner is safe rather than a "grey market" actor, ensuring that the person entering your private space is reliable and won’t cause any security issues.

  • JohnR1972JohnR1972

    “PeopleFinders allows you to verify that a practitioner is safe rather than a "grey market" actor”

    I could not disagree more.
    According to the DOJ’s Bureau of Justice Statistics, only 37% of r*pe defendants had a previous felony conviction (for anything) and roughly 50% had any legal conviction (misdemeanor or felony) for anything.
    https://bjs.ojp.gov/content/pub/pdf/fdluc09.pdf

    This means if you did a full criminal background check, you would, AT BEST, have a 50-50 chance of screening out r*pists. That is a far cry from “verifying a practitioner is safe”.

    In addition, there are a lot more men doing inappropriate things that are below the threshold of r*pe. How many of them are going to get filtered out via a PeopleFinder, Intelius, Spokeo, Been Verified, etc. search?

    Then there are people like me who, even if I gave you my full name and address, would not appear in any people finder search because I have taken steps to have myself removed from all those websites.

  • SweetCuddler33SweetCuddler33
    edited April 11

    Full name, Birthdate and license plate number = municipal/superior court case search, ( public record) …

  • SweetCuddler33SweetCuddler33

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  • SweetCuddler33SweetCuddler33

    Safety.. I let potential clients know this is my safety protocol. If they don’t want to give their ID, info, they are welcome to see someone else. No worries. I also let a safety person know where I am and who I am with.. I have not had any issues and my clients are fine with it 😃

  • SweetCuddler33SweetCuddler33

    🦗 🦗🦗

  • JohnR1972JohnR1972

    I have a government issued, photo ID that can only be obtained by providing fingerprints and passing a comprehensive background check that goes far beyond a standard criminal background check.

    I will not email it or upload it to ANY website but I am fine with showing it in person to someone I meet at a public location. If that isn’t good enough, no hard feelings but it simply isn’t meant to be. Peace.

  • SweetCuddler33SweetCuddler33
    edited April 11

    @JohnR1972 👍 no one should ever email or upload their ID 🪪 to any cuddler or website ., In person Only 👍 The extra background check on top of seeing the ID in person is to make sure it’s REAL 😃 Safety , safety safety 😃 Another very important thing is to always let the cuddler know that a safety person will have their info too.. you MUST let them know .. just having their info isn’t good enough without telling them your safety friend knows too! Send it to your friend BEFORE you go to the cuddle location. A person is less likely to commit a crime or harm someone when they know that a safety person has their information too! 😃 yay!

  • SweetCuddler33SweetCuddler33

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  • AntiqueWpatinaAntiqueWpatina

    I'm wondering how many pro-cuddlers have criminal records. Would it be reasonable to see their ID?

  • [Deleted User]Relaxation_budd (deleted user)

    Simply, this is your personal life that no one has the right to ask you about. If that job prevents you from doing what you like in your personal life, then I won't like to put myself in your shoes.

  • HuggycatbearHuggycatbear
    edited April 11

    Absolutely @Thenewestguy

    And do public record checks on them as well. Sometimes it's just as easy to find they have duplicate accounts and report them.

    Esp since most clients have to host.

    I also share my with a trustworthy friend that I havs a cuddler over. I do check-ins with a friend if I travel to meet the cuddler.

  • SweetCuddler33SweetCuddler33
    edited April 11

    Not likely that a Pro cuddler woman is a threat , attacker, rapist/serial killer preying on men.. but, Ok.., sure 👍 I don’t mind showing my ID once I have theirs first 😃 I check into nice Hotels 🏨 when I travel , they ask to see my ID and make model /license plates of my car .. no problem 😃 I don’t host at any of my homes . One is a doorman building in Manhattan UES and my McMansion in NJ is in a gated community ., I’m not worried about stalkers or being harassed . 911, 👮 and my legally registered friends in their locked boxes in both homes will be there to greet anyone who stops by uninvited 😃 yay!

  • AntiqueWpatinaAntiqueWpatina

    @SweetCudddler33 Well, I checked someone that seemed unsavory. As it turned out, she had a record. Not for a rape or murder, but I made sure I kept an eye on my property, Nothing says the pro-cuddler couldn't have someone sitting out in the car waiting for the right time. See, I'm just as paranoid as the women. :)

  • SweetCuddler33SweetCuddler33

    Most nurses , ( I’m an Oncology RN) don’t have criminal records. We are required to get background checks 👍 As far as my safety measures , on this site, I must see/check ID 🪪 .. if the person does not want to be compliant , they can make an appt with someone that doesn’t ask to see ID 🪪 no worries 😊

  • SweetCuddler33SweetCuddler33
    edited April 11

    @Huggycatbear 👍

  • JohnR1972JohnR1972

    There are companies like Clearforce https://www.clearforce.com/

    who sell employee monitoring as a service to employers. If your employer hires them, they will monitor you 24/7 (your real time purchase made with credit cards, real time loans taken out, cash withdrawals, etc.). They also monitor where you go via your vehicle telematics and EVERYTHING you do online. If you do anything “questionable” they will immediately alert your employer.

    Their sales pitch is “proactive risk management”. Buy too much alcohol on a Friday night and get fired on Monday morning because you might be an alcoholic.

    Fly out to Vegas “too often”, on your own time, and you might be given the opportunity to explain your gambling problem to HR (or they may just for you if you live in an “employment at will” state.

    Clear Force got started with sensitive companies such as defense contractors and banks but they have been spreading out to much less sensitive companies like FedEx and retail stores.

    You may use a burner email and phone number to be on this site but if your employer decides to use Clear Force, your employer will know you are on here because ALL your internet activity is monitored.

    Will men get “attacked” by women on this site? Very doubtful.

    But if a man books a 100% platonic cuddle with someone who is later arrested for SW, will their text messages be viewed with suspicion when the woman’s phone is searched? I’m not a lawyer but I think that is very likely.

  • SweetCuddler33SweetCuddler33
    edited April 11

    @Thenewestguy call the police if you see someone sitting in their car looking suspicious outside your house.. not being “ paranoid “ with my safety protocol , I value my life , my safety ( Everyone’s safety) is more important than a few extra dollars/pocket change ( or any amount) than just seeing any person that messages me., I also have a phone call after the appt is booked, meet at a coffee shop to make sure we both feel comfortable and to see the ID Before going to the cuddle location 😃 You wouldn’t think I’m “ paranoid” if you heard some of the horror stories of women on this very site being kicked and punched in the face , robbed, threatened, stalked, attacked, raped ( being the worst of course)

  • TheFunCartelTheFunCartel

    @Thenewestguy I had one pro that had her last name on her license plate so I googled it after a session because she said she had an ex that was…unsavory. Turns out she was three months out of the state penitentiary for distribution of cocaine and meth. Her ex was still in for the same thing and attempted murder 😬.

    The session was fine, but that was the third pro with a record. All three were tied to drugs in some form or another. All three ladies provided excellent sessions. I am just answering your question about pros and their backgrounds. With that being said I have also cuddled an ex-nun, a couple of professors, several nurses (very common), and a lawyer fresh out of law school at the age of 42 who worked her way through college as a trash collector. You will run the gamut of society on this site.

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