In four years not a single person wanted to cuddle with me. More recently asked several professionals, even if I am willing to pay, they dont want to cuddle with me. How depressing is that.
I’m sorry to read this, and it’s best to not take it personally. A couple of suggestions and maybe you already do this, but it’s important to first read through profiles of people you message, and also to send a photo in your first message. Also write more than a couple of word messages - to describe something about yourself, what you offer as a Cuddler and ask questions about something you read in their profile. Of course there’s no accounting for online strangers’ behavior.
Looked at your profile. Not that mine is outstanding by any means, but maybe tell more about yourself; what you like, dislike....what you do for hobbies, etc. Helps paint a picture... JMHO.
@Brian5555 I feel your pain! Please try not to take it personally., maybe write a little more about yourself in your profile and a picture would be helpful., @Carrie_Anne Great advice! 👍
@AntiqueWpatina 👍
I always attach a photo when I send a message. I can try adding more description, but I think i am at the give up point.
@Brian5555 Don't give up, especially with reaching out to professionals. Hopefully there are enough of them in you area that at least one will cuddle with you.
Wish you were near by! Would totally give you a chance. Sorry you’re strugglin. Hope you’re able to find someone. I agree with the others, the more filled out a profile is the better.
I'm so sorry to hear. Are you trying to set something up last minute? Pros, with a enough advanced time given, shouldn't be turning you away. I would also try adding a little more about yourself to your profile. Best of luck
@Brian5555 I know it can be tough finding partners, especially at first before you have karma.
Have you tried attending any cuddle events there in Denver? Generally it's a lot easier to network in person with people you know are real and active.
It looks like you just missed the CO meet & greet last weekend, but you might try reaching out to some of those folks.
Maybe @sillysassy might have some additional recommendations?
You can also search the forums for keywords like "tips", "messaging pros", etc. This is one thread I found that has a lot of good info
@Brian5555 hello 👋 and welcome to the forums. Sorry to read about your challenges here meeting the folks. A lot of good advice from the community which is always great to read ! May I ask why professional cuddlers won’t cuddle with you ? Is there a variety of responses/ reasons you are getting back from professional cuddlers? My experiences with the cuddle community in the greater denver area is that it is very very welcoming and supportive of all 😊👍
I would cuddle with ya!! Come visit CA and let’s cuddle!! 🤗
Hey all! Thanks for the shout out about our fun CO EVENTS @cuddlefaery
WE DID just have a Meet & Greet last weekend.
https://www.cuddlecomfort.com/forum/discussion/25115/sat-april-25-2026-arvada-co-west-side-meet-greet/p1
@Hugginghealer has a great space and we had a lot of fun.
@justjennn also does cuddle parties and is a fabulous pro here in CO who would be able to give you some more info.
I know meeting people in person for cuddling isn’t always easy but I have heard that we are the “CUDDLE CAPITAL IF THE WORLD!!”
Time and patience and I agree “not taking these personally” will give you a great possibility to move forward in the space. 😊
Sorry to hear this! I know this community can take a while to find the right people. Are the pros not responding at all?
Also, do you do any travelling? I know this can be a tall ask. But some location hubs are better than others.
Hey @sillysassy 👋I do own the rights to “Cuddle Capital of the World “ and Denver deservedly OWNS that title. You have made that community the most special place ! 🤗
@sillysassy I direct messaged this Brian fellow! We'll see if we can get him to a community cuddle soon.
You could add a photo
Awwww @justjennn is one of the most amazing and extraordinary humans in the cuddle world. 🥰
I know cuddle connections sometimes take a minute to navigate.
I also know that those didn’t always take shape the way I thought they would. Hugs to you out there and as always “May the Cuddle Gods be EVER in your favor”
@justjennn somewhere in Colorado there’s a statue of you 🤗🙏🏼 if not I’m gonna make that happen! 😊👍
@Brian5555 The cuddlers aren’t hesitating to cuddle you. They have to make sure you aren’t a creeper or a threat first. And that can take some time.
Hang in there. 🐒
Attitude can be everything.
"Laugh, and the world laughs with you; weep, and you weep alone"
Sending you the biggest hug I can from here! And maybe even a Lil sunshine up your... Lol jkjk 😁 Everybody needs sunshine though. 🌞 We got this 🫂
I’d be curious to see your conversations with professionals. As a professional, I’m not turning anyone down unless there are some serious red flags or they refuse to comply with the booking process.
@TxTom fine words.
So sorry to hear this. That can be frustrating. Try to personalize your bio a little more.. talk about a favorite memory or something that is unique about you.. positivity attracts ppl! 💫
As a professional I’m also curious as to how you express yourself to other professionals.. it might be the fact you can’t host or logistics.
Ppl tend to reach out to others more who include a photo, even though you said you’ll provide one. I understand you may not want to post it for privacy reasons but then your profile needs to be that more “wow!”
As a female safety is a concern & without karmas I can’t speak for others, but I always dig deeper during the vetting process. Unfortunately there are more males so you really gotta be proactive & reach out to others instead of waiting for someone to reach out to you. I wish you the best!If you’re ever in NYC plz reach out! Hugs 🤗
I would recommend posting a photo to your profile, it’s one less step for someone who is looking to decide to cuddle or not. Sometimes all you get is a second or two for someone to consider and if the person has a little messages a photo less profile is much the same as 95% if male cuddlers profiles. Let’s say they do ask you for a photo and don’t sign back in for a few days, poor 50 more messages they might not remember your username to remember she asked for a photo and yes including more information about yourself helps. Make yourself stand out. In words and photos :-) don’t give up
Brian hang in there keep your head up and keep trying ! Be sure to include a pic when you reach out to cuddlers too ok?