Broken Promises Sucks

Last night I got a text from one of my buddies that we should not hang out anymore. It was a new friendship and they had promised the world. I was looking forward to a long lasting friendship. Then at the click of a button, that message shattered me. 🥺

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  • Hugs, definitely sucks.

  • Sorry to hear about that.

  • I feel you. Something similar recently happened to me with a friend Ive had for more than a year and I am still dealing shattered

  • Sounds like they got the feels, overcommitted on promises, and panicked. You can’t control that. I hope you have a wonderful weekend, have fun, and forget their mistake that they made. I wish you the very best.

  • Losing a friend can feel as awful as a romantic breakup, in my experience. I've lost some very dear friends over the years and I'm really sorry to hear you're going through the pain as well. ❤️

  • I’m so sorry. I recently went through something very similar with a friend and I’m still grieving it.

  • Humaning is hard!

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    Oh I see. I'm sorry to hear that my dear. It must be for the best but yes this is why you must know people for a very long time before trusting them.

  • I second what @SpicyNSweet said. Loss of a friendship or even the prospect of a blooming friendship, can really hurt. Sending big hugs your way.

  • Might be a blessing in disguise. IME, someone promising the world isn't a health human to be around.

    Either way, sorry to hear the news.

  • I’m sorry to hear that, but you’re not alone. You’re preaching to the choir with that one. People do certain things for different reasons without any explanations. Maybe it was for the better.

  • Thank you everyone! It just sucks the fact that I was looking forward to explore some Hindu Temple in S. CA, Disneyland, various raves just to name a few… Just like that it just wiped out.

    @trysdet I completely agree with you about not trusting folks right away. However they created such a safe environment for me. Telling me they would root for me… so on and so forth. Sadly I am a sucker that once you’re in my circle, I trust you and give my all. Well lesson learn!!

    Heart you guys btw!! 🫶🏼

  • I know how that feels. I've been stood up, messed around and taken for a fool from time to time in my youth. Now I'm in the mindset that when someone makes promises, especially lofty ones, I'll hold them to it but I won't take them seriously unless they actually keep their word and they only get one chance at it too. They mess up on that, I'm done.

    To be honest, I gotta give your former friend a small measure of merit to be upfront enough to tell you they can't continue as opposed to straight up ghosting you and going radio silent. I'd much rather that rejection be visible instead of silent and hidden.

    Keep your head up, at least you won't have to worry about that person and I'm certain you'll make new friends, maybe even sooner than you realize.

  • It does suck! I had a buddy that I met recently. We connected very well right out of the gate and had sessions planned out. The night before the session; complete lockdown. Not "Sorry, I can't make it, can we re-schedule", more like, "Sorry about everything I said, I changed my mind, goodbye & don't contact me."
    It makes you feel like you did something wrong, even though you didn't. I hate that feeling.

  • Sorry to hear this. I can totally relate to this and understand. Giving you a big squishy hug.

  • So sorry to hear that. Hope your heart can mend soon.

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