Have You Ever Wanted to Say “Shut Up and Relax”?

TampaCuddleProTampaCuddlePro
edited August 18 in General

Serious question: Have you ever had someone specifically tell you they want silence, peace, and time to relax… only to spend the entire session talking about work, drama, bills, and everything else going wrong? 🤭

How do you politely tell someone to stop talking and actually relax without saying “shut up”?

In the past I've resorted to a spoonful of Nutella, a mouthful of whipped cream and a strategically timed gummy worm. 😂 Those bought me just enough time to say, “Forget about work, forget about the drama, and forget about everything else. You’re here now. Just relax.”

What’s your polite but effective way of telling a chatty client it’s time to shut their brain off? 🤔🤔

Comments

  • MattCuddleBearMattCuddleBear

    Those subjects don't sound very relaxing! I'd rather they'd read a story.

  • wilderdudewilderdude

    Reading someone is a skill that way too many people lack. I've found in situations like that it's usually best to be up front about it.

  • AtudayAtuday

    Gently shushing them while resting their head on my chest and giving them head rubs. It works on me, so I figure it should work on others.

  • TxTomTxTom

    If you're a Pro cuddler, you can make the suggestion, but you may just have to deal with a client that wants to talk. Otherwise, advise your client that you'd like to end the session.

  • KrishaKrisha

    They're the client, so if they wanna talk, just cope with it.

  • Suzie_QSuzie_Q

    I've never wanted to say that. I let the client lead the session. I work in healthcare though so I have a lot of experience with different social scenarios, so it doesn't bother me.

  • disneysamuraidisneysamurai

    Yep, while imitating George C Scott

  • MeltMyWayMeltMyWay

    Me we have I wanted to say that. Sometimes our clients need to get things off their chest so they can relax later. I'm happy when they feel they can trust me enough to hold their problems for them for a while and help them feel validated to have them. The relaxation part sometimes comes after the session ends. After they've unloaded their worries. You could assist that in maybe asking if they'd like to do some short breathing exercises

  • Snuggletherapy1Snuggletherapy1

    I require a video chat before a 1st time session so I can understand my clients needs. I had a client explain that he wants to lay with me in silence, but he often gets nervous and tends to talk excessively so he asked me to acknowledge when/if he does it in our session so he can be mindful to stop (btw, talking doesn't bother me in the least, but I wanted to honor his request) At our next session, he began talking excessively so I asked him if he really wants to talk or does he prefer to lay in silence, and he simply replied "Thank you". We finished the session in silence.

  • ksb30ksb30

    My last cuddle we spent the entire time catching up.... we barely cuddled just sat in bed looking at each other amd talking and laughing . I got up time use the bathroom and seen the time I was like wow! I wish we would have cuddled more but im ok with it

  • TheFunCartelTheFunCartel

    If I want to spend my time talking because it relaxes me and I am not violating boundaries, I would be taken aback by a pro shutting it down. An enthusiast is a different story as that situation is give and take and I must respect her wishes and wants as well as mine. But as a client in a session with a pro if I felt pressured to conform to the pro’s idea of how she wanted me to relax I would probably find a way to leave. I am paying her to facilitate relaxation, not dictate it. There are way too many pro options in most areas to be muzzled in a session.

    And to be clear—the best pros are ones who can cuddle, converse, and read the room when silence is needed or a conversation is required. I have experienced quite a few who are accomplished at doing exactly that. But if a pro does not like to talk then she should include that in her profile so I know to move on to someone else. I hate surprises of the negative type.

  • LilyAnneNovaLilyAnneNova

    @TheFunCartel agreed

  • MelanieLMelanieL

    @TheFunCartel Yes!!!

  • Tee107Tee107

    Haven't been with any woman that I wanted to that to. And I was with someone I watch a movie. We watch Avatar 2 but just interested in her getting it off her chest

  • VibeSeekerVibeSeeker

    Not during cuddle time but to a few people whos incessant blabbering or pacing was driving me up the wall.

  • relaxingcuddlezrelaxingcuddlez

    I give massage during my cuddles and I’ve definitely wanted to say that lol but not like in an I’m annoyed way but more like just enjoy the massage and be quiet kind of way.

  • WestsideMarcWestsideMarc
    edited August 16

    The person I usually have to tell to shut the f up is myself actually. I generally like to chat very little in my cuddles. I don’t usually like to have extended conversations, but I do like to pepper the cuddles with a little comment here or there. But for someone that doesn’t like to talk during their cuddles very much I do have to tell myself to practice what I preach, lol. That’s part of my “cuddle practice” here is to be silent and just be present.

  • William56William56

    You shpuld get what you want, you paid for it. Obviously you dont have the time to listen but can take your clients money.

  • TattooSqueezeTattooSqueeze
    edited August 17

    For clients who are uncomfortable with silence and feel the need to ramble, calm and relax reduce their anxiety by using a calm tone, mirroring slow breathing, gently interrupting with a soft question, and validating their core feeling.

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