I'm very curious.
I can't just message someone and the same night invite them to my home(Trauma😬).
So how do y'all pick safe cuddlers?
You definitely don't need to meet them the same day you introduce yourself, much less invite them to your home. Spend some time communicating, and getting to know them. Share things about yourself, and learn things about them. See how the vibe is. See if the communication between the two of you is comfortable. It doesn't need to start off focused on cuddling or be about potentially meeting up until you both feel ready. Just let it happen organically. When I first reached out to someone, we just had a normal conversation. Their policy was not to meet anyone without any karma, but they ended up making an exception simply because of how I approached it, and the organic conversation we had made it clear to them that I was a very safe person to meet in the real world. If you're new here, I'd highly advise that type of approach. Focus on just meeting people and let the rest happen when it happens. Make a judgement call after conversing for a while, and don't feel rushed to skip steps in the process.
Coffee, restaurant, park are good places to meet in public before deciding to invite someone over. Some cuddlers do host, so you don't have to have anyone in your home, until you feel comfortable.
There are other threads talking about cuddling at different locations outside the home. Movies has come up a bunch.
Usually bookings for me happen over the course of either a couple weeks or a few months, sometimes even over a year depending on when I can travel to their location. Usually I’ll set up a virtual call or maybe a few virtual calls depending on when we can meet in person just to keep the vibe going.
Op deleted their post 8 mins after editing this morning. 🤔 🤔 🤔 I hope they reconsider their cuddling journey.
No, the OP deleted her ACCOUNT.
Very unfortunate. I hope they reconsider their position.
At the very least a phone call and even better a coffee date or video chat with the other person. Courtesy and safety are really non-negotiable.
I pick cuddlers who haven’t deleted their profile.
Someone that doesn't invite me over the same day they first message me
@TheFunCartel it definitely increases the odds. 😁
Well, I think in the beginning many just pick ME as a cuddle companion....I just choose to STAY picked by them if it's worth it. Lol 😆😜
For example @pmvines chose to pm me first with a polite introduction (after seeing me around on the forums 😊) and we got acquainted and now we're good friends and long-term cuddle buddies. 😁🫂
With @pmvines I decided to STAY PICKED, others that picked me was short term in the end for various reasons. But I appreciate them giving me a chance enough to pick me in the first place.
Lol 😆
Of course, being careful and extensive vetting practices are important whether you are picking or being picked. 😁👍
Honestly, public cuddles are great when you want to get to know people better. Movies, parks, ....My favorite on rainy days is the local bookshop. Sometimes we'll cuddle and read to each other.