I'm very curious.
I can't just message someone and the same night invite them to my home(Trauma😬).
So how do y'all pick safe cuddlers?
You definitely don't need to meet them the same day you introduce yourself, much less invite them to your home. Spend some time communicating, and getting to know them. Share things about yourself, and learn things about them. See how the vibe is. See if the communication between the two of you is comfortable. It doesn't need to start off focused on cuddling or be about potentially meeting up until you both feel ready. Just let it happen organically. When I first reached out to someone, we just had a normal conversation. Their policy was not to meet anyone without any karma, but they ended up making an exception simply because of how I approached it, and the organic conversation we had made it clear to them that I was a very safe person to meet in the real world. If you're new here, I'd highly advise that type of approach. Focus on just meeting people and let the rest happen when it happens. Make a judgement call after conversing for a while, and don't feel rushed to skip steps in the process.
Coffee, restaurant, park are good places to meet in public before deciding to invite someone over. Some cuddlers do host, so you don't have to have anyone in your home, until you feel comfortable.
There are other threads talking about cuddling at different locations outside the home. Movies has come up a bunch.
Usually bookings for me happen over the course of either a couple weeks or a few months, sometimes even over a year depending on when I can travel to their location. Usually I’ll set up a virtual call or maybe a few virtual calls depending on when we can meet in person just to keep the vibe going.
Op deleted their post 8 mins after editing this morning. 🤔 🤔 🤔 I hope they reconsider their cuddling journey.
No, the OP deleted her ACCOUNT.
Very unfortunate. I hope they reconsider their position.
At the very least a phone call and even better a coffee date or video chat with the other person. Courtesy and safety are really non-negotiable.
I pick cuddlers who haven’t deleted their profile.
Someone that doesn't invite me over the same day they first message me
@TheFunCartel it definitely increases the odds. 😁
Well, I think in the beginning many just pick ME as a cuddle companion....I just choose to STAY picked by them if it's worth it. Lol 😆😜
For example @pmvines chose to pm me first with a polite introduction (after seeing me around on the forums 😊) and we got acquainted and now we're good friends and long-term cuddle buddies. 😁🫂
With @pmvines I decided to STAY PICKED, others that picked me was short term in the end for various reasons. But I appreciate them giving me a chance enough to pick me in the first place.
Lol 😆
Of course, being careful and extensive vetting practices are important whether you are picking or being picked. 😁👍
Honestly, public cuddles are great when you want to get to know people better. Movies, parks, ....My favorite on rainy days is the local bookshop. Sometimes we'll cuddle and read to each other.
Now are you talking about here on this site? Or in general? Because my criteria for picking a cuddle companion is very different depending on where I’m searching.
If I’m looking for a cuddle partner in my community, I usually end up cuddling people I already know. Being a massage therapist, a cuddle enthusiast, and a witch - I already have many people in my life that are more Touch Positive than the general public. If I’m watching a movie with a friend, it’s only natural for people in the touch industry to be cuddling. Even a day at the museum usually involves holding hands regardless of relationship status when you’re surrounded with touch positive people (relationship, status means, girlfriend, friend-girl, or friend).
Now if I’m looking for a professional cuddle, I rely a lot on intuition. While I like to think looks don’t mater, I do have a look I’m more attracted too. I think it’s more about “She looks nice”. Then I look at the profile. Is her profile well articulated? Does she come across as intelligent, friendly, and warm? Does she have a few photos? Is she a dog person? Then once I pick one or two that hits a few of those categories I’ll send them a message and start a short but quality dialogue. I’m not going to waste her time carrying on a lengthy back and forth - she has other potential clients she needs to be talking to as well. I’m just looking to see if the personality matches the profile. If it does - I’ll book a two hour session.
I don't know how people pick me, I'm a professional cuddler, but how I pick people I'll accept for appointments is are they respectful, have they read my requirements, can they hold a conversation?
If they can't respect my boundaries in my profile I feel they probably won't respect me in person, so I tend to just repeat please review my profile and they screen themselves out.
This has worked pretty well for me as in the people I have met have all been an enjoyable experience.
I pick out nine cuddlers, screen shot their picture, print them out and tape them on the wall. Then I put a blindfold on, grab a paper donkey tail, spin around a baseball bat 9 times, and then I walk towards the 9 cuddlers. When I get there I play pin the tail on the donkey and blindly pin the tail on one of the 9 pictures. It’s a totally asinine method but it works.
@TheFunCartel So no Magik 8 Ball for you, huh? 😜😆
Honestly communication is one of my big things in picking a cuddler. My job takes up most of my time and I only have small blocks of time and finding a cuddler who sends messages and follow ups to confirm is the best. My last would barely text to the point that I didnt really know we were still having the booked sessions until the last minute. I found it very disrespectful amd stressful on my end... it takes 5 seconds to text lol.
@ksb30 I think it’s pretty common. Pros that don’t follow up with reminders or communicate rules ahead of time. My guess is they have busy lives outside of cuddling and this is just something they fit in their spare time. Some get a lot of business so they don’t have the energy to message everyone ahead of time.
The only thing you can do as the client is to stop booking them, and find pros that are really communicative (usually charges more), or just lower your own expectations and take the good with the bad.
Thanks Hermes i appreciate the advice! Good with the bad is exactly right! , And I did find another thank goodness!
I use alot of communication. I can usually get a feeling for what type of person im interacting with
I throw darts at the computer screen.
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