What do you use cuddling for?

Eddie1968Eddie1968
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We all cuddle for different reasons. I was a massage therapist from 2006 to 2017. I know the power of touch. I use cuddling to relieve mental stress. The other is just to remember I'm not a robot and able to cuddle with a female who doesnt judge me.

What are you're reasons for cuddling?

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  • OxytocinCuddlesOxytocinCuddles

    I always been cuddly, but cuddling a person outside of your every day life, where you have the reassurance that it stays platonic it is such a deep calming experience... :

    It makes me feel emotionally completely one with every living thing and people in the Universe 🧸🌎💯

  • BriblossomBriblossom

    Human connection. It forces me to slow down, breathe, and center with another human being. Platonic touch is when I feel closest to who I truly am as a human being, and there I'm also able to create a safe space for others to settle into. And I love comforting others and giving them that space to just breathe and be themselves, too. I have met some of the most amazing people in this industry, and I'm grateful to be able to have those experiences.

    -Bri, Oregon 🌲

  • ShortNPlush85ShortNPlush85

    I use it as exposure therapy because my counselor said it would be good for my mental health since I am a survivor of SA. I enjoy the feeling of being in an intimate position again without fear.

  • Ruby14Ruby14
    edited September 30

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  • cuddlefaerycuddlefaery

    Originally I was using it as exposure therapy, like @ShortNPlush85 . It finally taught me how to set, maintain, and enforce boundaries finally after 30+ years of not really having or feeling like I could have them. But I grew to love the community and once I got over being so anxious being touched, I found I really love it. Ended up being a professional cuddler for awhile, attended local events, and joined the community here. Now I'm still in it for the community.

  • SunsetSnugglesSunsetSnuggles

    Insomnia brought me here. The community made me stay. I cuddle as a fun hobby, though in the beginning, it caused me intense social anxiety.

    ~ Sunset Snuggles

  • CareALotCareALot

    Our time is limited. I want to spend mine being there for others as others were there for me.

  • MySoulHurtsMySoulHurts

    I don't use it for anything.
    Haven't touched another person in almost a year, and I'm losing my mind

  • SunsetSnugglesSunsetSnuggles

    @MySoulHurts
    I'm sorry to hear that. I read your profile - cuddling here doesn't have to be with a paid Pro, there are enthusiasts (like me) who do it for friendship. Feel free to reach out, if you like. 🧸

    ~ Sunset Snuggles

  • MySoulHurtsMySoulHurts

    @SunsetSnuggles
    Thank you for the reply!
    DM sent.

  • splitdrawcanvassplitdrawcanvas

    As an over thinker analytical organism, i had avoided touch, like the plague.( Think of sheldon) I never had a problem meeting woman, who wanted to hug me, or marry me (lol). However since becoming a caregiver to an ill parent( mother) , and still working in an executive role, managing, folks , projects, budgets , drama , and more drama. I needed this. I commend you free cuddlers. You are literally extending lives.

  • MTexMTex

    I need touch, safe touch. Being held by a friend is the best feeling ever. It's a stress reliever for me as someone who also cares for a parent. Caregiving can be very isolating. Feeling cared for in return during a cuddle is very cathartic for me.

  • marcustanakamarcustanaka

    When my ex got married, I realized I had not been with another woman since her. That part of me missed the hugs and personal connection from physical touch.

  • BriblossomBriblossom

    @splitdrawcanvas What do you mean when you say that enthusiasts are extending lives? How so?

  • supadupasupadupa

    Super lonely and feeling unloved :( but for an hour or two I have contact and conversation with a wonderful person that makes me feel less alone for a period of time. A godsend!

  • splitdrawcanvassplitdrawcanvas

    @Briblossom , Loneliness and social isolation can strip away multiple years of disease free life.

  • AL3XGage_06AL3XGage_06

    While I do have a certain amount of a social life it's not one with much of anyone locally.

    Having someone come over on a regular basis is a great motivation to keep my spaces in well enough shape to welcome someone. Seeing them continuing to want to come over and hang out and cuddle is a great boost to confidence that Yes I am in fact taking care of myself and my spaces well enough.

  • AngelNextDoorAngelNextDoor

    I love this question because I think my answer is a little backwards from what people might expect. 😂

    I don't think I primarily use cuddling to receive something I'm missing. For me, it's almost equally about having somewhere to put all of the affection I naturally want to give.

    I learned through a temperament assessment that I score as Sanguine in Affection, and it explained SO much about me. 😂 Physical affection and emotional connection aren't just things I enjoy — I genuinely seem to have a need for both giving and receiving them.

    I love being hugged and held, obviously, but I also genuinely love being the person doing the comforting. I love curling up with someone, playing with their hair, holding their hand, listening to them talk, making them laugh, or feeling someone slowly relax because they realize they don't have to perform or be anything for a little while.

    There's something incredibly fulfilling to me about being able to make another human being feel safe, cared for, and valued in that moment. 💜

    And I think that's part of why platonic cuddling works so well for me specifically. Affection doesn't automatically feel romantic to me. I can genuinely just adore another human being for a few hours, be ridiculously affectionate with them, and let that connection be exactly what it is without needing it to become anything else.

    So I guess I use cuddling for connection, regulation, comfort, and stress relief like a lot of people here — but also because I apparently have an absurd surplus of affection and need somewhere productive to put it. 😂🥰

    It's one of the rare things where giving it fills my cup just as much as receiving it does. 💜

  • [Deleted User]DaveLaughs (deleted user)

    Cuddling is the goal

  • AuthenticLucyAuthenticLucy

    To meet new people, hear their stories, and to also allow both parties to decompress and just exist in the moment, especially if your schedule involves constantly hustling around or doing a lot of coordinating or traveling etc. It's just nice to just relax in a place that we both feel safe in and it also allows me the opportunity to learn more about the different walks of life there is out there.

    Cuddling in general, if done ethically right, can be such a healing experience.

  • DWarmthWellbeinDWarmthWellbein

    I would love to hear what the community is using cuddling for.

  • CaramelNotesCaramelNotes

    There is another active thread with the same title

  • CuddlesWithCatCuddlesWithCat

    For me it lowers stress, makes me feel safe, and fulfills wanting to feel connected.

  • phxartrisingphxartrising

    I appreciate everyone’s shares!

    I am naturally touchy-feely and generally a giver. I’ve learned to be more of a receiver over the years but have a lot of impact from trauma , abuse , neglect, poor boundaries, chronic pain, and high stress.

    At the same time, these challenges have pushed me to seek and be responsible for my own healing leading me to many wonderful opportunities, beautiful relationships, fantastic insights, supportive community, fun, creativity, purpose, and passion that I would not otherwise have access to.

    I’ve experienced some fabulous, fun therapeutic and mystical things in local community including platonic touch, somatic human practices, constellation, and laughter.

    I’m here seeking more experience with platonic touch, cuddling, gazing, and havening and the like

    —Also not gonna lie—just being on this platform is stirring up disorganized attachment style, full throttle!

    So there it is… just another human on this journey doing the best I can.

    Hoping to co-create spaces people can feel comfortable in. Allowing people to heal, explore and come as they are.

    Believing that as we learn practice and and promote consent and caring, it makes the world a better place.

  • MindTherapyMindTherapy

    Social aspects, mental stimulation, and at times emotional support.