Bra and pantie cuddling....

Brandi · December 2016

saw a pro offer this, i personally think its not okay...
any other thoughts?

docgatorb · December 2016

Do you get to keep the bra and pantie?

December 2016

I don't see what's wrong with that. different strokes for different folks as they say. everyone is comfortable with different things. so if you're not than do what you do. if they are fine with who are we to judge?

Bruced · December 2016

Personally, I'd rather cuddle with someone wearing the bra and panties, not the bra and panties themselves.

Joking aside, I saw that too Brandi, and it does seem a bit edgy. I guess it's all about where you are comfortable drawing the line. No doubt you've been asked to wear far less in your business, and at some point (hopefully well before it was asked) decided on your own personal limits. It would seem to me that if she has that in her stated pricing, it might head off someone asking for something that would clearly cross the line of legality or morality.

It brings up another interesting question. Would you cuddle with someone poolside in a bikini? That would be no more clothing than a bra and panties. In some cases, swimwear is even less.

I think your industry is nascent enough that you collectively are eventually going to have to come up with ethical guidelines that all cuddle professionals adhere to. If you don't some self righteous legislator will.

Brandi · December 2016

No. its not that, its just if this is seen as Platonic cuddling, which its supposed to be viewed as...*P.s really fighting to be viewed as NOT A SEX WORKER.
(and in contracts it does say parties must both be clothed... panties and bra and undergarments.) I personally think its pushing the boundaries, and overall will tempt the guys with wanting more. or having them Touch just a little more, or feel you more. A tank top and shorts do just enough I think..
This pro I'm talking about actually charges more for being in bra and panties, which is kinda like selling extras in my point of view..

Not worth it in my opinion, to be uncomfortable the whole session, but you're right. I guess "Technically" its their choice.
and as far as judging, yeah I am guilty of that (everyone is) but I feel I have a good reason to judge as another professional, because now seeing other pros offering that, guys can expect pros to offer that, or specifically not go to a pro that doesn't explicit cuddling, and they will have the entire wrong idea of what its about.
looking cute is one thing, but to be in straight up in underwear and charging more, because you know the guys are gonna perv a heck of a lot more, isn't right.

Brandi · December 2016

As much as I agree with Swimwear and bikini being viewed as the same the fact is, most people don't see them as the same.
Id say cuddling in swimwear, also not the best idea lol. Personally, I like to be cozy when I cuddle, not having the guys fiend for any skin action they can get lol.

December 2016

I think I know who you're talking about @brandi I personally like skin on skin contact when I cuddle and usually ask my cuddlers to wear shorts and a tank top. There's plenty of skin on skin if she's wearing that and I'm wearing shorts and a t shirt. Ironically when I saw this pros profile yesterday, I looked at the contract and no where does it say you can't cuddle in underwear. All it says is that you can't expose body parts normally covered by undergarments so cuddling in a bra and panties isn't breaking the contract. During my most recent session with a pro, she was wearing shorts and a tshirt. I asked her about her tattooes and she pulled her tshirt off to show me. She was wearing a bra and never put her shirt back on until she left. It wasn't a big deal to me but I can see how a lot of guys would take that the wrong way. My opinion ultimately is that pros should not charge extra for it because it then does make it sound like sex work. If a pro and client are comfortable with it and each other, it's not breaking contract so I say it's okay. Plastering it all over your profile and charging extra for it does look bad though.

December 2016

An erotic service in the Bay Area offers topless and full nude cuddling with mutual touch. The nude cuddle session cost around 300 or so for an hour.

December 2016

My last cuddle was a bikini cuddle for $100 too. Body of a model. She let me play with her feet. Check out the karma on my page.

Brandi · December 2016

Okay...well thats frustrating because thats obviously not snuggling...or cuddle therapy at all...soo therfore......Irrelevant I suppose..:I thats an entirely different organization/ fetish stuff that could be handled on alternative sites such as fetlife... not on a site for cuddle therapy... Smh...

December 2016

@Brandi, I'm also beginning to see where the true priorities of some lie. I agree, once it crosses a certain line, it's sex work.

greenearth2 · December 2016

Done it a few times.
As long as you don't go past anything it's kinda cool. But many clients will not respect boundaries. It's quite amazing when a snuggler trusts me enough to do it. But it's not always possible.

December 2016

I've done it a few times but not with a Pro.

When I think of cuddle therapy sites I think of sites that are strictly Pro sites.

While I love cc(it's my fav cuddling site) there are all kinds of levels of cuddling on here, amateur, professional and other so it's not surprising to see slightly risque offers on here.

I have no problem with bra and panties cuddling but like @Morpheus I prefer shorts and a tank or tee.

December 2016

Do guys wear their superman underoos when they cuddle?

tropii95 · December 2016

what happens if your partner expects more than cuddling? then what?

docgatorb · December 2016

sames as always, you pull out your 45 magnum and shoot him in the head.

Brandi · December 2016

@Tropii95 if its not a paid for session, and the cuddler on here is just a normal gal looking to "Cuddle" fine, you guys are two consensual adults, and its not crossing any prostitution lines. However, if you are with a pro and you pay for a session, its basically guaranteed that your pro will not start anything sexual. if she does, if I were you, I would remind her that is prostitution, and both of y'all are probably gonna get caught through the site itself, considering they monitor the messages. and if not, youll probably pay through just getting bad karma from the world for doing things that are overall just not right.
x)
best of luck!

joey012616 · December 2016

In my honest opinion, as long as two consenting adults want to, and no laws are broken, why not? Is it "professional"? Absolutely not. But then again, therapy should be fluid and not rigid. As long as all of the rules are obeyed and both (or multiple) parties involved are comfortable throughout and are happy, then why not?

December 2016

Totally agree @joey012616. People have different comfort levels. Just like a relationship one size doesn't fit all when it comes to cuddling. Whatever two consenting adults agree upon is what it is. I love CC and while there are plenty of official pros on here there are 4x as many girls who cuddle for money. Doesn't matter to me as long as I enjoy the company. I like variety so I'm okay with there being different Pros who offer different experiences.

December 2016

@750000 may I ask what she did that was weird?

docgatorb · December 2016

%75000 I would point out that there are men professionals as well.

Brandi · December 2016

@75000 It seems like you are very judgmental and have so much angst towards pros! but dang you should slow your roll. I give my advice because I have been doing this for almost 2 years, and at this point I've gotten it down to a T and I will be quite conceited right now but have been told I'm the best pro by Several clients. If I can make others experiences as amazing as mine for other pros and some clients then I'm going to try.
As with literally everything in this world, if you don't want to pay for it, that's your call, dont. no skin off anyone elses nose.. but others will want to and some others even use the term need to purchase affection. It has and probably always be that way, weather its a brothel, a whore house, escorting, strippers, companions, sugar babies, *not trying to compare cuddle therapy to strippers, but its defiantly along the same lines of those things. So if you can get it for free, awesome... you don't want to buy it, just don't. This was also in other forums I believe..

My argument applies to literally everything though... from a service to a product. If there is a market for it, then I dont see why someone wouldn't take advantage of that.
I've also mentioned this in a previous forum, that I am personally not very well off and by having some of my cuddle clients over, they have actually helped me not stay homeless, I just want you to see that perspective as well.
I don't feel like its wrong of me or any other cuddler that puts SO MUCH effort; to charge for our time. when Im hosting a guest over, I'm not having a person come over to just cuddle like it is not a big deal. I scrub my house, to make it as presentable as possible. I buy tea, hot chocolate, and plenty other items like incense and water bottles and even little candies (different ones around the holidays) and the list goes on and on and on, plus keeping up with laundry between each client. its a whole job, and weather you believe that or not, it deserves to be recognized, and when clients appreciate us it genuinely makes the cuddle sessions 100 million times better.
It makes me sad that you have so much resentment against us, when it genuinely helps others.
I do understand not wanting so many "Ridged rules" but the fact of the matter is, people get confused, this is a different subject, and I think for the most part, myself and other people involved in Cuddle therapy NOT just cuddling, are all on the same page on whats okay, and whats not okay. (at least that's what it seemed like to me, by the responses in the forums,)

And much as I enjoy cuddling for fun, I very much enjoy it as a profession as well. and if money and time wasn't a factor, and I could make all of my clients feel great and give them free sessions without taking up literally every hour of my days, and still pay my rent, and enjoy my life, that would be stellar, but thats not very realistic.
Im sure a baker loves baking, a artist loves doing art, and a dancer loves to dance, but its really satisfying when your paid for doing what you love, right? that's what everyone is really trying to do in the end, I believe.

December 2016

I've said this before and I'll say this again, there are very few professional cuddlers in the world for a reason... it's not easy. It's not just any girl that can give light and love to complete strangers and that's a skill set that in my humble opinion, is worthy of a fee.

December 2016

@750000 needs to use a spell checker :-p

December 2016

@Aiko you read my mind.

December 2016

Oopsie @750000. @aiko ain't the one to mess with on here.

Also this isn't church. This is a cuddle site for mature adults with self-control. Pros, clients and cuddle-lovers alike post pix that show off their personality.

If a picture with some skin MAKE HULK ANGRY then just bypass that person and go onto the next one. Hopefully you'll find someone on here who fits what you're looking for. It takes awhile so patience must be exercised.

rangdar · December 2016

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December 2016

@750000 Tension, much?

December 2016

@750000 Are you actually reading profiles as well or just judging people based on pix? @aiko IS showing her personality in her profile. Oopise...you DID read her profile right? Or did you just see skin and start seeing red? She's wearing a long-sleeved coat. -_- The fact that you focus on her legs says a lot more about you than her.

Lastly, it sounds like you need more than a cuddle with your disdain for anyone not dressed as a Quaker. Don't try to blast others for your past failures, pain and suffering. Get a grip.

December 2016

Well said, @chococuddles

December 2016

@750000 - Thanks for your concern about me via PM, but I'm doing just fine. lol

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