I am 68 in have had no problems finding cuddlers here. Have had a few sessions. Always with professionals but all good.
@happyhappycuddl is now banned but I am still going to go ahead and disagree with his blanket statement. This site definitely is escort-eque but I really believe that is just a small percentage of the women on this site. Many women are cautious on this site, especially as enthusiasts. We as a female population still have that thought, whether valid or not today, that men will always be stronger then women. That makes many women leery of strangers and what may happen during a cuddle. Mick brought it up for us actually, the scary statistics. Many women in general aren't snobby so much as their worried about getting into trouble that they won't be able to get out of. Generations of learned thoughts is hard to dismiss after all.
We as a whole aren't snobby or stuck up so much as we are scared of that stupid little voice we just know we'll hear in our heads right before we lose consciousness, saying "see, mom was right after all!!" Yes, men, I realize that's totally stupid but it's the way all of our mom's auntie's, or gram's taught us. It's hard to shake that.
@xdriver60 I think you need to decide what it is you like most about this site; if like MickCuddle, you enjoy reading the forums, then maybe that's enough to keep you open on a free site. As he also says, and what I think many are hopeful for is that one new person who comes on and finds you, wants to talk with you, eventually cuddle you. What if you've thrown in the towel and she doesn't find anyone in her area to cuddle? She may get discouraged and leave also. The site is free and if you are already paying subscriptions to dating sites with no luck I'd personally drop one of those instead of a free site with occasionally interesting things to read in the forums.
@UniverseMan, um, I just don't know what to say about you. I'm really surprised you would have issues finding a cuddle partner. You are the optimum age to cuddle most of the women on this site, you are definitely not poorly groomed, you're comments seem to be well stated; and you even have a friendly profile that wouldn't lead women to think anything more or less. Honestly, your profile is welcoming, the cute picture you have of the dealers, full sentences, a completed profile. You should be finding all kinds of women to cuddle unless you have crazy filters set. As a woman, you would be one I'd approach; your profile and picture feel safe to me. But I'm 50, short and curvy, which many lately have mentioned is actually code for overweight. I have a full picture on my profile, if anyone were to look at me they could tell I'm not fat. I am curvy though. So maybe check your filters? Or maybe look try relaxing your standards since this isn't a potential date, just a cuddle.
My search? On two sites, 50 mile range, women who've logged on in the last month, and with no other filters: one. I just got here, so I'm hardly ready to give up, but I'm definitely in a tough region!
Fortunately, the professional I've been seeing has been very good for me, so I'll get by comfortably until my enthusiast fortune changes. I'll just keep an eye out and hope for the best!
@snowbound , fantastic user name btw, for your location. See if that pro will accept a friend request and possibly you two can share karma on your profiles. Any chance of filling out a profile summary to tell more about yourself might be beneficial. Glad you found someone . That's great news!
@XDriver60, I am a 60 year old male with a disability. Have had a few sessions with various cuddlers. How do you go about trying to find someone and if you have had any what do you do and say to them? Many of the cuddlers who I have met like me because I don't look at them as pieces which I can rent for a few hours and play with. I treat them how I would like to be treated and make them feel like people and try to take care of their needs as well as them taking care of mine. All have been professionals who have no qualms about cuddling with me and the majority of them do a great job in cuddling with me.
I also accentuate the positive attributes about myself instead of focusing on my disablity and tell those who are about to meet me what I can do rather than what I can't.
One more thing, I make sure that they know that I understand what cuddling is about and that it's plutonic in nature so they know what I am expecting.
Also mainly with professionals and mostly good!!!
Maybe there are pros nearby? That’s always a good option cause most of them are very nice and professional.
There’s no shame in taking a break too. My profile says I’ve been here since 2016, but for a good chunk of that time I wasn’t active. I go to a lot of events on meetup and 70% of them have people 50+ as the majority. I’m usually always the youngest one there. Maybe take some time to form some friendships and it won’t be as frustrating having trouble finding cuddles. Plus you can learn some fun things like watercolor or quilting. (Older gentleman should totally look into quilting, quilting men are a huge hit among older ladies)
Yes try to find a good a pro if possible. Otherwise the sun might burn out before you find someone to cuddle with without paying. Fortunately I found the best cuddler ever. Pro of course! I only had one who compared with her and she moved far away long ago. Another pro of course! It'd be nice to not have to pay just once (ah that tain't gonna happen) but since the good shouldn't be the enemy of the perfect I'm grateful and thankful that there are pros out there who are great at what they do.
Never give up. NEVER
Been on this site for 4 years, never met with a non-pro. There are plenty of pros in Chicago. Its odd that the same time Craigslist ended their personal section, because of prostitution, this website's pros doubled their prices.....just saying. I'm tempted to hire a prostitute, just to cuddle, maybe she will give me a better rate when she figures out I'm legit and not after sex....lol!
Haven't you seen Rocky IV?
You don't throw in the towel!
Oh wait...
I know what you mean about the feeling that being older may be a factor in not getting a lot of cuddle requests. I'm the oldest Pro listed in the San Diego area and I just turned 53 a few weeks ago. I have met cuddlers on here that are dishonest about their age. I'm truthful, and all of my photos were taken within the past year. I recently cuddled with a man who said he was 51. Upon a quick internet check, I discovered he was actually 61. I've wondered if I should shave a few years off my years but that's not my habit.
I should add that I have nothing against cuddling with older cuddlers, but I do think there are a lot of guys that come on here looking for a hot young thing to cuddle with.
@BellaJewel - I've come across more than a few older women that are looking to cuddle with younger guys. So it works both ways.
Many of the cuddlers who I have met like me because I don't look at them as pieces which I can rent for a few hours and play with. I treat them how I would like to be treated and make them feel like people and try to take care of their needs as well as them taking care of mine.
@Lev136 How well spoken, thank you. I think we can all learn something from your statement.
Except my clients don't pay me for the opportunity to take care of my needs. I take care of their needs (within my boundaries and the service agreement) and they give me respect and money. It is no longer an equitable exchange if they are also fulfilling my needs as well... ?
You throw the towel in the dryer after the wash. I know I did not provide much detail but I believe I sufficiently answered the thread title question.
@FunCartel, I agree, you sufficiently answered the question lol.
Ok I am definitely officially throwing in the towel. At least in terms of ACTIVE participation. I am already 105 years old. I don't have time to wait around till some of you fartknockers realise what you are missing out on.
@PaulaDahla - Thank you!!!
@ubergigglefritz - I understand what you get paid to do, but I think it's more pleasant when there is an equal exchange of cuddling so that the cuddler feels fine after the session is over.
I've never thought of cuddling as something someone does to someone else. I've always thought of it as something two people do together.
@UKGuy That's why I more accurately describe what I do as connection and touch therapy, with some consent and boundary education thrown in depending on clients needs ? Often that helps decrease confusion and eye rolls when talking about this in public, but a lot of people still don't get it... Anyway, even though cuddling is something two people do, there is still often a direction, or there can be. A parent cuddles a child. You don't often see a child cradling a parent in their arms ? As an adult, it can feel amazing to be cuddled again. In our culture, as an adult, we tend to forget that potential directionality, because we see cuddling as only something people in relationships do. Cuddling can take many forms. It's also a gender thing. Men cuddle women for comfort and a feeling of safety sometimes. Men stop being cuddle before they are even an adult. They are supposed to be tough and not need anything ? But regardless of what society tells people, even a man can find that feeling fulfilling, relaxing, and simply amazing ?
@Lev136 I have some clients where I receive some. Just depends on their needs (and I of course enjoy it as long as they aren't boundary pushers). I think the point is that the session is based on their needs. I'm not going to go into a session and tell my client to cuddle me while I bitch about my day and life struggles ?
soooooo I'm not sure how/why men and women find this site hard to find people - I've only been here since December of 2018 and I've now met 5 enthusiasts, all but one I've met more than once and for a change and comparison, I've also met and cuddled two pros, one more than once. I don't even have a picture up but I manage to find people.
I have made acquaintance and friends with a dozen other women, most of which don't live anywhere near me - OR, WA, IL, FL, NY, VA, KS, etc... and a number of males from the forums. There are some amazing people on here. I think if you apply effort, are patient, not highly restrictive and a good, open, honest person, you will find people.
Never give up, never surrender! (unless you're into that, then take it off site, that's not for here)
I dunno if I would throw in the towel for not finding cuddles near by. I think I might just have the worst luck of being able to find anyone else who is close enough and on top of that can work with me given my work/home schedule. Really, the question is "is anything keeping you here" and for me I would say the friends I've made who are long distance have been friggin amazing here and for that I stay. If stars happen to align and I can meet someone from here that I click with then I welcome it, but having that as the only expectation will leave someone very much frustrated which I can completely understand that part, but I think it's a shame if the view of just looking to cuddle. It seems myopic to not think of the potential of having a friend and be able to build this kind of trust and not be romantically involved. It feels like it's a skill that doesn't get built upon a lot.
@laylanie Ahem! You are supposed t be working on that teleportation device remember? Progress yet?
@pmvines I told you my job is to tell others how software and hardware should work! Not execution! Lmao
I am sorry to hear you are feeling that way. I get real down to earth vibes from your profile and you seem like someone that would be really fun to meet and cuddle with. I'd say to keep holding on because new people are joining all the time and you never know. I hope the best of luck for you and that you find a successful cuddler.
Thank you PlushandPerfect. Im pretty sure its the area I live in. Theres only 12 women listed within 50 miles of me and none have been on the site in more than 4 months and there are no pros at all. I limit to 50 miles due to disabilitys. maybe someday