Female Cuddle Enthusiasts- only please

MaxCuddleMaxCuddle
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I would like to hear from the female cuddle enthusiasts. I have female friends and co- workers who I give hugs to. But not comfortable enough to ask to cuddle. I get it, t's a personnel thing. But since they join the site, why do we men have to be so cautious on what we messag to the women here? She is here to cuddle. I'm here to cuddle. Why can it be like.. Hey do u want to cuddle? Ok. When? I try to be polite and respectful. Out of around 15 cuddlest that I have messaged, only met 1. And actually she messaged me first.

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  • MaxCuddleMaxCuddle

    I would like to hear from the female cuddle enthusiasts. I have female friends and co- workers who I give hugs to. But not comfortable enough to ask to cuddle. I get it, t's a personnel thing. But since they join the site, why do we men have to be so cautious on what we messag to the women here? She is here to cuddle. I'm here to cuddle. Why can it be like.. Hey do u want to cuddle? Ok. When? I try to be polite and respectful. Out of around 15 cuddlest that I have messaged, only met 1. And actually she messaged me first. If we are Not here for meeting a boyfriend/ girlfriend, looks and age shouldn't matter.

  • [Deleted User]CharlesTwisted (deleted user)
    edited June 2019

    It’s embarrassing that this needs to be explained...

    But, speaking in broad generalities, the risks are FAR different.

    When a man has a bad first interaction with a woman, he is rejected, perhaps he suffers embarrassment, and perhaps has emotions of shame, regret, and anger.

    When a woman has a bad first interaction with a man, she might be attacked, perhaps raped, and possibly killed.

    If you lack the experience or intellect to grasp that, work on it.

    Your goal as a good man should be to do whatever she needs to build familiarity, comfort, and trust.

    If that is too hard for you, oh well.

    But a woman’s safety is of paramount importance, and her deliberate caution is to be applauded, encouraged, and supported.

  • [Deleted User]CharlesTwisted (deleted user)
    edited June 2019

    (Twin threads? Ah well, second verse same as the first!)

    Edited by the Department of Redundancy Department.

  • [Deleted User]kadafra (deleted user)

    Thank you @CharlesTwisted for having the empathy to understand something which is pretty much taken given by women. It's something that's surprisingly hard to come across in a lot of guys.

  • Navyman1010Navyman1010

    Wow gender bias, what about genderless ppl

  • KabochaKabocha

    @CharlesTwisted +1

  • [Deleted User]SoulcuddlerZ (deleted user)

    Discussions have been merged.

  • MaxCuddleMaxCuddle

    I asked for Female Enthusiasts!

  • [Deleted User]kadafra (deleted user)

    There are quite a few men with ulterior motives. We have to take the time to discern those here for this site's platonic purposes. Better safe than sorry

  • MaxCuddleMaxCuddle

    I understand that. But the conversation has to start somewhere. I get that some still dwell on looks and age, but If you are on this site, someone has to get the conversation going to weed out the creeps. Myself and what I hear from the other Forums the woman don't even respond. I sent a couple of msg to one woman. Then asked if she would let me know why no response. Age, race, profile. No response back.

  • [Deleted User]SJSpooner (deleted user)

    I am a female enthusiast. Firstly - @CharlesTwisted - you nailed it. Yup. Thank you.

    @MaxCuddle - as a female enthusiast I think @CharlesTwisted nailed it. This woman needs to add nothing more to this thread at this particular time. Wonder what the thoughts of other female enthusiasts out there might be... anyone.. .anyone.

  • [Deleted User]CharlesTwisted (deleted user)

    @MaxCuddle

    I found your message to me to not only lack understanding, but also to be aggressive, and a bit threatening.

    “Your wise ass remarks on my Forum do not help. I know woman have to be safe and carefull. But no response at all instead of starting a conversation doesn't get them anywhere. Then they leave the site!”

    A few notes for you...

    These are the Cuddle Comfort forums, not yours, nor mine.

    *women
    *careful

    No response at all DOES “get them somewhere”. It gets them one step closer to not bothering with you, for whatever reason they have, or even no reason at all.

    I’m continually stunned that any women stay on this site, with the amount of bother, harassment, and outright threats they deal with.

    And, again, it is embarrassing that this still needs to be explained...

    At any rate, I wish you growth, patience, and luck.

  • MaxCuddleMaxCuddle

    Are you confused on who you are? I asked for females. And on your profile you said you're a man.

  • TheFunCartelTheFunCartel

    @MaxCuddle I normally take a dim view of @CharlesTwisted ‘s brand of self-righteousness that he tries to impose in the forums, but he is dead on in every aspect this time. First, he is correct—creating a thread does not mean you own it. Second, as Charles stated, if you cannot grasp the multitude of obvious things women deal with along with the many nefarious ones you may not have even considered, then one has to think your motives on this thread are purely self-serving. I do not believe for a minute you are interested in hearing and understanding the obstacles women face.

  • MaxCuddleMaxCuddle

    I understand what the woman's face. I have three sisters. I would have them take a lot of precautions if they wanted to meet somebody. But again what I'm saying is women don't even reach out to any messages from me or from what I hear from anybody else. I'm not stupid I know there are a lot of things that could happen to these women. And take a chance also. If I go to a woman's place I don't know if she has men in the room that want to rob me.

  • DimpleDollDimpleDoll

    As many others have mentioned above, safety is a lot of the main concern.
    Biologically men are stronger than women. I know for me personally, I can't exactly fight off a guy my own size who's got some sort of muscle. There is an even deeper vulnerability for women because we don't know this man we're allowing to encroach in our space and cradle us to them. We have to vet guys to ensure we're comfortable and we feel we're not likely to get murdered and found for our family members in a ditch somewhere.

    Our safety is top priority, if that hurts your feelings, then that is a shame and I apologize but I want to remain safe.

    Other times, women are still superficial. Everyone likes to look at something that's pleasing to their eye. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Men are just as guilty of it as women. I know personally I've overlooked physical looks in favor of a kind, good heart.

  • pmvinespmvines

    A woman may have multiple reasons, or none at all. Truth is, it is not your right to expect things to bend to the direction of what suits you the best. Nobody owes you anything in life, not in interweb land, not in real life. It is entitled and naïve to assume that one does. I agree with everything I have heard thus far from the women on this forum expressing their thoughts and opinions. My advice to OP is to listen. You asked. They are answering. However you seem to want to argue your point rather than listening. You learn from listening, not from continuous debate. I do not judge you nor wish ill of you for your thoughts, just understand that if you are wanting to learn from others, you must first listen.

  • MaxCuddleMaxCuddle

    How do we close this discussion? You guys are not telling me anything I don't know already. This was a waste of time.

  • pmvinespmvines
    edited June 2019

    @MaxCuddle Flag it and state you want it to be closed and why. Though I will say, just because you start a thread doesn't mean you own it really. It belongs to all the users and other folks may benefit from discussion...

  • [Deleted User]SoulcuddlerZ (deleted user)

    Closed. 03 JUN 2019 20:09 EDT

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