Everytime I hear "age ain't nothing but a number" I'm reminded of R Kelly. Well, today he learns that jail is just a room.
To me, age is nothing more than a number. It's not like I want to cuddle with everyone because of how societal norms are, but if there is someone who is wanting me to feel close to them, then they will let me. If not, I should respect that and leave them be.
I want to believe in the individual for who they are. Not just because of gender, race, creed, or even age. I have bad trust issues because of being pressured into accepting people for their position and how everyone around me thinks I should act. It's not a healthy way for anyone to be.
So if the person is older than me, younger than me or same in age, the thing that should matter is if we understand why we made the connection. It should be to trust each other. If that's there, than age is something that should not be a problem.
Though it should be the consequence, good or bad, that can determine where things canto from there.
Thank you for your time.
Excellent post @redbeard87
Ah, the age old question... 😉
@hogboblin that was funny.
Speaking from the point of view of someone who has hired pros, I rather enjoy cuddling those 20-30 years younger. Something about it taking me back to younger days.
That's my story and I'm sticking with it.
To me it matters. I try to meet anyone under 25 or over 50
@Tallandshyguy Can you please offer a few more details about that under 25 remark? Maybe it is me but it could be construed as well, deviant to say the least. Also, is your last name Epstein?
I guess I feel like I am older now and cuddling with someone who is college feels uncomfortable lol
@Tallandshyguy But you are saying above 18 right? You still need clarification.
Above 21. There is a cuddler who is 23 and I am still in discussions with myself if I want to go through with it and set up a meeting
It's obviously creepy for old dudes to specifically seek out young girls. Half your age + 7 brah. I prefer cuddling with women older than myself, though my ideal is my exact age.
@Tallandshyguy if you have to ask then you already know bro. You gotta pick someone that you know will enjoy it too or it's selfish my man
Yeah, brah.
@Jim_To_The_Min Pretty fascist view of who can Cuddle who. I get messages from younger women who send me messages. No they are not hookers. I sometimes see them, sometimes not. The ones I will not see are the ones that after chatting with them, come across as having inflexible views and opinions such as yours above. I do not target young women—I target women of all ages who demonstrate a level of worldliness, intellect or curiosity. Believing the world is stratified and you have it all figured out is a turn off and makes for boring conversation. But there are plenty of those people at all ages brah.
Most Ages are only a number unless they are sub-18, they say they are not interested, or some sort of illegal act has occurred. Age is about the 3C’s—context, consent and chemistry.
I generally don't see women my age on this forum (I'm 55). I think having an age difference probably reinforces it being a platonic interaction.
I'm not certain a younger me would have been willing to take the risk (nor understood the idea) of meeting someone for physical closeness that was NOT built around trying to get romantic
Some related threads:
-- Stats for male and female age preferences
-- The last few links under Who people cuddle.
I think it depends on the person/people more than anything. The most memorable cuddles I've ever had were with a 22 year old (I'm 48), and it was 100% platonic.
It can be nice being around someone youthful, but you can be youthful at any age.
As is so often true, @respectful is the real MVP.
@CharlesTwisted "the real MVP"
Thanks! I had to look that one up. It's nice to be seen as the Most Versatile Poet. (Marketing Vice President? Minimum Viable Population? Moderate View Point?).
@respectful I was going for “Most Valuable Poster”, but those are good too.
@FunCartel bro be real, if any dude is specifically seeking out young girls here we all know why. Half your age + 7 or else it's weird man. Only way to avoid being the old creepy guy paying to touch young girls brah
Only for buying pros anyway. With enthusiasts anything goes since they must want it since that's all they're getting out of it
BTW yes I am a Fascist. Literally. Fascists just call a spade a spade mayne. 48 year old dude driving past 8 women his age to pay to touch a 21 year old girl we say "brah I know what you're up to". Others might say "nah he's clearly got purely platonic things on his mind" but we just say "c'mon you're fooling no one mate". That's the whole point of Fascism really: just admit what everyone knows, be honest with yourself as an individual and a nation.
From Cuddle parties - all super boundaried - I've cuddled with a range from 75 to 24, as long as the facilitator is great, the group has continuity, and everyone knows the lines, I've found the age difference only came up for me when I thought about someone being no older that 20-21 and that they not know their boundaries, and even if consent is given, I worry about trusting someone's yes who may not really no what their yes is. I hate to sound discriminatory against people of that age group, that's less than what I mean than, that as a 42 year old, I should be mindful of such things in the arena of intimacy.
Age doesn’t and shouldn’t matter as long as both are legal and enjoying cuddles within the rules. Old guys like me need cuddles too. :-) And I also shouldn’t be made to feel like a perv if I’m cuddling someone in their early 20’s. Most of the time it’s all about conversation anyways. It wouldn’t matter if both were in public talking, which is why it shouldn’t matter just because the communication is happening in a spoon.
So, I have read many of the posts on here. I will admit - not all of them. This is a rather long thread. That being said, I feel compelled to answer it as just one non pro cudder. I notice that many people have answered this by saying things along the lines of "well, age SHOULDN'T matter'. And I suppose in a perfect world that should be the case.
And yet for me personally, as someone looking for they types of cuddling experiences that I think will be most fulfilling to me - yes age matters. Let me explain. I am a 49 year old woman. My age preference for cuddlers (as stated in my profile) is 40-60. Might I make special allowances for someone who stradled either one of those cut off ages? Maybe.
As an enthusiast I am looking for an experience that is mutually enjoyable. I am not a woman who is simply here to satisfy the needs of someone who is solely here to satisfy their own need for comfort and physical touch. I get the impression from hanging around here for 1.5 years, that many people assume that woman are mainly here to serve the cuddle needs of men. Now I may get called out for this, and great - bring it on. I understand that many people see this as a 'service' and in a sense that is the case when we are talking about pro cuddlers charging clients money for their time and attention. Two different streams cross here, and there is much room for misundertanding and multiple interpretations. I get that.
For me, I know that i feel most comfortable around more mature, mellow male energy. I simply find that men over 40 are generally more accepting of women and all our faults and flaws and no longer put us on a pedestal or see us as mysterious creatures. Most men of that age have had years of experience being in relationships with women, of living with them, of having them as partners or wives or even now, as daughters. Most younger men on here insist on pushing my boundaries - be it insisting on 'meeting up tonight' or 'coming over to my place' or endlessly flirting and 'pushing the envelope' when it comes to the types of cuddling experiences they are looking for. Now, of course - I am sure this is not every man under the age of 40. I get that. I can only speak from my experience. Speaking in general terms is always risky. I acknowledge that.
For me personally, I know that I feel most comforted and safe when am with someone who can go deeper than recognizing that cuddling is a very sensual and intimate activity. That he can see it as such, and put that aside and acknowledge that this woman in his presence just (like him) needs to shut out the outside world for a bit. See me as a fellow human who needs tender attention and platonic healing touch as much as he does - and leave it at that.
So that is why - yes - age matters to ME.
@Jim_To_The_Min I am not going to debate you because fascism only means you are inflexible and everything is black and white. I wish you luck in life and I offer my pity that you have such a dim view of the world.
@SJSpooner that is my experience exactly.
I am almost 50 and I do cuddles with a 25 year old. You be surprised how mature younger women are.
@pcuddleman4921 that is some creepy stuff you are talking about. Those girls can’t be too smart getting intimate with an old man.
@HugsAndAttitude That's a pretty unfair assumption about both parties....
I think the assumptions you're making just because of the ages of the people involved are a little creepy. You're a guy @HugsAndAttitude are you saying in say 20-30 years you'll be someone creepy that younger women shouldn't cuddle with? or are you implying it's more of a generational thing because that's just as unjustified.
What assumptions? @zundar and @RaindropSweetie you guys need to pull your minds out of the gutter. Cuddling is intimate but it does not mean sex. Why you single me out when there are others in this thread that are saying the same thing is beyond me although I am not surprised that zundar said something without looking back as he jumps into many threads without a frame of reference.
@HugsAndAttitude the only person mentioning sex here is you. The assumption was that anything creepy was going on between the two parties because of the age, or that the age difference somehow inherently makes it creepy. Less singling you out and more you caught my attention by being near the bottom without much in the way of pushback for such an odd statement. And yes this was definitely me not bothering to read the thread at all/noticing the repetition of the views being stated rather than thinking "that guy's already gotten a bunch of replies and bringing it back up would be redundant at this point" but nice jab.
Would you care to maybe back up your statement about it being creepy?
@Zundar it is creepy that this guy is talking about cuddling intimately with someone that is his daughter’s age. That is creepy.