@CuddlesInParis what an uneducated condescending incorrect statement to make
I’m probably inviting the wrong type of attention. Lol There are cuddlers on here with 1 photo of themselves who have inboxed me during this period of time I’ve had this thread going, sharing their experiences of sexual harassment and assault.
Sharing their experiences on the kinds of messages they too have received
The fact that your brain computes what a person has on or looks like as permissible justification to the route in which an individual crosses the line of respect.. shows that you yourself are capable of such questionable and uncouth behavior.
Never again say that to anyone. Have some respect for yourself.
Nothing about my photos or the message in my bio is inadvertently suggesting I want to be contacted about any sort of engagement that breaks site rules no stupid wink wink needed and guess what the moderators see my reports and my messages to the guys who have messaged me after coming on to my page 5-10 times before finally speaking Usually they never have a photo In an instance or 2 they may have.
If a person is perverted or has ill intent that’s on them NO ONE INVITES that mentality to their own brain. They know what they’ve agreed to. It pops up before you can send a message. Yet they still wait to see how they can use verbiage to suggest something the moderators have clearly highlighted is against site rules.
I’m going to make it very plain for all who have responded everyone who has brought good advice and warm thoughts thank you for taking the time
those of you that have come to incite some sort of negativity only God can help you that’s not my concern & more than likely I will be blocking you as well because there are hundreds of users that are willing to communicate on this site in ways that don’t incite negativity or don’t suggest breaking the rules.
After the last one who asked if he could frisk me heavily during a session I decided to include that in my bio and guess what I haven’t had one person message me anything like that since then.. so again
STAY ON TOPIC If you have nothing to say relevant to the topic get off the thread.
@bay111 I didn't read all responses yet. Though I can relate a tiny bit. Sorry you're going through this, nobody deserves it.
NOBODY OWES YOU A CUDDLE, THEIR TIME, TO TALK. NOBODY OWES YOU ANYTHING. IF someone says leave me alone, you need to do just that. If someone even just seems uncomfortable with you or you aren't sure you need to step back.
That said, I'd like to know if you've video called/met this person. Do they match their photo? And how do you know it's them when they don't use that photo: if you don't mind answering. I think that would help others to be more safe.
@Lovelight I met him 1ce early May 2018 We had 1 session. He was awkward shy and was sniffling a lot so honestly I didn’t even want to get close because I didn’t want to get sick. Either way I guess it didn’t show because like I said in an earlier response when he was leaving the session and he was thanking me he leaned in to give me a hug and that was when he grabbed my ass with both his hands and his apology was rooted in the fact that he found me to be extremely beautiful which at that point it’s not even flattering it was just an excuse.. So yes I’ve met him, yes I know what he looks like and the times where he had contacted me through the site and didn’t use the photo and was approaching the conversation as though he was a brand new user that didn’t know me, I just honestly used more probing questions to finally figure out it was him
and if the intent is to meet me eventually you’re going to have to give me 1. your name 2. your phone number and 3. you’re going to need to know where I’m at so you can meet me.
I have a very strong spirit of discernment and like I was just telling @Mark I’m not afraid to cancel if it get a weird vibe.
This is something for me to decompress from work. I am a 2 time award winning Music Producer, Bilingual Recording Artist, Director & Video Editor. It’s not an everyday thing so I’m not pressed. I’m single and don’t have kids so when I was introduced to it by a friend at NASA it was like okay “this is a cool way to meet people without the pressures of being in a formal environment and making small talk across a dinner table.”
I can pick up weird energies in as little as 3 to 4 sentences. & because I have had pleasant experiences with cuddlers on here in the past, I have a pretty good idea of when I’m getting ready to meet someone who is cool calm levelheaded and is on the site for the same reasons that I am on the site for
there’s usually no complication with the way we interact especially when it comes time to sending a booking proposal choosing a date and time exchanging telephone numbers and meeting up
If somebody from outside CC was to look at your profile pictures they would probably think it was from another website. The truth whether it hurts or not is that your pictures are not appropriate for this site.
I’ll give you the benefit of the doubt. Maybe you are all about platonic cuddling. However there are many men on this site that come across a profile like yours and think otherwise.
I’ve exposed this site to tons of ppl OUTSIDE of the site. No one has thought Any such thing. And the site moderators are on their job. They don’t miss a beat.. if there’s a photo they deem inappropriate they remove it. @CuddlesInParis I need you to have several seats. Just because YOU want to come on here & state that 3 photos of me in a dress in front of my mirror, a selfie where I’m at the dinner table and 4 photos of me in a button up and pants, suggests I’m looking to do anything other than platonic cuddling, is probably because when you see a woman such as myself you wish you had a genuine opportunity to do more than just that. That’s the real truth. Same as for the ones who actually take to seeing if they can shoot their shot. I don’t need a benefit of doubt from a person with your train of thought. But by all means please continue to expose it to the rest of us.
@bay111 i have reported profile pics and profiles that I felt were not appropriate for the context of this site . I would not consider reporting yours , it wouldn't cross my mind as there is nothing wrong or inappropriate with it . I don't feel most people on this site would think so either. Believe me when I say that you don't need to defend yourself against what @CuddlesInParis is saying . There is no relevance to it .
@bay111
that makes sense. Thanks for sharing. If it doesn't feel right, it's good to at least take a step back which is what I do as well. Especially, when we reject or have some form of an issue with a user than a brand new one whom we can either connect it's patterns, or we just get a bad feeling contacts us shortly after. Or even if ages after. If a pattern is noticed, it's best to take a step back and DEFINITELY at least ask for a photo, AND do meet somewhere public. I recently met someone else where. He talked the talk and seemed like everything I wanted. Only to do a 180 and refuse to video call with me even after saying that would make me feel comfortable in meeting him. Neither of us had a photo either. So nope I shortly stopped it at that.
I suspect that I've asked for this after having told him of my having a disability: which he said he was cool with. Though, soon after seemed to not make an effort, and found some other type of excuse to reject me: which is whatever. Though, I felt no comfort in pursuing a meeting.
As for your photos, I'd say that while some look fine to me. Those with a skirt/dress? that are way above your knees, and appearing quite tight: can seem to suggest non-platonic to some. Do with that as you see fit. However, it doesn't in NO way excuse the behavior of those who assaulted you! What someone wears doesn't give anyone permission to disrespect, nor assault another! Even BABIES get assaulted, and worse. Those dressed in baggy clothes from virtually head to toe get assaulted too! Were they "asking" for it by how they dressed?! No.
I thought I was assaulted for the way I dressed once. The guy was kicking me hard and saying “You have this coming, it is written all over you!” Then I found the sign taped to my back that said “Kick me hard.”
It happens.
@FunCartel could you elaborate? I am not sure what you mean.
@Lovelight Read it again. If I explain it it ruins the joke.
Sorry to hear this. I am glad that there is a site where men and women can meet and help each other because of the distrust on both sides so we have the Me Too movement and MTGOW online movement that I hear about. I recall one session months back where my foremen accidently hit this lady's behind. She moves pretty quick and I guess I was relaxed already just 10-15 minutes into it and I moved a little slower and that happened. I blushed about it. I think she realized it was an accident and I guess paid no mind so at times the awkwardness is there if it is a first time meeting or many session with the same person because you are getting used to someone. I won't lie but men see what they like on a woman but most won't touch because of this site's rules and the respect for that person. This guy is not shy in his intent in that act. If good hugs from a woman is not enough, then this guy needs to go to other sites where escorts are since sex really is on his mind or get some help. Like Lovelight said no one is entitled to a cuddle so people should respect each other.
With that said that guy did straight up was inappropriate. I wrote because of the stalking because my own sister who don't be on the internet is being stalked right now by one guy who goes to her church who followed her when he saw her driving. He actually told her this. He messes with women in that church for years. She didn't fall for it but he won't stop. She drives another route to work now because he drove all the way from the another part of the city and park in this suburb plaza center at 6am. He was reported to security if he ever go there again. I am a little worried for her but that guy had no right to do what he did to you and now this stalking is worse. If it is internet or stalking outside the internet, it is very draining. Karma is coming for that guy one way or another and I do hope he leaves you alone or he is really asking for it later due his persistent and evil behavior because karma does come. I hope this makes sense
@CuddlesInParis dude ... evidently you haven't read the description about herself ! Dudes like you can only rush to make assumptions based on the cover a book, without taking the time to read it. Your comments are very offensive rather than constructive . Can't believe you had the nerve!! That's why I'm referring to you as a dude , no Man will make such a brainless comment.
You don’t defy who I am, James. I was pointing out that her pictures can appear to be of a different nature. Other than platonic services. You are just too sensitive.
Great.
Another user noticed as well.
@CuddlesInParis you are completely right about that ! I don't define who you are. What defines you it's the way you think, feel , speak and act . It's called...... CONGRUENCE .
Things are getting nasty. Please settle this in the manner of BattleBots.
@Lovelight let’s be clear on something This forum wasn’t created for you or anyone else to give their opinion on my photos. I’m HOT that’s not going to change
Whether I’m in a dress that most women don’t have the body to fit into or in a button up and pants.
The photos on the site aren’t inappropriate in the least bit to start off with so thank you @pmvines for pointing that out
In any case photos of a hot woman do not NEGATE the fact that THERE ARE RULES to this site, That you are knowingly breaking when you decide to message or proposition anyone with anything against site rules.
So again stick to the topic! The dozens of women coming forward about reporting profiles do they have photos that require your opinion? Not that mine do but the answer is no. Yet they are still coming forward sharing their experiences. Luckily for me what happened happened in a split second when he hugged me as he made his leave over a year ago. And isn’t traumatic or life threatening
His MENTAL state was more what I was concerned about as it is extremely abnormal for a person to still be thinking of me a year and a half later after one encounter
@DrJames thank you for clearly pointing out what we all can see concerning @CuddlesInParis and I think at this point it’s safe to say that you can rightly ignore that user and his opinions.
Trying to find a justification to a person breaking site rules when they see a cuddler in person based on a photo I took in August.
I wear sweats in my house not dresses. But I uploaded CELL PHONE pictures taken in real time because trust me if I uploaded professional ones I’d be answering more messages about if I’m real or catfish than anything else
I think it says a lot about anyone who comes on to this thread and is more focused on me and my photos or my bio THAN A USER BREAKING SITE RULES TOUCHING A CUDDLER WHERE SHE DOESNT INVITE HIM TO TOUCH CREATING MULTIPLE PROFILES TO REACH OUT TO HER AFTER SHES TOLD HIM SHE NO LONGER WANTS TO COMMUNICATE AND DOING THAT CONSISTENTLY ACROSS MULTIPLE SITES FOR A YEAR AND A HALF.
something is to be said of your level of understanding compassion and thinking if your focus isn’t on the latter.
So as to not be insensitive I cropped out names but these are just some of the messages I’ve received where it’s OBVIOUS that the photos of users have NOTHING to do with the fact that SOME ppl on this site just will not respect the rules.
So far as they know when it comes to me they’ll be blocked we’re all good. There are hundreds of women on here. It’s no love lost and I certainly don’t need to meet every man on here. I don’t just welcome everyone into my sacred space and since the vetting process has been left to us individually I will write what I Please in my bio and block or cancel as I deem fit. It’s my profile.
@MrCuddlenity thank you for your empathy and sharing from your personal experiences with this sort of situation. I appreciate the warm words.
It is victim shaming that allows for sex offenders like the one @bay111 has described to thrive.
Facts.
The characteristics of good therapeutic professional Cuddlers are and should be the following. They are caring, kind, gentle, sweet and they are good listeners. They focus on others, not themselves. Opposite would be a person with narcissistic behaviors that calls themselves, HOT. A hostile person that can’t quit typing in CAPS (annoying). With pictures that would fit better elsewhere. I have been following the professional cuddling industry for more than 8 years. It started out looking innocent enough but recently has been attracting some questionable professionals. Please be weary folks.
I think you're all being trolled.
@kense by the idiot above who keeps coming on the thread with his negative comments right lol I’d have to agree. It’s fine though. I guess it’s narcissistic to consider myself hot AND TYPE IN CAPS lol If you don’t like it @CuddlesInParis get off the thread. You’re serving no purpose
You do possess narcissistic characteristics. After reading your previous posts. Quit typing in caps. It’s annoying and painful on the eyes.
@CuddlesInParis get off this thread. No one wants to engage with you further take your idiotic opinions elsewhere posting women’s photos without their consent advertising another cuddle platform and name calling on a thread where you’ve done nothing but avoid addressing the topic to resort to victim shaming and name calling. If those are the women you like go on to their posts and pages and converse with them. Stop looking for attention from me on matters pertaining to me that do not concern you. You’re not wanted here. Or do you like Andrew have a hard time respecting when a person no longer wishes to see your name your words or your engagement and interaction as it relates to THEIR BUSINESS.
and if you think you’re in position to tell me how to do anything from what to wear to how to speak of myself because YES I AM HOT or as to whether or not I WILL TYPE IN CAPS you’re sadly mistaken.
Again, leave this thread and stop looking to further engage with me or about me or topics related to me. You and I would never cuddle even if it was the zombie apocalypse and it was the antidote. Why are you so worried about me and what kind of cuddler I am. Those who have seen me and left reviews love me. And those who have and didn’t do as well.
Goodbye