Or as some may call them cuddle tourists. I know the object is welcome any & all who are willing to try their hand at platonic cuddles but how do we feel about those with self imposed expiration dates ? In our head do we second guess their motives for being here ? I personally don't because everyone has a story and I usually try to reserve judgement until I hear it. But some of us are probably much more critical. For instance how many profiles have you read here that start with the following " I decided to come here after a recent breakup ...... " I would never deny anyone rebound cuddles or affection when they probably need it most but are they splitting once they get over that horrid ex and find someone new ? Do they see platonic or " therapeutic " as one once called it something to only seek when not in a relationship ? With that frame of thinking do they really view it as something strictly platonic ? Or maybe there's no way their new squeeze could ever get down with them cuddling other people. What if they told you that from the beginning " Once I find Mr or Ms right you're cut off " would you even proceed ? What if you meet the perfect local cuddle buddy in every way but early on in the process they tell you " So I'm only hear for 6 months then my job is transferring me to the Artic to spy on penguins " 1st of all do better career wise ... But more importantly do you immediately hit stop knowing this 100% temporary ?
The tourist bug just doesn't strike enthusiasts oh no ... It also affects the pro / client dynamic as well. I'd be curious if a pro was disappointed when that perfect client stopped coming around and they found out later it was because he or she found a relationship or lost a job. Or if you as a client after a session with your favorite pro she dropped on you " So yeah things are getting serious with this guy so I won't be doing this anymore because I know he's not ok with it and I really want it to work. " or they tell you " So in another month the credit card debt that racked up because of student loans and my Kate Spade addiction will be paid so I won't need to cuddle strangers anymore " Does it hurt like you're losing a good therapist or doctor or like that great dry cleaners down the street that pressed your slacks perfectly or is it deeper than that ? In any of the examples I mentioned is more of a procedural strain or emotional strain when we think we've found the found the perfect cuddle partner but only to find out they're only hear for a good time but not a long time. Does that make us take us pause or do we just go for it not knowing when the next one will come around ? Just the ramblings of weirdo at 8pm on a Tuesday night but comments are welcome.