I'm wondering if people with anxious attachment styles have navigated spending time with different types of people and if that's altered your experience.
I'm a person with anxious attachment. When I'm stressed out, nothing makes me feel better than connecting with someone. And when I go too long feeling like someone wants me as part of their regular regime, or something changes abruptly.. it's overwhelming to cope with.
I was thinking that if I tried to find another person who identifies as having anxious attachment, whose done some self work, but whose decided that it's ok to get anxious about attachment.. that we might be able to have feelings without pushing the other away.
Anyone else explored options or want to share insights. I've learned a bit about the whole anxious-secure thing, but I'm so anxious I can make a secure person pull away sometimes, to be quite honest. I've been fortunate to connect with others who try to show up despite some differences there. But what if there's also a situation where my vulnerabilities are just naturally understood, and maybe matched by someone with an equal appreciation for connecting when things are rough. I'm stating to look to try something different. I usually go for the so self-secure that they can't cope with how unsecure I am type.