@JulianaRose22 I think she said that he deactivated his account before he could be reported but I think she might still be able to tho. I can’t remember but when you sign up, they ask quite a few questions so they may have something on him. 🤷🏽♂️ @SapioCuddler Im really sorry for what you went through. That kind of thing should never happen to anyone. That’s really creepy and probably put you at unrest like how much further could it go? But anyway, stick with the advice @littermate gave and hopefully this dissolves sooner than later. Keep us posted on your situation. Thanks everyone for supporting her. This is really cool to see
I hope it's true that, "What happens in a session, stays in a session" ; which can include not posting Karma, if either side doesn't want that.
Pros presumably give an unwritten undertaking to not repeat anything the client said, or did ( unless making a formal complaint about it ) ; giving clients the comfort to open up emotionally. It's rather like doctors and lawyers, who couldn't do their job properly without that.
Most Pros, quite reasonably, want to keep their private and professional lives separate. Perhaps the best way to do this, is to explain to the client that during the time together, the Pro is 100% focused on them, with complete discretion ; but this discretion would be compromised by contact outside that method.
Having clients as Friends on social media, or repeated texting, for instance ; risks the client being "outed" as someone who pays for cuddles, with all the associated stigma, perhaps many years in the future ( e.g. When one is running for political office ). The Pro is therefore thinking ahead, and acting in the client's best interests, by minimising the "digital connection". Secrecy only works, if both sides participate.
The wearing of face coverings in the UK for Covid-19 has had a lot of opposition, because it is emphasised that it protects others from the wearer. If instead it was because it protected the wearer, they might be more keen.
Espionage agents use the "need to know" principle because it reduces the risk of information being leaked ; but it also reduces the risk of "enhanced interrogation", if the opposition believes people really don't know anything. Ditto for not carrying a lot of cash ; one loses less in a street robbery, and it discourages the practice, helping everyone else.
@Mike403 Understandable. iBecause social media is so new and so different I think it's taken a while to have norms. And there are so many fine lines. I think a pro cuddler is kinda like a therapist... offering an impersonal service. Some may be happy to be FB friends but it seems like a conversation is necessary. Even enthusiasts can want the potection of anonymity with a new cuddler, or even a longtime cuddler, depending on their situation.
Even though pro cuddling Is a much less formal vocation than others , I would say it is prob a safe bet to treat it as though it is any other type of business in terms of professional boundaries. You wouldn't be texting your mechanic at all hours , asking the chiropractor out for lunch , or asking the car salesman for all of their social media info. Just yesterday a patient was asking me for my cell number . I politely gave them the main clinic number and told them that I dont conduct business on my personal cell .
@pmvines - I'm still Facebook friends with a few waitresses, bartenders, as well as the manager who worked at a night club. Everyone is different, but yes, it is appropriate to ask first if it's okay.
My point is, don't always assume someone is a creep if they don't happen to understand a certain boundary. I used to attempt to add people on my Facebook without asking first because I wouldn't have a problem if people did it to me. I'm on the autism spectrum which makes it difficult to understand other people and unwritten social rules.
@Mike403 Be assured, we are all on the spectrum.
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@geoff1000 - I've been formally diagnosed with high-functioning autism(formally known as Asperger's Syndrome). We are extremely awkward in social situations, but are highly intelligent in other areas such as math and science. Taking college classes gave me something to do that I can do well in.
@Mike403 Same here. One of the main reasons I was attracted to this site was because of my personal difficulties meeting someone to cuddle with due to this condition.
@pmvines Many years ago, a colleague at work answered my desk phone. When told I wasn't in the office, they asked for my personal phone number.
My colleague asked if they had a pen and paper handy, then very slowly read out . . . the extension number of the desk phone they had just called.