@pmvines yes sir ☺️☺️
The term "Friends with Benefits" has become a euphemism for occasional sex, but occasional cuddling is also a "benefit". Ditto a massage "with a happy ending".
@geoff1000 - Receiving a hug every now and then is necessary for our mental health. Sex isn't as much as some guys like to believe otherwise.
@pmvines "When you stop looking at everybody on here in terms of cuddle pal potential and start looking at them as people you might connect and chat..."
LOUDER FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK!! LOL
Couldn't have said it better myself. Here's my input, if you're messaging a pro here, just know that we get an abundance of messages, more than we can handle, so getting to the point and actually trying to connect will most certainly set you apart! This is not tinder therefore don't talk to us like we're your next hookup. Cuddling is way more personal and much more rewarding to both parties 😊
For my guy enthusiasts I have a opener to initiate a cuddle session. Inbox me, can’t let the young ladies know on here 🤣
@SanFranResident Wow...if I ever need a background check on anyone your my man👍🏽
"When you stop looking at everybody on here in terms of cuddle pal potential and start looking at them as people you might connect and chat with , it really broadens your scope of reach. "
@pmvines hits it out of the park again! And the crowd is on its feet!
Enthusiasts do indeed join CC for cuddling.
However, when people join a dating site, they are often looking for someone with whom to have sex so they can raise children together ; though it's similarly inadvisable to put that in one's first message.
@littermate 🤗🤗🤗🤗
@SanFranResident you're lucky. In my area (+300miles), once a time in the past there were:
We met, sometimes we secretly cuddle. It's cool, it's free, it's spontaneous.
In Las Vegas, there are currently 34 cuddlers listed but one of the non-pros just got banned so down to 33
@pmvines are you calling me a square?
Honestly, I ask straight up: Do you want to cuddle? I’m available at this time...are you for a cuddle?
Not often that I ask but when I hit a dry spell I put out several feelers. May get two or one actual meetup.
This week I was talking to eight different guys that initiated a conversation about cuddling me. Only two are actual meetups and both for next week.
Don’t get phased by those that just stop talking, want different things, or don’t want to finalize a meetup. It’s not personal. For whatever reason was not meant to be. Both have to be truly interested and on the same page so both can have a really good experience.
If your in a negative place don’t lead with that. We are all here because we are deprived in some way and in need.
Again... just ask😘👍🏽
newbie here..so please go easy... I didn't read every single entry on this thread but, am I correct in saying it's difficult for the men on CC to find a woman to cuddle with who isn't a pro?
@SilveryMoon
Depends on ... -if any cuddle buddies in your area. -ratio of pro to non pro -profile info... if you have not filled it out definitely do so -Profile and conversation needs to be friendly, positive, not inappropriate, answer all the questions that are asked honestly, and etc.
🤔yes I heard plenty of guys say it’s hard to find someone for the afore mentioned things👍🏽
@lovelyhugs wow. That sucks. I think I may be am enthusiast then, I guess.
What is an enthusiast?
@SilveryMoon , I just did two searches on this site for you. You're in Bloomfield. I searched for people who've been on this site in the last week, who are not pros, who are within 50 miles of Bloomfield, and who cuddle the opposite sex.
There are 381 men.
There are 13 women.
So yeah, you could say it's just a bit difficult for men to find a non-pro woman to cuddle.
@SanFranResident yowza. Well, I'm here !
@SilveryMoon 🤔enthusiast... biggest difference is they will never charge any fee or take ANY money. If they do they are not supposed too and should be reported ASAP. Every other attribute you can find enthusiast and nonpro having the same qualities. Really depends on the person.
@WhiteHawk92 As a woman, most conversations have been started by men. And I will generally respond to everyone. If the convo gets boring, abrasive, or otherwise uncomfortable I let it fizzle out. I quit asking questions or replying to any message that doesn’t ask me a question.
But if I initiate, I start by looking at and thoroughly reading profiles (I do this anyway when I get a message). I find something that piques my interest and then I send a message to them referring to that interest, if it’s someone I would be interested in meeting. I ask questions. I keep the conversation going. And once I decide it will probably be a good match, I just ask. “So, would you like to meet up? We can hang and get to know each other more in person and let things evolve organically.” And have no pressure or expectation for cuddles the first time. But I wouldn’t start a convo saying, “Hey, do you wanna cuddle?”
Hope that helps.
My feeling is that cuddling generally involves conversation, at least early on ; so the invite is to cuddle while conversing, and hence the conversation should start first and be going well. I guess it's like inviting someone to dinner ; that it is to continue a conversation that is happening in an awkward time and place, rather than just out of nowhere. Later cuddles, like later shared meals, can be in silence.
The physical act of cuddling, is rather like a condiment on a meal ; it doesn't work well on its own, people have different tastes, and if it's one you haven't tried before it's best to start with just a little on the side rather than smothering the whole plate.
@geoff1000 “ The physical act of cuddling, is rather like a condiment on a meal...” At first I was like dare he 😂but then I read on and it deserved an applause 👏
You and that precious pup are adorable. Don't give up.
I'll be honest. I don't have time for endless chit chat messages. I'm here and available to support through virtual or in person. Whether someone needs a moma hug, friend, or companion for fun stuff so life doesn't feel so lonely. Don't hesitate with me i like someone who offers a booking proposal with ideas for how they want the session to go based on my guidelines for getting started.
I appreciate someone who looks at the effort I made to post several pics + details in my profile. I'm a pro because I have. I am here to help people seize the day.
So reach out to the ones you like and go for it. If they don't respond or do anything weird move on and try not to take it personally. Sometimes it has nothing to do with you, it's junk they are going through and doing the best they can.
Take care 🙂 ❤ Stay strong and courageous!
I feel that although female pros and non-pros, all sit on a range of preference for conversation before cuddling ; it's probably true that non-pros are generally more towards the "more conversation" end. Think of asking a motorist for a lift ; a taxi-driver probably isn't that bothered about a pre-journey conversation, but a non-taxi-driver probably wants to establish rapport first.
@lovelyhugs thank you 😊 Yeah, I'm an enthusiast.
I suppose "enthusiast" or "non-pro" is equivalent to "amateur" but without the negative connotation. The gold-medal winners in Olympic soccer ( and similar sports ) are "amateurs", even though they may be better than some professional players.
I heard of an amateur golfer who took part in a competition, and won several thousand dollars ; but he declined the prize money, because he would have then been ineligible for amateur-only competitions.
A good way to overcome the awkwardness of being offered money and having to refuse it without giving offence, is to specify a charity that the money should be given to. I found some money in the street, a few coins here and there which could never have been traced back to the legal owners ; so I went to my local supermarket and spent it on a couple of cans for the charity foodbank.
@geoff1000 - Oympic soccer players are professionals as are most other Olympic competitors. I get your point though.
@UKGuy My bad. The rules were officially gradually relaxed over the 70's and 80's. I should try to keep up with the news.
However, I am right in saying that only men can compete, and must do so naked. 😂