Emotional Support

[Deleted User]Roger74 (deleted user)
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I’ve been through hell in the last four years. I mean, the first person I felt close to me—the guy I fell in love with. Although he didn’t love me the way I did him. I had to watch him have sex with someone else because “they” were into each other. I basically had to sit by and watch or listen. But he was the one that I cuddled with first. And I had some really good affection in my life.

Well. I eventually moved back home and found someone else online. And to make this short he basically lied to me for two years and stupid me I stayed with him because I believed him. He was going to be the person that helped me get over Florida.

After the online situation then I just wanted to find someone that I could cuddle with and have in my life like Florida was. I’m Asexual, so I’m not driven by sex. Most younger guys, who I’m attracted to are mostly into sex.

When I found this site years ago. I thought maybe I could find a younger guy that could be there for me in a special way. Someone that maybe feels bad for me and would help me to feel that affection again.

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  • littermatelittermate

    Bless your heart, I hope you find what you're looking for. <3

  • JulianaRose22JulianaRose22

    Hi Roger!
    Ugh. What a bummer of a situation. I definitely don’t fit into who you’d be attracted to so I’m no help there, but I’m pansexual (and I often question being demisexual) and MAN does sh*t get complicated. I know how you feel. It’s hard to find good people that aren’t just driven by sex.

    I hope you find what you’re looking for.
    Much love 🌈♥️

  • geoff1000geoff1000

    Chemical elements had historic names, based on their properties or sources, but that became very confusing, especially when isotopes are included. Fortunately, every element is fully defined by the Atomic Number and Mass Number.

    A 4x4 is a vehicle with 4 wheels and 4 driven wheels. The Whyte notation for locomotives identifies the number of driven wheels, and the numbers of leading and trailing undriven wheels. Soccer teams have a 3-digit code for the number ofattackers, mid-field, and defenders.

    Maybe the descriptions of gender, sex and attraction would be helped by numbers instead of words. E.g.
    Gender identity
    0 = Male, 100 = Female
    Birth gender 0 = Male, 100 = Female
    Sexual attractedness to male, 0 to 100
    Sexually attracted to female, 0 to 100

    A heterosexual Cis-man would be 0,0,0,100
    A bisexual trans-woman would be 100,0,50,50
    An asexual female would be 100,100,0,0
    Etc.

    We can then add in other numbers for polyamorous-ness etc.

  • TouchSanctuaryTouchSanctuary

    I'm sorry to hear you've had such terrible experiences with relationships! I really hope you find what you're seeking. I do know there are asexual dating sites, apps, forums and Facebook groups that might be worth checking out.

  • geoff1000geoff1000

    It is believed that the great thing about a pro, is that for money they will do things that other people won't. I think the second best thing, is that they won't insist on you doing things that other people will. A pro won't mind if you sit six feet apart for an hour, and just chat ; or merely hold hands. A non-pro might insist on getting some physical contact. A sex worker won't insist you have sex, as a condition of you seeing them again.

    I can ask for a Big Mac without lettuce, or even without the beef patty ; allowing me to enjoy as much of the experience as I want, without the emotional pressure to endure the parts that I don't.

    I can ask a waitress to use the decaffeinated tea bag that I've brought with me, if they only have caffeinated options.

    Once you have the option to buy the experience you want, having if for free, is just a cost-saving exercise.

    I get most of my "relationship" reward second-hand ; that I enjoy making women happy, in one way or another. If that is merely by giving them money ( in exchange for something they don't mind doing ), that's a win.

  • SuperManCuddlesSuperManCuddles

    @Roger74 Sorry to hear! You sound like a good guy and looking for the right type of platonic connection. I could be a potential cuddle buddy for you, if interested.🤗❤️

  • littermatelittermate

    @FishCuddles you are winning all kinds of awards today in my relational Olympics. <3 <3 <3

  • SuperManCuddlesSuperManCuddles

    @littermate Thank you very much! ❤️I appreciate and happy to know!!!❤️❤️❤️

  • littermatelittermate

    @FishCuddles <3

  • [Deleted User]Roger74 (deleted user)

    @FishCuddles I appreciate your willingness. Unfortunately I’m all the way in PA. I was in Florida back when all this grief took place. I miss Florida. Actually I miss the guy :(

    I thought I had someone on here and the reason I was going to delete my account. He kind of attacked me verbally after he started talking to me. He then told me to stop texting till he had time.

    His profile said he was excited to help people and that’s why I was texting him.

    But he ended up saying he couldn’t. Why didn’t he just say he wasn’t interested. Aghhhg

  • [Deleted User]Mmart (deleted user)

    @Roger74
    Keep in mind that you are not responsible for the actions of others. Don't carry that around with you, just keep being a good guy. Best wishes.

  • [Deleted User]Roger74 (deleted user)

    I just miss T. The guy in Florida. He made me feel special. He doesn’t even have time to talk to me. He doesn’t even realize.

  • AceCuddlerMikeAceCuddlerMike

    @Roger74 Don't take this the wrong way as I have zero interest in cuddling with a man, but I will have a beer and watch the game with you. : )

    When I hear of heartbreak or lost love, I always think of that "If you love someone, let them go" famous quote. I get wishing the other person felt differently and that our affection was returned in kind, but if someone isn't crazy about me, why would I want to be in their company on a planet with almost 8 billion souls? I'm moving on. That person just gave me the push to meet someone new. There are many others out there who will make you feel special. Just gotta meet and greet, man. Join clubs, meetups (maybe not so much right now but hopefully soon).

    Sorry for your pain, I hope it fades quickly.

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