Welcome back not sure why there was a dismissal or briefly setback w ur communication line, don't have the whole scope on the convo, but This is a very interesting conversation, I enjoy seeing people with passion and diff points of view but I always think if my brother or sister, mother/ father, etcetc was aborted I wouldn't be here- - or I would be a completely diff person based on experiences. So if it affected ur family directly you may have a diff reference point. Everyone is entitled to their opinion, and in good faith of humans I feel they will do whats healthy for them at the time and I am not wearing their shoes to judge. But I love kids, would have had more, and take care of any and all of my friends family and strangers kids as my own, it takes a safe and teaching community to grow well and balanced children to become ideal adults ) peace love and frogs🐸 dogs rock too, really any living things is amazing, we just have to stop and have the time and wisdom to appreciate. )
@Anna1970 - I dont agree with abortion. I never have. Adoption is the better option if you have a kid that you can't or are unwilling to take care of.
🤗👶 @Mike403 ~ Totally! 🥰
Well this will probably get me banned but I feel most people on this site are sensitive and VERY judgmental so I’m not surprised someone’s feelings were hurt.
@702cuddles ~ Yep! Hyper-sensitive hurt feelings feeler here... Sometimes it's good for others to remember that a lot of us are here, vs elsewhere, to receive kindness in a community that supports such things. So to be met with the contrary can be quite painful.
It's too bad that strong convictions are taken as one being judgemental though. I don't think those are the same thing.
But sensitivity makes for a great cuddler! So yay for those who are sensitive!! 🥰
Agreed to all above, I am afraid of speaking openly on here, I timidly wade through, I get it. Because....... this site took down my profile pic yesterday due to it being inappropriate or unprofessional and it was literally a half picture of my face in sunglasses, so my face is offensive apparently. Lol for real,?! Alright then )
@Anna1970 - That's odd. Your photo still comes up as a thumbnail next to your post, but is gone when I visit your profile. I dont know why it was Inappropriate.
Thought @Mike403 came back once before.
Sent him this note.
Surprise! It was the wrong Mike.
@HoldenCaulfield lol. It happens. I have a common name.
Accept no substitutes!
Hahaha! Spreading the Mike love around!
Mike just today ordered me not to post a thread he didn't like, even though i was only sharing something kind someone did for me right after something pretty horrible happened. And those of us who have had abortions or have friends who have have the same right to express their opinion on a man telling a woman who she can't do with her own body.
Oh my.... @Designergirl & @Mike403 ~ Seems like a reset may be in order...
You two may not agree on some stuff, but you both have expressed a deep want for kindness so hopefully you two can get to a place of acceptance too.
It seems a lot of us are easily triggered lately - I know I certainly am! The current state of affairs, and the unknown of what's next, has me so on edge I'm barely sleeping which isn't good (the exhausted me = a limited time loopy me, followed by the emotional/easy to upset me - no fun for anyone).
What I'm saying is, try to cut yourselves, and others some slack (I'd be surprised if anyone actually felt like they were presenting their best selves lately).
@quixotic_life - I only asked to not keep creating new parts of a thread that has been closed by the moderators(likely for a reason). I tried to be respectful about it.
I saw that, but she was posting to show public appreciation for someone who reached out to her. I can see how if you just read the initial little bit it would seem like a rehash ~ but it quickly proved otherwise.
I admit that I stopped reading after the first sentence cause it looked like it was just gonna be a continuation of her last thread. Sorry.
@Mike403 ~ It happens...
Just curious, did you let her know?
@quixotic_life - She deactivated.
Oh bummer. I didn't know. 🙁
edit: In case she reactivates~@Designergirl...look ⤴️
@quixotic_life Yes I take your points. But please take mine...the standards of behavior on this site for men in the forums are abysmally low, and this is a case in point. A man gets praised for apologizing for not reading a full comment before ordering someone to essentially shut up? Did he denounce the behavior of the troll? Where was he when i was being called an ass, illogical, undeserving of kindness and respect, and worse by @AceCuddlerMike? He was eating popcorn. There were occasional sensible remarks about not having expectations, but he was quite happy to allow another person -who may in fact have the autism he himself chimed in with--be abused. If you want to laud him go right ahead but I'd really hoped for better. There are fantastic men on this site -no denying that. @pmvines is probably my best example of the type of guy we should be celebrating. I get it...this is a site mainly for men hiring (usually) younger women to cuddle them. And some lack the social skills to attract someone to do this for free, so can't piss off the clientele and don't expect genius comments. But vitriol spewed on non pros making suggestions is exactly why I'm taking a break. QL I hope you get your rest and your guy wins.
@designergirl - If you go back and read the thread, I was telling him to stop as well.
I suppose I should have finished my other post instead of feeding my depression with cute cat videos... but you're right. @AceCuddlerMike was 100% out of line and I'm embarrassed he too hasn't stepped forward to address things.
But Mike's involvement is different. For one, the popcorn thing pre-dates you and is basically what I would call a "visual cue" to those who've been commenting that they're starting to cause a scene and may want to check themselves.
Further, I think @Mike403 's comment felt as bad as it did due to all the other toxic hell being slung your way. On it's own, it's clear he thought it was a carry-over post and he later said as much. I didn't ask, nor did he say what he would have sent had you not deactivated. I can only hope it would have been a full apology.
With the moderators I get that you're upset and don't fault you for it at all. If I were in your position I'd be asking @Mark and @SoulcuddlerZ how it is that some threads are deleted, some are edited, some are just closed and some not touched at all when someone is throwing around insults?
The last two that were fully deleted were after a man had been insulted. Is that really the difference?
And those who are basically acting like bullies, slamming someone over and over, can not only keep their account, but aren't given any sort of public, "Hey person Z, This forum is for those who can comport themselves in a civilized manner. Your comments have been edited/removed and you are suspended for X amount of time/banned forever." message.
Why?
By saying nothing and moderating in a way that tells women to "try again" while telling men who have lost it, ... um... nothing! You're saying it's okay. And it litterally happened again. To the same person. In less than 24 hours by another man who hasn't been admonished either.
Yeah, @Designergirl ~ I have some strong feelings around this. So strong that I come off like an unhinged loon trying to communicate them. But again, you're not wrong. I just like to say "thanks" when felt, and to chill for a bit when I can feel my pulse in my throat. You know?
@quixotic_life @Designergirl - I feel terrible right now and I don't know how else to express it. I'm not trying to nor want to make any enemies on here. That's what caused me to need to deactivate before.
@Mike403 ~ You're a sweet soul. Don't feel too bad. If there were a system of tracking poor behavior here you wouldn't even be a blip. Unlike some (pointing at myself) who has for sure been pegged, and others ... yeah you know who you are ... who have gone well into the red zone ... I don't think you should beat yourself up over this. Like at all.
@Designergirl was already hurt, it just made it not hurt less. It certainly doesn't mean you're the one who should be shouldering the responsibility for where things are now. IMO.
Edit: Also ~ as stated by another ~ it can get confusing when there's more than one Mike on the mic.
I’m not really sure what all is going on but I’ll say this much... I’ve been on this site since October of 2015. If I had taken every little thing that bothered me personally, I wouldn’t still be here. For whatever it’s worth, take things with a grain of salt and don’t let things bother you.
@quixotic_life I too am curious why the person who posted all the nasty pics and insults still has an account when clearly it is a troll account . I thought it would have been banned but when I click on it it says I've been blocked which means it is still an active account @mark @SoulcuddlerZ
@pmvines ~ Same! exactly! And all his "bs" posts are still up/not edited.
There's a bit of inconsistency in the handling of things that maybe isn't a huge deal in the grand scheme of things ~ but it certainly contributes to a mess of discomfort for some of those seeking the opposite...
Yea I don’t think you should be able to call someone an ignorant sl@t and still be here. Angry or not...
Looks like the troll account referenced was finally banned . Thank you @mark @SoulcuddlerZ . I think there have been some relevant questions posed here, though albeit in a hijacked thread fashion, that may benefit from being addressed re how actions are determined when it comes to threads getting out of hand, TOS violations etc. by @mark @SoulcuddlerZ . There seems to be concerns from some about inconsistencies and addressing these concerns would be of benefit to those concerned as well as to lurkers who would like a better understanding of how this works . Tagging @reurbo too cus even though he hasn't been active lately I haven't heard anything about him no longer being a mod