I am a cuddle enthusiast

[Deleted User]NoThankYou (deleted user)
edited December 2020 in General

But I am considering going pro just so all the men that want long-distance free attention will go away. I feel like everyone should understand that a large portion of the communication that I receive does not bring me anywhere closer to my goal of being held and nurtured in that manner. It is like I am being treated like a service provider whose time is unimportant. Please stop.

I will never do this for money. I am here because I want my Cuddle needs met. My cuddle needs are not being met by being on FaceTime, Skype, zoom, Instagram, snapchat, or WhatsApp with you. I will not give you my private number unless we are forming a friendship with a goal in mind of cuddling. If you don’t live within 10 to 15 miles of me, then don’t waste my time. I’m here for real physical touch and cuddling.

I am ready to start ignoring messages and blocking. Please, just be better human beings...

Also. Please don’t message me without a photo of yourself and some information. I’m already putting my face out publicly. At least show me yours in private.

One more thing, I don’t want to cuddle married men. It’s just not for me.

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  • Mike403Mike403

    @Blue54 - There should be an option where somebody who doesn't live within' a certain distance from you can't message you. It'll cut down on a lot of the junk.

    Maybe a suggestion for @Mark .

  • CuddleDuncanCuddleDuncan Mod

    I'm so sorry, @Blue54. It just all sounds so unpleasant for you. And all the worse because you already need a cuddle.

  • [Deleted User]NoThankYou (deleted user)
    edited December 2020

    @CuddleDuncan the sarcasm doesn’t help. Men and women have different experiences here. I’m just sharing my frustrations like men do everyday.

  • CuddleDuncanCuddleDuncan Mod
    edited December 2020

    I'm not being sarcastic, I meant it.

    What you are experiencing I find heartbreaking.

    Edit: @Mike403 I'm going to incorporate that idea into my 'how to fix' thing.

  • [Deleted User]NoThankYou (deleted user)
    edited December 2020

    Okay. Thank you @CuddleDuncan

  • LyleLuvsHugglesLyleLuvsHuggles

    @Blue54 I hear and obey ;)
    I'm sorry you're cuddle needs are not being met :(

  • [Deleted User]NoThankYou (deleted user)
    edited December 2020

    I feel like this community is just completely geared towards male clients who pay and females whom provide service. There is no place for me here. I wonder how long I’ll last. Where can a woman go to have her cuddle needs met?

    I anticipate that the answer will be, to a female provider. Just like a lot of humans, I am not looking to be cuddled by someone of the same gender.

    Also, I would pay for this service if I found male providers I liked.

  • Mike403Mike403

    @Blue54 - I wish it wasn't like that, but it seems that this is what this site has become. Female non-pro enthusiasts are extremely rare here. The men are used to having to pay to get their cuddle needs met.

  • [Deleted User]NoThankYou (deleted user)

    @Mike403 where can a female go to have her cuddle needs met?

  • MrFirefighterMrFirefighter

    @Blue54: I feel your pain but the irony of a woman complaining of men seeking and getting attention online when it's mostly very much the opposite isn't lost on me. @Mike403 and @CuddleDuncan: I get why you suggested that but I think that's a terrible idea about limiting messages by distance. I, and others, travel fairly often and have successfully messaged and cuddled with a handful of nice enthusiasts in the city I was headed to on a few occasions. If it's a serious problem for women getting these messages from far away then sure, have the option I suppose, but they should know there ARE some here that message "far" away for legitimate reasons and with that option they may never know about the nice guy or gal coming to their town. Just my 2 cents.

  • Mike403Mike403

    @MyFireFighter - I suggested an option that they can select in their profile if they don't want messages from people who live too far.

  • quietman775quietman775

    @mike403 and @Blue54. I would tend to disagree that female enthusiasts are "extremely rare" here. When I do a search within, say, 80 miles of my location, I come up with 20 female enthusiasts that have been logged on in the past month.

    I have met and cuddled with 15 or 16 enthusiast women from this site. Granted, it takes time --- I've been here off-and-on for years.

    I suspect that the impression the place is heavily skewed toward pros is exacerbated by the forums, where pros and their clients dominate the conversation. There might be only a couple of dozen active forum participants in any given year, whereas there are thousands of members of the site --- many of whom never read the forums at all. There are guys here who only want enthusiasts and never hire pros. And there are guys like me who have hired lots of pros, but are always interested in meeting an enthusiast. They don't necessarily sign on frequently, so it may take a while before some of them see your profile.

    So I would say do not give up. A female enthusiast can certainly have her cuddle needs met here. But just like male enthusiasts, it may take a while to find the right match.

  • TheFunCartelTheFunCartel

    @quietman775 Your experience reflects my experience as well, but who knows what it is like in Denver where she is.

  • [Deleted User]DrCuddleBug (deleted user)

    I agree that it is beyond unfortunate what many (most?) of the women here have had to bear. Can you block these unwanted messages? (That's a real question) In the 2 years I have been here, I have cuddled with about 6 different female enthusiasts, so CC can be a place to find cuddles.

    As for limiting distances, I think that is a bad idea. I have been the "safe place" for a number of women in other states who appreciated having someone to talk with regarding certain issues. I was more than happy to give them my time. If there was a limit, I wouldn't be able to be there for them.

  • quixotic_lifequixotic_life

    @Blue54 ~ "Where can a female go to have her cuddle needs met?"

    You are 35 miles (approx.) from Denver, so having a limit of 10-15 miles from you seems very self-limiting. Also, if you have such strong feelings about who may or may not contact you, I recommend you put that info into your profile, towards the top. Additionally, your profile could use some hard editing (this from someone who's also fairly verbose ~ lol).

    Finally, just a point of consideration ~ Sometimes, the "long distance free-attention seekers" are actually wonderful, sincere men searching further out to find a cuddle/connection worth traveling for.

  • Mike403Mike403

    @quietman775 @FunCartel - I've been here since 2017 and never been fortunate enough to see an enthusiast. Most don't even reply.

  • TheFunCartelTheFunCartel

    @Mike403 @Blue54 Instead of posting, why don’t the two of you exchange PM’s? You are both enthusiasts in the same area!

  • sunnysideupsunnysideup

    @Blue54

    This site does seem really geared towards male clients who pay professional females.

    I'm a male, but I am currently looking for female enthusiasts. I've reached out to a good majority of female enthusiasts in the past year in a 150 mile radius to no avail, so I share your frustrations. I've just kind of accepted that this website is for pros/clients, and if I ever receive a message from someone, I assume all they want to do is just to talk, and not actually cuddle. That way, I don't keep getting disappointed and frustrated.

    A lot of guys on here, including me, complain that we can't find a female enthusiast, so I wonder why you're having trouble (I'm not denying that you are, I am just confused).

    Some areas just don't have a lot of local cuddlers. On this website. You could relocate, or maybe join a club, make a friend, and find a cuddler that way. You could also try cuddling a female. Or, you could reach out to a male pro (I get that there are way less of them, but they do exist). You could also go on a dating app and say that you're only looking for cuddles (There will be guys on there who don't respect that, but there definitely will be plenty of guys who will reciprocate that desire).

    Best of luck.

  • [Deleted User]NoThankYou (deleted user)
    edited December 2020

    @sunnysideup i currently weed through the muck that is our dating apps to find cuddling. Even with a cuddle only profile I’m an consistently having to stop sexual advances.

    The majority of communication I receive is from men who won’t show their face, are married, or live very far away. I’m not interested in them or in cuddling a female.

    @quixotic_life i appreciate your ideas but that’s not what I want. Thank you though.

  • [Deleted User]NoThankYou (deleted user)
    edited December 2020

    Here’s some more insight. Recently, I was talking to three gentlemen whom seem like potential Cuddle partners from this website. Two ghosted me and the other one ended up being married. I just want to say this to everybody. It’s hard being a guy looking for someone to cuddle. It’s difficult being a female looking for someone to cuddle. Finding a cuddle partner is hard for everyone! I wish I could pay for cuddling. I wish to browse a catalog of young attractive men that would hold me and make me feel safe. It just doesn’t exist for us girls.

  • hugonehugallhugonehugall

    @Blue54 You do understand that if you actually do go pro by site rules you’re not allowed to cuddle for free and you actually would have to be open to cuddling members of all backgrounds regardless of gender , race , etc on so on ....
    That aside even if you’re not looking to go pro for whatever reason did you make a post basically telling us never to contact you because that does come off kinda rude & hypocritical .... like you make a post seeking feedback but how dare we contact you outside the forum unless we fit in the narrowest of boxes you created ..... or maybe I’m wrong in all this just sayin 🤷🏾‍♂️

  • [Deleted User]NoThankYou (deleted user)

    @Mike403 i agree about a long distance filter that precludes someone from contacting me. I am not looking to make a contact with someone who is in town occasionally or once. Some people don’t mind these once in a while cuddle buddies. They are just not for me.

    I understand I don’t fit the norm here. But I do know what I want and it falls within the guidelines of this community. There just aren’t many options for me and the specifics I want. And I’m fussy and particular. I know it. I’m also not willing to be flexible on certain points at the moment. So patience it is then 😏.

  • Mike403Mike403

    @Blue54 - I see what you mean about wanting the option to pay. Guys always complain that females get hundreds of messages and can pick and choose which one to cuddle with for free. They probably don't understand that the majority of them are probably messages from married, perverted, or otherwise men who don't care about your needs and I'm sure gets old having to filter through all of them.

  • Mike403Mike403

    @hugonehugall - She doesn't want random guys contacting her that isn't going to be a potential cuddle partner. Some people are not here for penpals.

  • hugonehugallhugonehugall
    edited December 2020

    @Mike403 That’s also info that can just go in your profile “ Only looking for partners within X amount of distance “ or something to that effect but again what do I know ? I’m just a dummy behind a keyboard .
    It was also the the idea that going pro is the solution to her problem if you call it a problem.

  • [Deleted User]NoThankYou (deleted user)

    @hugonehugall I will not be going pro. I have no interest. I want to pick whom I cuddle. For example; I don’t want to cuddle with anyone married. I don’t want to cuddle females. I also don’t want to cuddle people who have poor hygiene. I’m picky and want my needs met— Just like the men here want their needs for platonic affection met.

    It’s just a system that is off balance and doesn’t suit my needs. I just looking for a way to get proper cuddles that I desire like all the rest of the non professionals.

  • [Deleted User]NoThankYou (deleted user)
    edited December 2020

    Here’s another thing, men in my area list their location as Denver for a variety of reasons. This further hides them from me in searching. Honesty in men’s profiles would be helpful. But they don’t have to disclose themselves to the women because they can just pay.

  • hugonehugallhugonehugall

    @Blue54 And there’s nothing wrong with any of that. I was just commenting more the tone of your post. We’re all allowed to have preferences.
    Some just like to make friends along the way.

  • [Deleted User]NoThankYou (deleted user)
    edited December 2020

    Everyone has their current needs @hugonehugall

    And if you catch my tone as frustration by our ever continuing sexist environment.. then you are spot on.

  • hugonehugallhugonehugall

    Ok 👍🏾👍🏾

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