Another opinion post.

Andy1996Andy1996
in General

So here’s another question for this forum.
Would any of you be open to cuddling with someone who is visually impaired? I know that most of the people that I have met with have a greed to. I am asking this mainly because I am nervous about the fact of possibly being rejected at some point.

Comments

  • FlyingToasterFlyingToaster

    I wouldn't have a problem with it. Cuddling is about providing (and experiencing) good feelings through physical touch and affection, and I don't think someone being visually impaired would have any affect on that.

  • [Deleted User]Duryea (deleted user)

    Absolutely.
    Actually I've never even thought about it before. But whether a person is or is not visually impaired has no effect on whether I'd cuddle with them or not.
    To me being comfortable with someone is the biggest factor on if I'd cuddle with them.

  • Sheena123Sheena123

    Most of the people I’ve talked with on this site have the same feelings I do. As long as you’re clean and respectful, we will cuddle lol

  • TheFunCartelTheFunCartel

    I cuddled a blind lady. What would the problem be? It was like any other cuddle...except she was blind, so if I felt like it I could give her the bird. But I didn’t because she was a sweetheart. I still see her.

  • LyleLuvsHugglesLyleLuvsHuggles

    We have recent posts on the forum from both a blind pro and an enthusiast both seemed to have mostly positive things to say so you should be fine as long as your clean and respectful. :)

  • VondracoVondraco

    Not a problem for Me. I chat online with an ace lady in GA frequently who is visually impaired. That and most other physical impairments are just something I should learn to work with not be irritated by. Same with (most) mental issues. Just be honest about it.

  • pmvinespmvines

    Being blind wouldn't be a consideration when it comes to cuddling for most people I would imagine

  • HollydollhugsHollydollhugs

    I would think that is actually a person that most would be honored to cuddle with. I myself would be fine with cuddling someone with vision impairment. There is no discrimination.

  • CallMeMikeyCallMeMikey

    I had a cuddlebuddy for many years who was blind. The first time I saw her I didn't realize she was blind, as she navigated through her apartment to her cuddle bed. Once we were lying down she said she was blind and asked if she could 'see' me. She felt from the top of my head to my shoulders and told me I have a kind face. She was a great cuddler. She got married and moved away. I think of her occasionally and I miss her. Thanks for bringing me some great memories.

  • [Deleted User]Mmart (deleted user)

    I have no issues whatsoever.
    @Sheena123
    I agree with you. Clean, respectful. Plus they wouldn't have to look at me. lol

  • [Deleted User]APV (deleted user)

    My first adult cuddling experience was with someone who was both visually impaired and hard of hearing. Tactile signing while cuddling was a bit awkward. Plus neither English nor ASL were her first language; Spanish was. Having only one hand free to sign and receive tactile sign results in us having to spell out the eleven letters of the word ‘comfortable’. One of us goes a little too fast asking if the other is comfortable and it’s a frustrating communication breakdown.

    Vision loss causes greater focus on touch. When not accompanied by a hearing loss, it also causes greater focus on hearing. If I got to cuddle someone who had only vision loss but no co-occurring hearing loss, the communication would go better. But I won’t seek out an enthusiast based on her having any certain medical condition.

  • cuddles_ndreamcuddles_ndream
    edited December 2020

    @FunCartel always has the funniest responses / replies @ “I could give her the bird, but didn’t because she was a sweetheart” 😅😂

  • Bella_SeraBella_Sera
    edited December 2020

    I don’t have any visual impairment, but I do have a pretty noticeable disability that sometimes necessitates using a wheelchair. In the beginning, I had a lot of anxiety about becoming a cuddler—especially a professional cuddler—and having to talk openly about my disability with every new client before a booking. To be honest, I don’t think much about my disability on a daily basis; I t’s just something that is... Even still, when I began, I had to reckon hard with feelings of insecurity that I didn’t know I had about whether someone would want to hold my “broken” body, much less pay for the privilege.

    The act of cuddling already taps into those deep wells of vulnerability, and I— like you—worried that if I stepped into the deep end and got hurt, that it might spoil all kinds of physical affection for me. I can honestly say, however, that after dozens of clients and many more sessions, I’ve only encountered one person who said something rude about my condition. And even then, I think it was more due to his being nervous and clumsy than actually mean spirited.

    Do I get ghosted sometimes? Sure. But it’s my understanding that that happens to everyone here, pro and enthusiast alike. I don’t take it personally and I assume the problem is on their end. And, to be honest, if the problem was their inability to accept my disability, that is their problem, as I don’t have a choice, haha.

    Give yourself the gift of trying this without holding back. It’s a good community. I know I’m grateful for the regular affirmation that my body is not “too broken” to be held and appreciated. And I’m grateful that my broken body has the opportunity to help so many others to heal as well. Good luck!

  • TheFunCartelTheFunCartel

    @BellaSera I hope I didn’t say something stupid by being a Chatty Cathy.

  • Bella_SeraBella_Sera

    @FunCartel Nooo, you are a Chatty Cathy, for sure, but you were nothing but sweet. It just goes to show what a good heart you have that you felt immediately protective of me. No, this was an experience I had in my first few weeks of cuddling—he’s long since deleted his account.

    I do take some responsibility, as it was a very last minute booking and I forgot to pause the exchange and have the conversation that I usually have with all new clients. It doesn’t let him off the hook completely, but it buys him a little grace. He was a good person who handled an awkward situation badly. We’ll both survive and the OP should have no fear.

  • cuddles_ndreamcuddles_ndream

    @BellaSera thank you soo much for sharing with us all, thank you for making yourself a bit vulnerable for us especially the author of this post (if you even felt vulnerable at all : ) I really appreciated 🌌 ♥️

  • quixotic_lifequixotic_life

    How interesting...

    I'd assume one with a visual impairment would be an incredible snuggle partner because they'd be familiar with experiencing others in a more exploratory and tactile way and would likely be more keyed into approaching one's "no go zones" than an overwhelmed/flooded person with otherwise "normal" vision.

    I'm personally not at all bothered or dissuaded by any physical limitations one may have in a cuddle (unless contagious). We either mesh and will meet for some in person snuggles and bonding or we won't.

    My expectations are the same for everyone ~ honest communication and respect. If part of their challenge is maintaining their cleanliness, I'd want to meet, get comfortable with each other, and help with tending to that before cuddling (that is totally not the case for an able body individual ~ be clean on arrival or no dice).

    Recently, I was messaging with a man who has been impacted greatly due to a spinal injury and who experiences a lot of pain and spasms throughout his day. My only real concern was related to his repositioning needs and him feeling comfortable guiding me through it so I didn't hurt him or cause him harm. Still tbd if we actually meet up though... but I'm hoping for an invite as he sounds like a real down to earth, quality being!

  • pmvinespmvines

    Well nobody us going to be a jerk about it and say no they wouldn't. Just sayin.....

  • quixotic_lifequixotic_life
    edited December 2020

    @pmvines ~ With recent calls for more "honesty" in the forums, you never know... I mean, there was an earlier response made that I was a little surprised by. But I'm glad they shared their POV/experience because many may say, "Of course I would cuddle those with X,Y,Z going on!" But without knowing how that will actually unfold in reality, you can't be so sure - and one may change their opinion after the fact (as with the earlier commenter). Ultimately, I think it's good thing they shared so other's can use it in reviewing their considerations before committing.

    Plus, in the scenarios I brought up earlier, there could very well be many people not able to enter into an intimate space where they may have to do the "heavy lifting" or help the other to do things they're unable to do without assistance.

    But you're probably right that they wouldn't just come out and say so...

    edit: typos & a minor addition

  • Bella_SeraBella_Sera

    @pmvines you’d be surprised...

  • CuddleDuncanCuddleDuncan Mod

    @Andy1996

    I am asking this mainly because I am nervous about the fact of possibly being rejected at some point.

    I do understand why somebody might feel like that. But I wouldn't think it as a rejection: I would think of it as a jerk deselecting themselves. You would, in fact, be dodging a bullet.

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