A Few Good Wingmen

Rocket_ManRocket_Man
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I am sure this site is populated by a lot more men than women which makes it very hard on us. Given that I am seeking a few good wingmen to find traditional cuddle buddies. Given this plandemic makes it harder to go out and meet women we will always have more success in groups. maybe we could find some nice ladies who are only interested in cuddling like we are.

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  • ChibiShemaChibiShema

    It is hard to find women that understand what we need and what we are going through. I look forward to reading what you learn.

  • SashamcgeeSashamcgee

    If a group of men approached me for cuddling it would almost certainly be a no thank you.

  • [Deleted User]Mmart (deleted user)

    @Sashamcgee
    You are very smart. I would approach you by myself for sure.

  • ChibiShemaChibiShema

    I’m sorry. I’m not good at words. I really do want to find nice women who understand.

  • TheFunCartelTheFunCartel

    @Invisible_Touch I think you need to fine tune exactly what you mean because you already creeped out one woman—and that’s just the one who posted. It does come across as wanting to “gang cuddle” a woman. Kind of weird. I think you meant something different from that.

  • cuddlerforu24cuddlerforu24

    Perhaps the thread starter suggests to organize a cuddle party .

  • pmvinespmvines

    Kinda gives a picking up women at a bar vibe

  • quixotic_lifequixotic_life

    Huh ~ I read that as a, "support group wanted" post, and didn't see anything creepy in it at all.

    @Invisible_Touch ~ Can you clarify your intentions/what you mean?

    Whatever the OP's premise...

    I think it would be great if those who are successful here, were to proactively support others who want to be bit haven't been. *

    Often times the "support" looks like either an after the fact "tisk-tisk", to some form of tough love, to aggressive admonishment for ones communicative shortcomings.

    If one is seeking to cultivate the traits within themselves, that many here have said are important ways of being in the world/this community, why not support them?

    * that said... The past forums are like a treasure trove of great advice, with examples of how to be in appropriate communication and relationship with others here, and how others have been successful. If what you're doing isn't working, try something else. Read through past threads and apply what you learn.

    Not to be harsh ~ But if your hope is to find others to be, "the wind beneath your wings", you may have a bit of a lofty dream to try and actualize, as mentoring others on their cuddle quests isn't what brought them here...

  • Rocket_ManRocket_Man

    Lmao. Now I see why some of you are here. You have trouble with relationships due to ineffective listening skills and understanding nuance. This is unfortunate. This was just to do like men normally do and go out and meet people. If someone met a woman they would presumably go do their own thing if they hit it off. Why would men going out like this be worse than men who go out in groups to meet women for one night stands? Some of you need to get your minds right.

  • Rocket_ManRocket_Man

    Thank you quixotic. You are absolutely correct and seem to be one of only a few on here who did not completely inject their own faulty interpretations. But that is one fault us humans will always have.

  • TheFunCartelTheFunCartel
    edited December 2020

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  • Rocket_ManRocket_Man

    Ok so I think some broken people misinterpreted the opportunity as saying groups of men should approach groups of individuals women to hit that on them. Let me clarify. In real life group of men go out and groups of women go out. Sometimes some of these men and women from each separate group end up meeting. There are ubtrodyctions, conversations, sometimes drinks and so forth. Sometimes they hit it off and more hapoens. sometimes they do not and it goes further than the original first conversation. Ok good luck people.

  • pmvinespmvines

    @Invisible_Touch whoa you always go on the attack there as opposed to simple clarification?

  • Rocket_ManRocket_Man

    Fun_Cartel.

    I ask you to point where I said I was perfect at understanding nuance or from where I asked for help. I was merely suggesting a men's group that could potentially beneficial for all of us. If I seem critical of others it is only because I am highly critical of myself. Any honest person knows all humans are flawed, even themselves. I understand that many people do not like to be challenged. Those who avoid being challenged can not ever improve themselves because they never learn anything new. I appreciate you challenging me and hope you really are Fun_Cartel. I look forward to more discussions with you.

  • Rocket_ManRocket_Man

    @pmvines something like that but it does not have to be at a bar. If too many people do not like the idea then I withdraw it. And no I did not mean it for group cuddles which I am not sure how that is less strange than group you know the thing.

  • Rocket_ManRocket_Man

    @ChibiShema it's ok. A lot of people are not including myself but I know I have to try. Apparently I still need a lot of work. Communication is a two way street.

  • pmvinespmvines

    @Invisible_Touch you do you I'm not trying to talk you out of anything and I'm not trying to pick at you or tell you what your intentions are. I said it comes across a certain way and therefore might be off putting to readers regardless of meaning and intent. which others have kinda stated too. I have no issue with you though just am suggesting you clarify a post like that to avoid misinterpretation

  • Rocket_ManRocket_Man

    @pmvines I agree and appreciate you challenging me. After I went back i believe I was too defensive and probably too agressive. That was definitely more reactionary of me than I should have been. I will try to fine tune my communication on this forum.

  • SashamcgeeSashamcgee

    @Invisible_Touch there's an edit button if you'd like to change that post.

  • pmvinespmvines

    @Invisible_Touch it's all good we aren't here to make enemies no worries at all

  • TheFunCartelTheFunCartel

    @Invisible_Touch Ditto what @pmvines said. When we respond to a question, we are only trying to help.

  • sunnysideupsunnysideup
    edited December 2020

    @Invisible_Touch The way the post was written was just a little confusing. However, I don't think you mean you what a group of guys to approach a woman for cuddling.I think you mean that you want to go out with some bros, and then talk to women with the support of your friends? There's nothing wrong about that! It's harder to appear confident when you're by yourself for sure. However, some women will be creeped out if you bring up your intent to cuddle too early. Many of us are on this site, because it seems like it's easier to prospect a stranger for a one night stand than it is to prospect them for cuddling.

    @quixotic_life I totally agree with you. I think the ones that are successful, particularly the men, should offer advice. In many of the threads, it came out more as scathing or admonishing to my fellow lonely guys (I'm not talking about the threads that speak out against creepy behavior, that should always be shutdown!).

    I will add that, because of the ratio of men to women on this site, it's probably impossible for most guys to find a cuddle partner if they are looking for a woman, even if they do all the right things.

    My only advice is, since there are so many men's profiles, is make sure you stand out somehow. I have no idea otherwise.

  • LyleLuvsHugglesLyleLuvsHuggles

    All this has likely been said I'm sure but hey why not?

    Remember these are likely to be deep connections with new friends (shouldn't need to be said but sometimes I get the feeling some of us are forgetting there are real people behind these exchanges)

    Be genuine and if you can manage it funny.
    Don't rush things, pay attention to the little details.
    Everyone wants to know they are being listened to.
    Don't take it for granted that they took time out of their day to chat with you, let them know you appreciate it.
    RELAX!! easier said than done (trust me I know) but honestly just be yourself. You might get fewer responses but the connections you make will be more likely to lead to cuddles.
    It's really not any different than looking to meet any other new friend you just share a more intimate hobby.

  • FlyingToasterFlyingToaster

    I'm not sure if this is a weird question, but what could be done as a group that we couldn't do individually? And given that many of us on this site are spread out geographically, I'm wondering how that woild work logistically.. Though I suppose I wouldn't be opposed to social activities (that are safe and enjoyable for all).

  • [Deleted User]creedhands (deleted user)

    @FlyingToaster I'm pondering what could be done in a group that can't be done individually. The only things I can come up with are
    1. Cuddling
    2. Playing Twister (once your hands are down, you can't spin anymore)
    3. Elbow licking
    4. Most team sports (Unless you are playing them on a computer, against a computer. But that doesn't really count.)

  • FlyingToasterFlyingToaster

    @creedhands I was referring to OP's question about looking for cuddle buddies as a group. But you are correct. ;)

  • [Deleted User]lovelyhugs (deleted user)

    @Invisible_Touch in response to your original post I think it would be a good idea. To often in our American culture are guys not allowed to be vulnerable and express openly what they need even if it’s just a hug. How you guys go about it will matter and hope you try something that reaps positive results. Baby steps away from toxic masculinity 👍🏽

  • pmvinespmvines

    If I am a wingman i call iceman for my nickname . That or papa pot belly .

  • LyleLuvsHugglesLyleLuvsHuggles

    I call Papa Bear lol

  • Rocket_ManRocket_Man

    I am bandit and smokeys on my tail. I'm east boud and down.

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