This isn't a dating website

edited October 2016 in General
There have been a numbers of discussions in the forum which have tried to distinguish this site from a dating site, including clarification from the organizer that the site is not intended as a dating site. But what makes a dating site and how is this site different? A bar is not a dating site but some people frequent them with the hope of hooking up with someone, Basically, any location that presents a location that encourages socializing and conversation is a potential dating site, not just those places that state that. A society for the study of geology could be seen as a dating site by someone who wants to date a geologist.

However, the geology site would not be a good choice for someone who wants to date a geologist but otherwise knows nothing about geology and feels that the study of rocks is stupid. Who would do that? Who would go to a football game even if they hate football? It happens.

So this is a site to promote the activity of cuddling, separate from the activity of sex and developing relationships.Not that these other activities are forbidden, they are not the focus of the site. Still, people place profiles that are provocative, make posts about how much they need somebody, etc. And then what does a new member see? A dating site. It's self-perpetuating! My first message from a member was from a women with a picture in military garb saying how she wants to cuddle me hard.

This forum used to be overwhelmed by people seeking cuddles in their part of the world and it was difficult to find the conversations about the topic of cuddling. Mark created a separate category for these requests and that helped to remove those posts from this forum, even though it looks like its something for all the new members to try out.

So, IMHO, we need more discussions about cuddling and fewer requests for what appear to be lonely people looking for dates.

Comments

  • Yes! Thank you! In my first day I've already gotten more requests seeking dating or sexual activity than legitimate people seeking cuddles.
  • Please report them.
  • I have a problem with the way this site is set up. It's not a dating site, yet it is set up that way. It literally reminds me of OK Cupid just without the compatibility questions. Also if this isn't meant to be sexual then why all the appearance questions? I'm not a model, escort, or actress. It's unnecessary.

    Can we please get a calendar for setting up sessions? This would give it a therapeutic feel rather than a dating/escort service one.
  • [Deleted User]hugsnheals (deleted user)
    ::bump:: on the calendar option.  Even for non-professional.  THat would be RAD.
  • [Deleted User]FlowerofLife (deleted user)
    Just got off the phone with a potential client.  In the message board, we had everything all set up, except he didn't answer my question of "what did you have in mind".  He insisted that I call him, so I did.  After a long drawn out, one sided about him, I finally get to ask him what he had in mind.  Aside from cuddling, he wanted kissing & lots of it.  He also said that his previous cuddlers didn't mind kissing.  Well, that was a deal breaker for him, as I stated that I "don't" kiss.  It's not part of a 
    "true" cuddlers service.  I expressed that kissing on the lips is just as intimate as making love.  He didn't get it!  I feel that part of my job as a "cuddler" is to educate the, what I call "sleep walkers" and to raise the consciousness of Humanity.  To teach others how to respect their body, my body & to love themselves, because if they loved themselves, they wouldn't be asking to cuddle in the nude or kiss.  xoxoxo
  • When I hear stories like this one, it makes we wonder if we are talking about someone who has never had an intimate relation with a woman. It would be like being on a date and telling your date all the things that your other dates were willing to do. Not a smart move. It's dumb enough to make you wonder if there were any previous cuddlers. It certainly implies that you just don't get it. Maybe this is someone still trying to seek their first kiss. I like the phrase "sleep walkers". Everyone should remember that there is no effort to screen members, anyone can join this site. Apparently there a lot of isolated people in this world and this isolation does strange things to people.
  • i've put on my profile i am up for the GFE (girlfriend experience), so that'd be like dating but we are affectionate while out. i figured this site is more for affectionate people? i class myself as affectionate.
  • [Deleted User]Unknown (deleted user)
    edited March 2017
    @irene are you more amazing than Wonder Woman?
  • @morpheus no, i'm just a regular person in need of cuddles and affection.
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