I had a guy message other guys from my karma, and ask them if I do sexual stuff. He must have done it or something else sketchy too, because by the time I found out and went to report him, he was already banned
@SnuggleBunny that is so gross, I hope those guys stood up for you and put that jerk in his place!
Hi Cuddle_RN
I previously posted the following note. I thought it might interest you: ...People who are afraid of being assaulted yet want to cuddle, Cuddle Party events (www.Cuddleparty.com) are the best in my experience. The advantage of a Cuddle Party is that the rules are very clear. They establish a solid foundation to safety. There is a facilitator there to help if you if need it and there are many witnesses. If there is nothing happening locally there are virtual Cuddle Parties happening. They are rare but very safe. I hope this helps improve safe cuddle options for you and others here. @Cuddle_RN
I agree that men are in a tough spot, we crave physical intimacy, are fearful of getting it through men and are seen as potentially violent by all. Self soothing only goes so far. I do my best for myself and it's been a tough slog. @WestsideMarc
Hey Momoo,
Re: Men's Therapeutic Cuddle Group (see: https://www.meetup.com/N-W-Philly-Mens-Only-Cuddle-Group/ and https://www.ajc.com/lifestyles/health/men-cuddling-group-aims-redefine-masculinity-and-heal-trauma/3szHGnm7GEvJcTqhrace5N/)
Yes, so would I! I was hoping they'd do more virtually than they did. (I attended a couple of Zoom meetings with them), but alas they don't meet via Zoom at all anymore. If you want to explore what is possible virtually with me (I have a couple of guys I explore simulated platonic healing touch with via videoconferenced connection, let me know and I'll do what I can for you. @Momoo
@Tranquilescape, I would love to see your code of conduct. I tried to private message you, but I couldn't figure out how. lol
@71Cuddler She is a pro. In order to message a pro,you have to click on the blue "request to book" button, then there's an option to message without sending a booking proposal yet...
I am actually not on this site right now a lot because everyone I met seemed to always want sexual favors so I decided to not come back on. I’ve only met one person I’ve been good friends with now and the rest are just asking for sexual flavors all the time. So I feel ya.
It's so weird how some men KNOW that this site is for platonic activities only (literally, the site puts it right in your face when you join) and they STILL ask for sexual favors.
I'm guessing the guy in OP's comment got in touch with some fake cuddler who was actually just an escort trying to get more clientele.
I saw someone post in another thread about "reaching out on IG" and when you go to their IG, their description said "high class companion" which is basically code for escort. That account was banned, so I'm guessing they tried to offer their "services" to the wrong guy and got reported.
@Gigi_ im in the Georgia area as well and honestly tell clients OFTEN no No No No No No And no again. Getting used to it at this point. They’ll find their pros that are okay with ‘extras’ but it’s not me. Before we even book I do a video session telling them what is NOT going to happen, that bra and underwear for me is going to stay on, that their underwear is going to stay on...... sigh, humanity is generally disappointing most of the time. But it makes me really appreciate the good and great clients that respect boundaries and don’t require REPEATED (10 or more) no’s. And I enjoy being able to hang out with clients after a session for free too.
Forget that! If I have to tell a grown ass man, "no" more than once, he's out. Next!
Also, best to say, 'All the cuddle clothes will stay on both of us.' rather than specifying undergarments (IMO), since 'undergarment only' cuddling violates the TOS here. 🤷♀️
A creep is a creep no matter what site they are on. Dont ever assume that just because this is a cuddle site that the requests and pushiness are any less of a threat than another site . If you wouldnt give someone on tinder , grinder, or POF a second chance to not be a turd, then dont do it here either. Stop repeating no, these arent toddlers who are learning new skills . These are adults who should by now know how to behave and that no is a complete sentence .