How to make cuddlecomfort work?

edited January 2015 in Root
Following a conversation in another thread, I decided to start this in hope of making this a more active and productive site. List your suggestions and hopefully some of them can be implemented. Note that I am not an administrator of this site, just someone who thinks it's a great idea and would like to see it work.

To get it started, here's my suggestion: make it possible to link from someone's post in the forums to their profile on the main site.
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  • Getting this place noticed on other dating sites would def help.
  • I got a message from another member (Thanks, Thalo) showing a workaround for my issue. If you have the screenname of a person, you can enter www.cuddlecomfort.com/screenname into your browser and it will bring you that person's profile! so cool.
  • edited January 2015
    "make it possible to link from someone's post in the forums to their profile on the main site"

    I've wanted to modify the forum software to do this for a while but never got down to it. I've now actually got that sorted :) 
  • Getting this place noticed on other dating sites would NOT help. All it would is draw more people here with a dating/relationships agenda. There are too many of them already.
  • Thanks, Mark!
  • Another possible suggestion could be to create a live chat room/ lounge with other members of this website that are currently online. This would be a cool way to have causal conversations about cuddling.
  • [Deleted User]FooCarrey (deleted user)
    The live chat room is a excellent idea.
  • [Deleted User]DersEvvak (deleted user)
    Maybe just an official IRC channel would suffice? I'd idle in it.
  • @Bruin - Advertising in proper locations a must, and the network hurts itself by bringing in people with the wrong intentions.Without testing it myself and unknowingly get another in trouble, how does the reporting system work here? Has it worked?

    For online advertising, Reddit has already lent it's support via r/cuddlebuddies, which is how I found myself here. Tis a little more open here, so that helps/hurts depending what you are looking for. But it's a good place to start. ;)

    People here in Madison, WI, used to have access to the Snuggle House...for the few weeks it was open. It at least opened up a dialogue, which I think would benefit through the use of this social network. On how to properly share, I'm still considering that. :D
  • edited January 2015
    >> "how does the reporting system work here? Has it worked?"

    On a profile you just click the Report link.

    They are actioned in good time. I often look into several reports each week. Some are your typical spammers while others are often those in the cuddle industry trying to sell their services here.

    >> "Another possible suggestion could be to create a live chat room/ lounge"

    A chat feature has always been a consideration. However, I do think it would deter users from using the forum. That would be an issue because each forum thread is a Google result for a potential new member. The more this forum grows, the more discoverability in Google we have and therefore more opportunity to grow.
  • edited June 2015

    Going to follow suit on the quoting method Mark used, because that will make it official? Yes, question mark. :P

    Some are your typical spammers while others are often those in the cuddle industry trying to sell their services here.

    Ahhh, of COURSE there would be people here attempting to make a buck. A little disingenuous to take part in a social network where good will is hoped for, but springing that upon people whom you start a dialogue with? Unless they ARE up front about it, in which case they are gone in the long run. :(

    However, I do think it would deter users from using the forum. That would be an issue because each forum thread is a Google result for a potential new member.

    Google is capable of searching these posts? Their robots are getting stronger! :D But really, helpful advertising in that alone. By the way, did a Google search on "cuddle industry services" and found this January 8th article where Cuddle Comfort is mentioned. Now I know why there are more members and thus activity. ;)

  • Personally, I think advertising is overrated. Word of mouth is more effective, so everyone needs to talk this place up. Mark welcomes every member and this example could be followed by others. Encouragement is needed for new members.
  • I'm actually working up the gumption to begin talking about Cuddle Comfort (and cuddle buddies in general) with people in my social circle. given past communications had I'm certain it will get approval. That's the hope at least. Begin building the world you seek by working and talking with those around you. ;)
  • edited June 2015
    Now I know why there are more members and thus activity

    Yeah, that article got picked up by a few other news sites as well. For a while it was the most popular article on the entire WSJ website, which goes to show the interest from the general public on this subject.
  • Cuddle comfort should host cuddle parties :) if it just would advertise in a certain area before it puts one on there, people show up and have a great time, they leave happy and join the site :) maybe a lot of people that saw the flyers or ads or whatever will tell other people and invite them And before long it's definitely being talked about. Even people just seeing about it driving or walking by will look up what It's all about
  • Don't think CC is on the path to utilizing such a feature, but it doesn't mean the network can't help with planning. This is a major coordination effort that will need to be undertaken by one of the many "location posts" here in the forum. Until we know which locations are "strong" in terms of a community, an idea like this is a pipe dream for now. Lest you have a strong circle to get this going separate from CC, and advertise it in addition. Again, the communication part of CC in regard to making this happen is missing a tad, but we will get there. ;)
  • Not so much. I've hosted cuddle parties through Cuddle Party. The biggest issue is having a space. If there is a facilitator in your area, then he or she will have a list of 'regulars' and will promote the event though their site. If you have a few interested friends, then you are done. I had a wellness center at the time so I had the space. The woman who facilitated even got the Philadelphia Inquirer to send a reporter (announced in advance) to one event who covered the event in the weekend section of the paper. So,it was good promotion for the center as well.
  • Cuddle Party = Not Cuddle Comfort. :P But resources are still resources, and I'm happy to note you've done the work in making this a viable thing for people to take part of. Out of curiosity, would this be the article that came from the reporter?
  • Pretty much the article, a little different than it looked in print with pics, lol.
  • edited February 2015
    The ability for members to organise events here and have it show up for those living locally is something we'll definitely consider for the future.
  • That would be cool
  • How would members feel about a rating system where members who have met someone for a cuddling session could report if the interaction was positive and appropriate. I think that such a system would be valuable but also open to a lot of abuse. Any thoughts?
  • A review system is a planned upcoming feature. 
  • Hey Mark,
    How do you envision a rating feature working?
  • - A reviews section on the public profile.
    - You can leave a review after the system detects you've sufficiently communicated with that user.
    - You can use a star rating accompanied by a comment. 
  • I guess there is no easy way to confirm if someone actually met someone in person
  • more exposure. I have only found a dozen or two ladies in my area (200 miles!). I havent had one reply from messages or a comment on my thread (Cuddling in KC)
  • Festival season is coming up, maybe we can talk up a group of people meeting at festivals that they would be going to anyway
  • [Deleted User]Lawrence (deleted user)
    A couple recommendations I have:


    1.  Add a feature for how old someone would like their potential cuddle friend to be in their profile (Most dating web sites have this).  


    2.  Add "Political affiliation" in peoples profile.  A tea party republican is most likely not going to feel like cuddling with a left leaning democrat/socialist/anarchist/etc.  
  • I think that Lawrence's suggestion brings up the question as to what else would be interesting traits to know in a potential cuddler's profile. Personally, I haven't found that 'political affiliation' does anything but bring out my biases against certain political affiliations which don't really relate to my potential to be able to relate to someone on a more basic human level. In fact, the fact that people of opposing political views can relate on such basic human levels, undermines my ability to build walls against such people and makes me see the commonness that exists between people as it reduces the barriers between people.

    I'm often seen as an aging hippie type and I don't deny that in some ways this defines who I am, but I'm not sure that i want people to categorize me as such. That said, I would like to hear what members would like to know about other members that might encourage them to contact them. Things like do they like to cuddle to favorite music? do they like to cuddles outdoors while camping or do they prefer indoor comforts, do they like watching a movie (and what kind) or do they hate the intrusiveness of TV? Basically, what piece of information would mske you more likely to reach out to someone?

    Again, Lawrence points out that preferences aren't being collected. We ask the member's age but don't ask if age is important to them. Let's get some other perspectives here and try to encourage member interaction. Thanks for your ideas, Lawrence
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