I was with someone recently who is a giver. I am also a giver. At one point, it almost felt like we were in a competition! There was just too much activity going on. My cuddle pal is also good at massage, and it seemed like he really wanted to take the lead. We laughed about it for a moment and agreed that although I wanted to also give to him that evening, it would all work out in the end, and there was no scorecard! So we spooned, and I was in front. There was nothing I could do but relax and let him give me that gift.
If you're with someone who has a hard time receiving, putting them into a position where they have no choice but to receive is the best way to handle it. Either spoon them from behind or give them a back rub. Works every time!