This is why I prefer to host myself. I’m also neurodivergent, so I like to control things like the environment and the thermostat temperature. I would never meet up with anyone at a hotel on the first time visit. Hotels are risky! Some of them even charge for parking, that’s wild!
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@VAdude so in the interest of clarity, you think that when I am meeting a client at hotel that they are booking for the session, that I should pay for it?
All I’m gonna say is you’re not wrong OP. Your frustrations are valid & your definition/expectations of what hosting entails is correct.
@weluvcuddles stay mad about it, block me again 💋
I’m allowed to send a friendly message to anyone who views my page, telling people that I hope they have a nice day is really not the threat that you think it is. I have the same freedoms as you do when you get on your soap box and complain that you didn’t get your way because you can’t read my profile where it states my hosting conditions like four times dude. I am able to host for lengthier sessions, or ones coordinated in advance to give me the option of booking multiple sessions in one day so that the room rate makes sense to me. Shelling out $200 for a one hour session doesn’t make sense to me, especially when 70% of you guys flake without as much as a text beforehand. This is not against TOS as far as I know. But again, if you could open your eyes and read you wouldn’t have this issue.
lol 😂 omg ( oh my goodness) , 😆 that’s happened to me a few times where I told someone to have a wonderful day and they were offended …. ????? Why???? 🤷♀️ Recently, I wrote a kind message to someone and said to have a lovely evening and she/he ( I’m not mentioning the person’’s name and the person is not here on this thread) told me “ down here in the South we say Bless your heart” 🤦♀️ now… I’m not from the South, but, I understand that is like telling me to go fudge off or some similar ugly insult.. 😕 just uncalled for really…
@SweetCuddler33 anyone should be so lucky to receive a message from you wishing them to have a nice day. Some people are beyond saving and so miserable inside their own head that they have to spew it out unto others. It’s repulsive and you don’t deserve any of that. It’s all them, not a reflection of you. Ps bless your heart has been co-opted as backhanded statement these days, but many old school southerners aren’t fully aware of it, could’ve been either!
My clients usually host at their home or a Hotel 🏨 of my choice.. there have been times where I have hosted at a Hotel 🏨 and I let the client know in advance that I will put the room in my name if that is what he prefers, but, I am to be reimbursed.., as CarrieCo mentioned, for obvious reasons, it does not make sense for the Pro cuddler to pay for the Hotel … I explain these things when I get a potential appt inquiry.. perhaps, I will write it in my profile later today to avoid being misunderstood…
@CarrieCo I appreciate your kind words 😊 I don’t know that the “bless your heart “ was nice ., back handed , yes 🙌 it started with the person telling me I was being passive aggressive by wishing her/him a lovely evening to her/him saying “ bless your heart, Dear” , ( forgot about the Dear part) followed by a hard BLOCK.. I try not to take it too seriously, it’s just disturbing.,
@SweetCuddler33 I generally practice assuming the best intentions from others but some people are really so corrupt that they can’t even accept nice wishes from strangers. What a sad existence. Not our problem at alllllll. Keep shining ✨
@weluvcuddles
May I give you some advice? Apologize to @CarrieCo send her a virtual hug and move on.
@Morpheus He explicitly pointed out that this ISN'T ABOUT ME and then tagged me 3 billion times, so I made it about me lol this is my post now hope you have a nice day ☀️
@CarrieCo thank you 😊
@CarrieCo I’m sorry you had to deal with this, but I’m glad I got to read the conversation! Most my sessions are at my apartment and it never occurred to me to charge a hosting fee since want to meet a stranger in their home or a hotel. I live alone and have good security, so I see it as safer and cheaper since I don’t have to worry about travel costs.
As @bear mentioned, there are costs to hosting: extra sheets and cleaning time are the main things for me. I offer everyone water, but never thought to buy beverages since I won’t drink them. It does last-minute sessions difficult, since I need to make sure my apartment is ready to host.
The pitchforks came out way too quickly. First, I know for a fact that you can’t be guilty of circumventing a block if no one has blocked you. And second, in calling out the OP, not only did @CarrieCo circumvent a block, but she suggested the OP @ her next time. So why are people acting scoldy when when he did just that? «Stay mad?» sounds like projection.
I know reasonable people can differ.
I’m scoring this one: 3 points from Gryffindor for taking a minor, but seemingly legitimate, general gripe and making it personal. 2 more points from Gryffindor for continuing to engage with the OP after he blocked you. And 3 points from Ravenclaw for claiming the OP is the one violating the block rule.
I’ll be in my chambers if anyone needs me. The password is lemon drops.
Seeing as I'm the one who mentioned potential issues with circumventing blocks in the forums, I suggest you reread what I actually said 🤷🏻♀️
I read what you wrote, @cuddlefaery. But If you have a good reason for directing your « FYI » toward @weluvcuddles and not toward @CarrieCo, I am afraid I don’t see it.
@MonkeyNeedsAHug I never blocked him, he blocked me initially after I sent him a screenshot of my profile because he cant read, and today he then tagged me multiple times.
Yall complain about pros not responding to your messages, but when we do, this is how we are treated, you really don’t want us to win.
Harry Potter is transphobic, so I can’t align with any of your point systems.
Lastly, I’ve never done anything wrong in my life, stay blessed and bless your heart!
I’m going to sign off to grieve the loss of my last grandparent today, you guys can leave me out of this from this point forward, today I’m the one who needs extra care.
That’s my point, @CarrieCo .
The man blocked you. Then you came onto this thread and started claiming it was a play about you. Let it go.
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@MonkeyNeedsAHug is correct. All of that being said, ya’ll should really make amends and virtually hug 🤗 it out ✌️
If pros offer different options (guest, host), I don't consider it deceitful to charge an additional fee for the option which costs them more money. It doesn't make sense to expect someone to pay $200 for a hotel room to host a 1 hour cuddle. You don't order delivery from a restaurant and then get upset that you are charged for the delivery. The only pros that I have seen who do not charge for hosting are either hosting from their home (although I think this is risky) or maybe have several cuddles lined up for a day where the cost of the room is diluted enough over several hours of cuddles that it makes sense. I have also had local pros I have seen reach out to me and tell me that they have a room already booked in a hotel, do I want to come have a cuddle there when I'm also not charged a hosting fee, but that's a special case. Finally, I don't understand why people have issues with pros messaging a client directly to start a conversation. I actually like it. If you don't want to engage with that pro, you have no obligation to do so.
So, to the OPs point, I understand the frustration. However, if a pro states clearly in her profile that she charges a hosting fee (or a travel fee etc), then she's being open and transparent about it.
But the ones that dont mention additional fees until one tries to set up a booking is something to be justifiably irritated about. Undisclosed fees rub me the wrong way too.
@MonkeyNeedsAHug ok, so if the password is lemon drops, then is there a safe word too?
It's about the pros who put down they host but then go on to state it's a clients responsibility to arrange for a hotel. That's not them hosting. That's me hosting.
Ah. Yes, agreed. That's a horse with lemon drops.
I guess it depends if the cuddler has specified in her profile that she can be either guest or host, and if she hosts there is an additional fee I don't see that being an issue.
If she says that she only hosts, but then adds a hosting fee, I could see how that could be perceived as deceptive. I also agree with your point that if a cuddler says that the client has the responsibility of getting a hotel, that is the client hosting, not the pro.
@weluvcuddles There are only 3 options. Host, guest, or public. If you yourself are hosting, that’s when they are a guest. Public, not sure what anybody uses this for, I haven’t yet, but a hotel room wouldn’t be public, it’s private lol. Therefore the only option left, is Host. Just because it’s not their personal home, doesn’t mean they’re not hosting. They’re arranging the place for you to go to. So either be the host yourself, or go to the trouble of … reading profiles, and find a pro you want to meet. As other people have stated there are many reasons pros would use hotels instead of allowing STRANGERS into their personal space. It’s a very weird thing for you to be publicly complaining about imo.
@VAdude if that were the case they should probably be charging even more/hr to pay for that cost. You’re paying for it either way, and I’m assuming, because we don’t know what this person has on their profile exactly, that she charges less to be a guest, because she can’t or doesn’t want to host in her personal space. Any reason she has, is valid.
I had a situation once a few years ago where a pro was visiting from out of town. Her hosting rate and her guest rate were different which was reflected in her profile. When she sent me a proposal, it was for her guest rate. I think I was so happy about the booking that I didn’t think about the price difference. When I arrived, she gave me a different price which was slightly higher. I never felt like she was trying to be shady at all. I think it was an honest mistake. She apologized and said, well what if we split the difference which is what we did. She actually did go to the booking on the site and correct it so this is how I can confirm that she wasn’t being shady. I ended up having one of the best cuddle sessions that I ever had and I still feel a little bad that we split the difference. Knowing how great the experience was, I would have happily given her the full amount.
Anyway, pros can host how they wish and they can charge a fee if they wish. It’s up to the client to decide whether it’s a wise or unwise financial decision for them. If you booked and there was no indication of a booking fee and when you arrive, she tried to charge you more and said it was a booking fee, that’s not okay. Otherwise, I think you should let it go.